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YEMUZ Nevzat Tarak\u00e7\u0131<\/strong><\/p>\n Nex\u0131j[1]<\/a> tan\u0131r\u0131m; bilgi, birikim, ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fc ve tevazusuyla toplumuna model<\/strong> olan. \u00d6YLE \u201cNEXIJ\u201d LAR DA TANIRIM K\u0130\u2026 DAHA DA GAR\u0130B\u0130 BU KADAR DA OLMAZ K\u0130! MUTLU MUSUN EY NEXIJ! NEXIJLAR THAMADE G\u0130B\u0130 DAVRANAB\u0130LSE VUR ABALIYA! SAYGIYLA\u2026 TEMENN\u0130 [1]<\/a> NEXIJ:\u00a0Genellikle sayg\u0131n ki\u015fili\u011fi olan daha ya\u015fl\u0131 kimse.\u00a0Nex\u0131j ile thamada kavramlar\u0131 birbiriyle kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmamak gerekir. Thamade ile NEXIJ belirli g\u00f6revde, zamanda ve ki\u015fide \u00f6rt\u00fc\u015febilir. Ancak Thamade hi\u00e7bir zaman Nex\u0131j de\u011fildir. Nex\u0131j da Thamade de\u011fildir.
\nNex\u0131jlar tan\u0131r\u0131m; bak\u0131\u015f\u0131, duru\u015fu,<\/strong> sesi ve nefesiyle \u00e7evresine g\u00fcven veren.
\n<\/strong>\u00c7ok nex\u0131j tan\u0131d\u0131m; \u00f6nder, lider, tarih haf\u0131zas\u0131, k\u00fclt\u00fcr aynas\u0131\u2026
\n<\/strong>\u00c7ok nex\u0131jlar tan\u0131d\u0131m; sevgi dolu, toplumunu s\u0131cac\u0131k kucaklayan, herkes\u00e7e say\u0131lan, sevilen\u2026<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>Ama \u00f6yle neh\u0131jlar da tan\u0131r\u0131m ki insana, \u201cKe\u015fke tan\u0131masayd\u0131m!\u201d<\/strong> dedirten.
\nKendisini hep thamade[2]<\/a><\/strong> sanan.
\nKoca bir \u00f6mr\u00fc \u015fi\u015fkin egosuyla<\/strong> hata sarmal\u0131nda t\u00fcketen.
\nSevgi ve samimiyetten uzak, bilgisiz, birikimsiz,<\/strong> mutsuz, huzursuz, haz\u0131ms\u0131z<\/strong>\u2026
\nToplumu kucaklamak bir yana; s\u0131n\u0131r tan\u0131maz egosu, t\u00fckenmez h\u0131rs\u0131<\/strong> ve iflah olmaz hasediyle \u00e7evresine, k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcne b\u00fcy\u00fck zarar veren.
\nYa\u015f\u0131ndan ba\u015fka hi\u00e7bir \u00f6zelli\u011fi olmayan ama her zaman her \u015feye kar\u0131\u015fan<\/strong>, bulundu\u011fu her ortamda, dernek ortam\u0131nda bile \u201cHer \u015feyi en iyi ben bilirim, <\/strong>her konuda son karar\u0131 ben veririm!\u201d diyecek kadar c\u00fcretk\u00e2r!<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>Bu yanl\u0131\u015fl\u0131klara dur demesi gereken di\u011fer nex\u0131j veya yeti\u015fkinlerin \u00e7o\u011funun, bu y\u0131k\u0131m kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndaki sessiz, etkisiz tav\u0131rlar\u0131 \u00e7ok daha garip.
\nToplumun genelini ilgilendiren, hayati \u00f6neme sahip toplant\u0131larda susmas\u0131, dinlemesi gereken ki\u015fi veya ki\u015filer, \u201cthamade maskesiyle\u201d<\/strong> egolar\u0131n\u0131 tatmin i\u00e7in toplumu yanl\u0131\u015f y\u00f6nlendirecek, y\u0131k\u0131ma neden olacak siz de \u201cxabze\u201d yi bahane ederek susacaks\u0131n\u0131z.
\nToplum da bu birka\u00e7 ki\u015finin elinde oyuncak olacak!
\nToplum; b\u00f6l\u00fcnecek, par\u00e7alanacak!
