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YEMUZ Nevzat Tarak\u00e7\u0131<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00c7erkes k\u0131z\u0131, \u00c7erkes delikanl\u0131s\u0131 olmak\u2026 ZORDUR ZORU BA\u015eARANLAR YA YET\u0130\u015eK\u0130N OLMAK? Y\u00d6NET\u0130C\u0130 OLMAK KOLAY MI? YEMUZ Nevzat Tarakçı Çerkes kızı, Çerkes delikanlısı olmak… Hayatı “xabze” kurallarıyla adımlamak. Kuralsızlığın kural sanıldığı gençlik döneminde bu kurallara bağlı yaşamak. Özgürlük duygusunun ruh ve bedeni çepeçevre sardığı bir yaşta “sınırları, kırmızı çizgileri” kabullenmek. Yaşça büyüklerin söylem ve eylemlerinin vazgeçilmez doğrular olduğu gerçeğine(!) kabullenebilmek. Kurallar manzumesi “xabze” yi baş tacı edebilmek, Kimlik ve kültür bilinciyle 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\nHayat\u0131 \u201cxabze\u201d kurallar\u0131yla<\/strong> ad\u0131mlamak.
\nKurals\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n kural san\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131 gen\u00e7lik d\u00f6neminde bu kurallara<\/strong> ba\u011fl\u0131 ya\u015famak.
\n\u00d6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck duygusunun<\/strong> ruh ve bedeni \u00e7epe\u00e7evre sard\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir ya\u015fta \u201cs\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131, k\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 \u00e7izgileri\u201d<\/strong> kabullenmek.
\nYa\u015f\u00e7a b\u00fcy\u00fcklerin<\/strong> s\u00f6ylem ve eylemlerinin vazge\u00e7ilmez do\u011frular oldu\u011fu ger\u00e7e\u011fine(!) kabullenebilmek.
\nKurallar manzumesi \u201cxabze\u201d yi ba\u015f tac\u0131 edebilmek<\/strong>,
\nKimlik ve k\u00fclt\u00fcr bilinciyle ya\u015fayabilmek\u2026<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>Zordur, hep kar\u015f\u0131nda bir j\u00fcri<\/strong> varm\u0131\u015f gibi ya\u015famak.
\nZordur, hayat\u0131n her karesinde \u201cSen \u00c7ekes k\u0131z\u0131s\u0131n, \u00c7erkes delikanl\u0131s\u0131s\u0131n senin yanl\u0131\u015f yapma l\u00fcks\u00fcn olamaz!\u201d<\/strong> telkiniyle yol almak.
\nZordur, her an ele\u015ftirilecekmi\u015f, k\u0131r\u0131l\u0131verecekmi\u015f gibi<\/strong> y\u00fcr\u00fcmek.
\nZordur, herkesi \u00f6nemsemek ama \u201cBen, hi\u00e7 kimse taraf\u0131ndan \u00f6nemsenmiyorum!<\/strong>\u201d duygusunu hissetmek.
\nZordur anla\u015f\u0131lamamak.
\n<\/strong>Zordur \u201cSen ne d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorsun bu konuda, fikrin nedir?<\/strong>\u201d diye sorulmamak.
\nDavran\u0131\u015f ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce yap\u0131s\u0131<\/strong> olarak b\u00fcy\u00fcklere benzememekle su\u00e7lanmak.
\nZordur, farkl\u0131 duygu ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerinizin al\u0131c\u0131 bulmamas\u0131.
\n\u00c7o\u011fu zaman sesinizin bo\u015flukta yank\u0131lanmas\u0131.
\nZordur derneklerde sandalye ta\u015f\u0131mak.
\n<\/strong>Dernek y\u00f6netimince ciddiye al\u0131nmamak.
\nAtt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z her ad\u0131m\u0131n izlenmesi, g\u00f6zlenmesi\u2026
\nZordur itaatsizlikle su\u00e7lanmak.
\nBu kar\u0131\u015f\u0131k duygular i\u00e7inde ayakta kalmak!<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>Zordur, gelece\u011fin parlak ufku<\/strong> olma d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesini ta\u015f\u0131mak.
\nZordur, her t\u00fcrl\u00fc olumsuzlu\u011fa ra\u011fmen umut olmak.
\n<\/strong>K\u0131r\u0131lmamak, g\u00fccenmemek, k\u00fcsmemek\u2026
\n<\/strong>Her \u015feye ra\u011fmen sayg\u0131da kusur etmemek, kimsenin y\u00fcre\u011fine bile\u011fine basmamak.
\n<\/strong>Zordur \u201cKe\u015fke\u201d<\/strong> leri de\u011fil \u201cgelece\u011fi\u201d<\/strong> konu\u015fmak.
\nZoru ba\u015farmak.
\nZordur, gencecikken tam da ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131zda kavak yelleri eserken<\/strong>, akranlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n akl\u0131 bir kar\u0131\u015f havadayken<\/strong> k\u00fclt\u00fcr ve kimlik bilinciyle ya\u015famak.<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>Peki yeti\u015fkin \u00c7erkes olmak kolay m\u0131?
\nHem yeti\u015fkin olmak hem de gen\u00e7lerin s\u00f6z, yetki ve karar merkezlerine<\/strong> daha fazla kat\u0131lmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fine inanmak ama bu konuda s\u00f6z s\u00f6yleyememek, eyleme ge\u00e7ememek.
\nZordur, \u201cGen\u00e7ler, kendilerini ifade etmek, \u00f6zg\u00fcrce benliklerini geli\u015ftirmek ve sunmak ister.\u201d Ger\u00e7e\u011fini bilmek ama empati kuramamak.
\n<\/strong>Model olamamak\u2026<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>Yetkili olmak kolay m\u0131 sanki?
\nHi\u00e7 de kolay de\u011fil y\u00f6netici olmak!
\n<\/strong>Gen\u00e7lerin her \u015feyden \u00f6nce kendilerine g\u00fcven duyulmas\u0131n\u0131 istediklerini, gelecek kayg\u0131s\u0131<\/strong>, maddi yetersizlik, \u00e7arp\u0131k e\u011fitim sistemi<\/strong>, toplum bask\u0131s\u0131 ve daha pek \u00e7ok konuda rahats\u0131z olduklar\u0131n\u0131 bilmek ama buna ra\u011fmen \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm \u00fcretememek<\/strong>, susmak hatta yer yer \u00fc\u00e7 maymunlar\u0131<\/strong> oynamak.
\nZordur \u00e7aresiz, \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcms\u00fcz kalmak.
\n\u00c7ok zordur duyarl\u0131 insan<\/strong> olmak!
\nDuyarl\u0131 insan say\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n artmas\u0131 temennisiyle.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"