{"id":2160,"date":"2019-02-22T16:54:13","date_gmt":"2019-02-22T16:54:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/circassiancenter.com\/tr\/?p=2160"},"modified":"2019-02-22T16:54:13","modified_gmt":"2019-02-22T16:54:13","slug":"yeni-nesil-xabze-kurallari","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/yeni-nesil-xabze-kurallari\/","title":{"rendered":"YEN\u0130 NES\u0130L XABZE KURALLARI"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span class=\"auto-style83\" lang=\"tr\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: small;\"><strong>TLETSERUK Nahit Serbes<\/strong><br \/>\n<\/span><\/span><span style=\"font-family: Arial;\">12.04.2011<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: small;\">En ilkel kabilelerden en b\u00fcy\u00fck imparatorluklara kadar her toplumun kendi nezaket ve g\u00f6rg\u00fc kurallar\u0131 vard\u0131r. Her toplum, insan ili\u015fkilerini d\u00fczenleyen kurallar\u0131 bir nesilden di\u011ferine sessizce aktararak gelenekler olu\u015fturmu\u015ftur.<\/p>\n<p>Bir arada ya\u015faman\u0131n yolunu ve yordam\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fczenleyen g\u00f6rg\u00fc kurallar\u0131 her k\u00fclt\u00fcrde farkl\u0131l\u0131k g\u00f6sterir; temelde o toplumun hayata bak\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 yans\u0131t\u0131r ve toplumsal de\u011fi\u015fime paralel olarak yeni bi\u00e7imler al\u0131r.<br \/>\nSon y\u0131llarda teknoloji o kadar h\u0131zl\u0131 geli\u015fti ki hayat\u0131m\u0131za giren cep telefonu ve bilgisayarlar\u0131n de\u011fi\u015ftirdi\u011fi davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n hangisinin nezaket kurallar\u0131 i\u00e7inde hangisinin d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda oldu\u011funu bile fark edemedik.<\/p>\n<p>Bence art\u0131k yeni d\u00f6nemin g\u00f6rg\u00fc kurallar\u0131n\u0131 tart\u0131\u015fma zaman\u0131 geldi.<br \/>\nAnl\u0131yorum ki \u00e7o\u011fumuz i\u00e7inde ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z d\u00f6nemdeki g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckten rahats\u0131zl\u0131k duymaktay\u0131z.<\/p>\n<p>Bu nedenle aff\u0131n\u0131za s\u0131\u011f\u0131narak olu\u015fturdu\u011fum baz\u0131 kurallar\u0131 a\u015fa\u011f\u0131da s\u0131ral\u0131yorum:<\/p>\n<p><b>1. <\/b>Bir toplant\u0131 s\u0131ras\u0131nda bilgisayarda kendii\u015flerini yapmak g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<br \/>\n<b>2. <\/b>Bir toplant\u0131da, sinema ya da konser gibi bir ortamda cep telefonunu sessize almamak g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<br \/>\n<b>3. <\/b>Bir toplant\u0131da cep telefonuyla zorunlu bir mesaj yaz\u0131labilir ya da be\u015f on saniyeyi ge\u00e7meyecek bir g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fme yap\u0131labilir; ama bunu tekrarlamak g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<br \/>\n<b>4.<\/b> Bir toplant\u0131da, arkada\u015f ve aile bulu\u015fmas\u0131nda cep telefonuyla &#8220;oynamak&#8221; g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<br \/>\n<b>5.<\/b> Toplant\u0131y\u0131 y\u00f6netenlerin toplant\u0131y\u0131 gere\u011finden fazla uzatmalar\u0131, toplant\u0131ya kat\u0131lanlar\u0131n zaman\u0131n\u0131 bo\u015fa harcamak demektir; g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<br \/>\n<b>6. <\/b>Toplant\u0131 ve randevulara gecikmek g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<br \/>\n<b>7.<\/b> Randevu alm\u0131\u015f birisini kabul ettikten sonra onu bekletip ba\u015fka i\u015flerle ilgilenmek g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<br \/>\n<b>8.<\/b> Toplant\u0131ya kat\u0131l\u0131p konu\u015fulanlar\u0131 dinlememek g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<br \/>\n<b>9. <\/b>Bir y\u00f6neticinin toplant\u0131y\u0131 ya da bir i\u015f g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmesini ast-\u00fcst ili\u015fkisi \u00e7er\u00e7evesine sokup insanlar\u0131 sindirmesi, korku salmas\u0131 g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<b><br \/>\n10. <\/b>E postalarda ba\u015ftan savma ve laubali bir dil kullanmak g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<br \/>\n<b>11.