\n<\/strong>Sizce de bu i\u015fte bir yanl\u0131\u015fl\u0131k yok mu?<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>De\u011ferli bir b\u00fcy\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm anlat\u0131yor:
\n\u201cBizzat ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m, iliklerime kadar hissetti\u011fim, toplumumuza asla yak\u0131\u015fmayan, beni \u00e7ok \u00fczen\u00a0trajikomik bir olay<\/strong>\u0131 anlataca\u011f\u0131m size.\u201d
\n\u201cGe\u00e7mi\u015f g\u00fcn, derne\u011fimizde dernek se\u00e7imi yap\u0131lacak. Toplumumuzun\u00a0\u201cthamade\u201d dedi\u011fi ya\u015f\u0131 ilerlemi\u015f, sa\u00e7lar\u0131 k\u0131rla\u015fm\u0131\u015f<\/strong>\u00a0birka\u00e7 nex\u0131j, isti\u015fare etmeden, ahbap-\u00e7avu\u015f ili\u015fkisiyle, sen ba\u015fkan olacaks\u0131n, sizler de y\u00f6netim olun<\/strong>. Bu se\u00e7im b\u00f6yle yap\u0131ls\u0131n, bitsin!\u201d dediler.
\n\u201cAma nas\u0131l olur, bu bir emrivaki! B\u00f6yle se\u00e7im yap\u0131lmaz. \u0130sti\u015fare gerekir. B\u0131rak\u0131n, kendine g\u00fcvenen herkes aday olsun! Her aday;\u00a0ekibi, projesi ve program\u0131yla<\/strong>\u00a0\u00fcyelerin kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131na \u00e7\u0131ks\u0131n.\u00a0\u00dcyeler karar versin.<\/strong>\u00a0Dernekte hizmet \u00fcretebilmek i\u00e7in iyi bir ekip \u015fart! diyenler olduysa da bu kendilerini\u00a0sayg\u0131n \u2018tahamade\u2019<\/strong>\u00a0kabul eden iki \u00fc\u00e7 nax\u0131j, g\u00fcl\u00fcp ge\u00e7ti.\u201d
\n\u201cBu ak\u0131l almaz tavr\u0131n, bu fevrili\u011fin,\u00a0bu bencilli\u011fin, bu \u00fcslupsuzlu\u011fun<\/strong>\u00a0ne kadar yanl\u0131\u015f oldu\u011funu, bu dayatman\u0131n topluma, k\u00fclt\u00fcre ne kadar b\u00fcy\u00fck zarar verece\u011fini \u00e7ok iyi bilen\u00a0samimi bir grup \u00fcye,<\/strong>\u00a0\u2018\u0130\u015f ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc, biz de aday\u0131z, y\u00f6netime talibiz, i\u015fte program\u0131n\u0131z, i\u015fte projelerimiz, i\u015fte ekibimiz!\u2019 diyerek toplumumuzun huzuruna \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131.\u201d
\n\u201cAman Allah\u2019\u0131m, bunu diyen siz misiniz,\u00a0siz kim oluyorsunuz da<\/strong>\u00a0\u2018tahamade\u2019 lere kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yorsunuz, heynape!\u201d
\n\u201cBu ne c\u00fcret, siz kimsiniz, siz ne \u2018xabze\u2019 ne de \u2018thamede\u2019 biliyorsunuz, siz toplumu b\u00f6l\u00fcyorsunuz, diyerek k\u0131yamet kopartt\u0131lar.\u201d
\n<\/strong>\u201cHem onlar se\u00e7ilirse dernekte bira i\u00e7erler<\/strong>, dernek bo\u015f \u015fi\u015felerden ge\u00e7ilmez hale gelir hem namaz k\u0131lmayan da var <\/strong>onlar\u0131n aras\u0131nda, zinhar olmaz bu i\u015f!\u201d diyerek bu nex\u0131jlar, kalabal\u0131k gruplar halinde se\u00e7men ailelerini kap\u0131 kap\u0131 dola\u015farak oy istedi, se\u00e7im propagandas\u0131 yapt\u0131.
\n\u201cNeticede se\u00e7imleri bu nax\u0131jlar, \u201cs\u00f6zde thamadeler\u201d kaybetti.\u201d
\n\u201cSonras\u0131nda yine ak\u0131l almaz dedikodular, iftiralar\u2026\u201d
\n\u201cAsl\u0131 astar\u0131 olmayan dedikodulardan, yalandan, hasetten ne \u00e7\u0131kar demeyin, bu iki \u00fc\u00e7 nex\u0131j, \u00e7ok ki\u015fiyi dernekten so\u011futtu, nex\u0131jlara itibar\u0131 zedeledi, toplum b\u00f6l\u00fcnd\u00fc. <\/strong>Bu birka\u00e7 nax\u0131j; her toplant\u0131y\u0131, her bulu\u015fmay\u0131, her cenaze ve d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc bahane ederek se\u00e7imi kazanan yeni y\u00f6neticileri ele\u015ftirdi durdu.