<\/b> Toplant\u0131y\u0131 ba\u015fka bir i\u015f nedeniyle b\u00f6lmek, insanlar\u0131 bekletmek g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<br \/>\n<b>12.<\/b> Bir toplant\u0131y\u0131, son anda, \u00e7ok zorunlu bir sebep olmaks\u0131z\u0131n iptal etmek g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<br \/>\n<b>13.<\/b> \u00d6nceden iptal olmu\u015f toplant\u0131lar\u0131 kat\u0131l\u0131mc\u0131lara zaman\u0131nda bildirmemek g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<br \/>\n<b>14.<\/b> Toplant\u0131da gruptan koparak yan\u0131ndakiyle konu\u015fmak, f\u0131s\u0131ldamak g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<\/p>\n<p>Baz\u0131 \u00fcnl\u00fc sosyologlar nezaket kurallar\u0131n\u0131n sanal d\u00fcnyada da ge\u00e7erli oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorlar. Bizim listemize onlar\u0131n katk\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 da eklemek istedim.<\/p>\n<p><b>15.<\/b> Ayak\u00fcst\u00fc tan\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z birisine, ertesi sabah bir sosyal payla\u015f\u0131m sitesinde \u201carkada\u015fl\u0131k teklif etmek\u201d g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<br \/>\n<b>16.<\/b> Foto\u011fraf alb\u00fcmlerinizdeki ki\u015fileri kendilerine sormadan yay\u0131nlamak ya da isimlendirmek g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<br \/>\n<b>17.<\/b> Sosyal payla\u015f\u0131m sitelerinde, a\u00e7\u0131k olarak arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131zla sohbet etmek g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<br \/>\n<b>18.<\/b> Resmi ili\u015fki i\u00e7inde oldu\u011funuz insanlarla sanal \u00e2lemde gereksiz bir samimiyet i\u00e7ine girmek g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<br \/>\n<b>19.<\/b> Arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131za kendi grubunuzu, internet sitenizi mutlaka be\u011fenmeleri i\u00e7in \u0131srar etmek g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<br \/>\n<b>20.<\/b> Sosyal payla\u015f\u0131m sitelerini, i\u00e7inizi bo\u015faltmak ya da mahrem d\u00fcnyan\u0131z\u0131 payla\u015fmak i\u00e7in kullanmak g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<br \/>\n<b>21.<\/b> Arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131za ki\u015fisel bir not iletmek i\u00e7in Facebook duvar\u0131n\u0131 kullanmak g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<br \/>\n<b>22. <\/b>Yak\u0131n olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z bir arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n do\u011fum g\u00fcn\u00fcnde onun Facebook duvar\u0131na laubali mesajlar yazmak g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<br \/>\n<b>23.<\/b> Takma bir ad\u0131n arkas\u0131na gizlenip, Facebook\u2019ta, arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131zla kavga etmek, \u015fiddet kusmak g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<br \/>\n<b>24.<\/b> Toplu mail g\u00f6nderirken ki\u015filerin mail adreslerini gizlememek g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<br \/>\n<b>25. <\/b>Toplumsal bir tart\u0131\u015fma yaratmak amac\u0131 ta\u015f\u0131mayan e-postalarda sadece g\u00f6ndereni yan\u0131tlamak yerine toplu cevap vermek g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<br \/>\n<b>26.<\/b> Sizi arayan ki\u015filere ya da e-posta yollayanlara cevap vermemek g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<br \/>\n<b>27.<\/b> \u201cBu e postay\u0131 hemen on ki\u015fiye g\u00f6nderirsen dile\u011fin ger\u00e7ekle\u015fecek, g\u00f6ndermezsen lanetleneceksin.\u201d k\u0131vam\u0131nda e-postalar yollamak g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<br \/>\n<b>28.