\n\u201cYetmedi, bu zevat,\u00a0torunlar\u0131<\/strong>\u00a0ya\u015f\u0131ndaki ki\u015filerin evlerine, i\u015fyerlerine giderek\u00a0y\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 ele\u015ftirilerini<\/strong> oralarda da insafs\u0131zca s\u00fcrd\u00fcrd\u00fc.\u201d
\n\u201cDerken ekilen nefret ve haset tohumlar\u0131<\/strong> meyvesini verdi, huzursuzluk ve g\u00fcvensizlik artt\u0131, toplum ayr\u0131\u015ft\u0131, b\u00f6l\u00fcnd\u00fc.\u201d
\n\u201cPeki, di\u011fer neh\u0131jlar, thamade namzetleri<\/strong> ne mi yap\u0131yor?
\n\u201cElbette bu durumdan \u00e7ok rahats\u0131z olan nax\u0131jlar var. Ama \u00e7o\u011funun sesi \u00e7\u0131km\u0131yor. Di\u011ferleri de hi\u00e7bir \u015fey olmam\u0131\u015f gibi dernekte \u00e7ay i\u00e7iyor,<\/strong> y\u0131k\u0131m\u0131 seyrediyor!
\n\u201cSonu\u00e7ta ne mi oldu,\u00a0denizi ge\u00e7en derne\u011fimiz derede bo\u011fuldu<\/strong>!\u201d<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>Toplumun, ya\u015f\u0131ndan dolay\u0131 g\u00f6sterdi\u011fi sayg\u0131y\u0131 hak etmeyen nex\u0131jlar!
\n<\/strong>Bu yanl\u0131\u015flara m\u00fcdahale pozisyonunda olmas\u0131na ra\u011fmen susan di\u011fer nex\u0131jlar!
\n<\/strong>Toplumu peri\u015fan eden<\/strong> bu durumdan dolay\u0131 hi\u00e7 mi vicdan\u0131n\u0131z s\u0131zlam\u0131yor?
\nSiz, derne\u011fin patronu gibi davran\u0131rken,
\nBu tavr\u0131n\u0131z, gen\u00e7leri dernekten uzakla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131rken\u2026
\nXabzeyi ipotek alt\u0131na alma<\/strong> gayretiniz, rahats\u0131zl\u0131k vermiyor mu size?
\nToplum savrulurken, k\u00fclt\u00fcr yok olurken huzurunuz yerinde mi?
\nMutlu musunuz?
\n<\/strong>Hi\u00e7 mi s\u0131zlam\u0131yor vicdan\u0131n\u0131z?<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>Nex\u0131jlar\u0131m\u0131za yak\u0131\u015fan thamade gibi ya\u015famak.
\nYani, topluma model olmak, olas\u0131 tart\u0131\u015fma ve ayr\u0131\u015fmalarda<\/strong> hakem g\u00f6revi \u00fcstlenerek \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm \u00fcretmek.
\nHo\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fc ve samimiyetle toplumu kucaklamak.
\nYa bir de bu nex\u0131jlar\u0131n, taraf oldu\u011funu, toplumu birle\u015ftirmek yerine ayr\u0131\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131<\/strong>, daha da k\u00f6t\u00fcs\u00fc di\u011fer baz\u0131 nex\u0131jlar\u0131n da seyirci oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnsenize?<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>Yok yok, su\u00e7lu yine gen\u00e7ler!
\n\u201cKral \u00e7\u0131plak!\u201d<\/strong> demek kimin haddine!
\nBiz yine gen\u00e7leri ele\u015ftirelim!
\n<\/strong>\u201cSizi gidi dil bilmezler, xabzeden anlamazlar<\/strong>!\u201d diyerek gen\u00e7leri k\u0131r\u0131p d\u00f6kelim!
\n\u201cBiz bu gen\u00e7lere ne kadar \u00f6rnek olabildik, onlara ne kadar g\u00fcvendik, ne imk\u00e2nlar sunabildik\u2026<\/strong> demeyi akl\u0131m\u0131za bile getirmeden\u2026
\nG\u00fcc\u00fcm\u00fcz gen\u00e7lere yetsin!<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>Bilgisi, birikimi, sevgisi ve samimiyetiyle toplumunun birliktelik ve uyumu i\u00e7in \u00e7aba harcayan sayg\u0131de\u011fer nex\u0131jlar\u0131m\u0131za,\u00a0de\u011ferli thamadelerimize sayg\u0131lar\u0131mla\u2026
\n<\/strong>\u0130yi ki vars\u0131n\u0131z!<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>Ya\u015fl\u0131s\u0131, genci, kad\u0131n\u0131, erke\u011fi, xabzesi, thamadesiyle<\/strong> hep birlikte tarihine, k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcne, diline<\/strong> ve kimli\u011fine sahip \u00e7\u0131kabilen bir toplum olabilme temennisiyle.<\/p>\n
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