<\/b> Sosyal payla\u015f\u0131m sitelerinde \u00fcnl\u00fclerin ad\u0131n\u0131 kullanarak hesap a\u00e7mak g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<br \/>\n<b>29. <\/b>Savundu\u011fu politik g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fc destekleyen bir e posta al\u0131nca bunun do\u011fru olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 hi\u00e7 ara\u015ft\u0131rmadan ilgili ilgisiz herkese g\u00f6ndermek g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<br \/>\n<b>30.<\/b> Gelen e-postay\u0131 olu\u015fturdu\u011funuz bir arkada\u015f listesine, hi\u00e7bir filtre etmeden iletmek, bu davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 da sosyalle\u015fme zannetmek g\u00f6rg\u00fcs\u00fczl\u00fckt\u00fcr.<\/p>\n<p>\u0130yi ve kal\u0131c\u0131 ili\u015fkiler kurman\u0131n hem \u00f6zel hem i\u015f hayat\u0131m\u0131zdaki mutluluk ve ba\u015far\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n \u00f6n ko\u015fulu oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorum. Y\u00fcz y\u00fcze ili\u015fkilerimizde de sanal ortamdaki ili\u015fkilerimizde de \u201cd\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceli\u201d davranman\u0131n \u201cempati kurman\u0131n\u201d son derece \u00f6nemli oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorum. G\u00f6rg\u00fcl\u00fc olman\u0131n sadece bi\u00e7imsel de\u011fil, \u00f6ze ili\u015fkin bir konu oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorum.<\/p>\n<p>G\u00f6rg\u00fcl\u00fc olmak sadece hangi k\u0131yafetin nerede giyilece\u011fi ya da hangi yemekle hangi \u015farab\u0131n i\u00e7ilece\u011fiyle s\u0131n\u0131rl\u0131 de\u011fil. Kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdakilere d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceli, sayg\u0131l\u0131 ve nazik davranmak \u00c7erkeslerin bir ya\u015fam bi\u00e7imidir. G\u00f6rg\u00fcl\u00fc olmak hayat\u0131n her alan\u0131nda, selamla\u015fmadan \u00f6z\u00fcr dilemeye, te\u015fekk\u00fcr etmekten fikir tart\u0131\u015fmas\u0131 yapmaya kadar her ayr\u0131nt\u0131ya nezaket ve estetik katmakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>\u0130li\u015fkilerimize estetik bir derinlik katmak insana verdi\u011fimiz de\u011ferin bir yans\u0131mas\u0131d\u0131r. Bu \u00e7a\u011f\u0131n g\u00f6rg\u00fc kurallar\u0131n eskiye k\u0131yasla daha i\u00e7ten, daha samimi ve resmiyetten uzak bir ger\u00e7ek\u00e7ilik i\u00e7inde olmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorum.<\/p>\n<p>Yukar\u0131daki liste elbette sadece bir \u00f6nermedir. Maddeleri yukar\u0131dakilerle s\u0131n\u0131rl\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 gibi bu liste de\u011fi\u015fmez de de\u011fildir. Baz\u0131lar\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kabilir, yenileri eklenebilir. Ancak \u015funu biliyorum ki bu kurallar\u0131 \u00f6nce kendimiz uygulamal\u0131 ve mutlaka \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131za da g\u00fczel g\u00fczel \u00f6\u011fretmeliyiz.<\/p>\n<p>Yeni\u00e7a\u011f\u0131n \u00f6nc\u00fcleri bizleriz, bizden sonrakiler bizim sahiplenece\u011fimiz Xabze kurallar\u0131na g\u00f6re ya\u015fayacaklard\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p><\/span><span style=\"font-family: Arial;\"><b> Faydalan\u0131lan kaynak: <\/b>Temel Aksoy &#8211; Marketing Blog<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>TLETSERUK Nahit Serbes 12.04.2011 En ilkel kabilelerden en b&uuml;y&uuml;k imparatorluklara kadar her toplumun kendi nezaket ve g&ouml;rg&uuml; kurallar&#305; vard&#305;r. Her toplum, insan ili&#351;kilerini d&uuml;zenleyen kurallar&#305; bir nesilden di&#287;erine sessizce aktararak gelenekler olu&#351;turmu&#351;tur. Bir arada ya&#351;aman&#305;n yolunu ve yordam&#305;n&#305; d&uuml;zenleyen g&ouml;rg&uuml; kurallar&#305; her k&uuml;lt&uuml;rde farkl&#305;l&#305;k g&ouml;sterir; temelde o toplumun hayata bak&#305;&#351;&#305;n&#305; yans&#305;t&#305;r ve toplumsal de&#287;i&#351;ime paralel 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