{"id":2166,"date":"2019-02-22T16:56:32","date_gmt":"2019-02-22T16:56:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/circassiancenter.com\/tr\/?p=2166"},"modified":"2019-02-22T16:56:32","modified_gmt":"2019-02-22T16:56:32","slug":"siz-ne-kadar-sanslisiniz","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/siz-ne-kadar-sanslisiniz\/","title":{"rendered":"S\u0130Z NE KADAR \u015eANSLISINIZ?"},"content":{"rendered":"

TLETSERUK Nahit Serbes<\/span><\/span> <\/strong>
\n30<\/span><\/span>.06<\/span>.2011<\/span><\/p>\n

Neden baz\u0131 insanlar\u0131n hi\u00e7 \u015fans\u0131 yoktur, neden gittikleri tatile bile ya\u011fmur g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcrler de baz\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131n pa\u00e7as\u0131ndan \u015fans akar?<\/p>\n

Baz\u0131 insanlar her zaman d\u00f6rt ayaklar\u0131n\u0131n \u00fczerine d\u00fc\u015ferler. Onlar\u0131n hep do\u011fru zamanda do\u011fru yerde bulunmak gibi s\u0131ra d\u0131\u015f\u0131 bir \u201cyetenekleri\u201d vard\u0131r. \u015eanslar\u0131 \u00f6zel ve i\u015f hayatlar\u0131nda hep yaver gider. En iyi i\u015fler, en iyi teklifler onlar\u0131 bulur, en tatl\u0131 insanlarla onlar evlenir.<\/p>\n

Kimileri de hep \u015fanss\u0131zl\u0131klarla bo\u011fu\u015fur. Ne evlilikleri ne i\u015fleri ne de arkada\u015fl\u0131klar\u0131 yolundad\u0131r. Hayatlar\u0131 \u201cyol kazalar\u0131\u201d ile doludur.
\n\u015eansl\u0131 insanlarla \u015fans\u0131zlar\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131na gelenler aras\u0131nda temel farkl\u0131l\u0131klar vard\u0131r:<\/p>\n

Hayat, \u015fansl\u0131lara cazip f\u0131rsatlar sunar. \u015eanss\u0131z insanlar\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131na ise b\u00f6yle \u015feyler gelmez; aksine t\u00fcm \u015fanss\u0131zl\u0131klar onlar\u0131 bulur.
\n\u015eansl\u0131 insanlar hayatta hep do\u011fru kartlar\u0131 se\u00e7erler. Hangi karar\u0131n kendilerini ileriye g\u00f6t\u00fcrece\u011fini sanki birileri kulaklar\u0131na f\u0131s\u0131ldar. \u015eanss\u0131zlar neredeyse her se\u00e7imlerinde hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na u\u011frarlar.
\n\u015eansl\u0131 olanlar ama\u00e7lar\u0131na kolayca ula\u015f\u0131rlar, onlar bir \u015fey istedi\u011finde sanki t\u00fcm alem seferber olup bu iste\u011fin yerine getirilmesi i\u00e7in \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. \u015eanss\u0131zlar\u0131n ise i\u015fleri ters gider, hayalleri hep kursaklar\u0131nda kal\u0131r, tuttuklar\u0131 kurur, aksilikler pe\u015flerini b\u0131rakmaz.<\/p>\n

En \u00f6nemlisi, \u015fansl\u0131 insanlar baz\u0131 \u015fanss\u0131zl\u0131klar ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131nda bile ba\u015flar\u0131na geleni \u015fansa d\u00f6nd\u00fcrme yetene\u011fine sahiptirler. \u015eanss\u0131z insanlar ise \u015fanslar\u0131n\u0131 bile \u015fanss\u0131zl\u0131\u011fa \u00e7evirirler.<\/p>\n

\u015eans \u00fczerine \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan Psikolog Richard Wiseman, kendisini \u201c\u015fansl\u0131\u201d ve \u201c\u015fanss\u0131z\u201d g\u00f6ren ki\u015filerle yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 y\u00fczlerce deney ve g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fme sonunda \u015fans\u0131n asl\u0131nda bir tesad\u00fcf ya da kader olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ortaya koyan sonu\u00e7lar elde etti.<\/p>\n

Wiseman ve arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 deneylerde, kendilerini \u015fansl\u0131 olarak niteleyen insanlar\u0131n psikolojik yap\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131n \u015fanss\u0131zlara g\u00f6re \u00e7ok daha olumlu oldu\u011funu ortaya koydu. \u015eansl\u0131 insanlar\u0131n kafa yap\u0131lar\u0131, ruh halleri ve hayata kar\u015f\u0131 ald\u0131klar\u0131 tav\u0131r kendi f\u0131rsatlar\u0131n\u0131 yaratma ve bu f\u0131rsatlardan yararlanma \u00fczerine kurulu.<\/p>\n

Wiseman, g\u00f6zlem ve deneyleriyle \u015fansl\u0131 insanlar\u0131 \u015fanss\u0131zlardan ayr\u0131lan 4 temel \u00f6zellik oldu\u011funu tespit ediyor.<\/p>\n

1.<\/b> \u015eansl\u0131 insanlar f\u0131rsat yaratma ve \u00f6nlerine gelen f\u0131rsat\u0131 fark etme konusunda beceriklidirler.<\/p>\n

2. <\/b>\u015eansl\u0131lar hayata kar\u015f\u0131 rahatt\u0131rlar, i\u00e7 huzurlar\u0131 y\u00fcksek, endi\u015fe katsay\u0131lar\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fckt\u00fcr. Bu sebeple sezgilerini daha rahat dinlerler, kararlar\u0131 daha isabetli olur.<\/p>\n

3.<\/b> Gelecek beklentileri olumludur. Tutkular\u0131 ve hayalleri vard\u0131r. Gelece\u011fi de\u011fi\u015ftirme g\u00fcc\u00fcne sahip olduklar\u0131na inan\u0131rlar. Ald\u0131klar\u0131 kararlar bu inanc\u0131 hayata ge\u00e7irmek \u00fczerinedir. \u0130yimserlik en \u00f6nemli \u00f6zellikleridir.<\/p>\n

4. <\/b>\u015eanss\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u015fansa d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcren esnek bir yakla\u015f\u0131m benimserler. D\u00fc\u015ferler ama kalkmas\u0131n\u0131 bilirler. Depresyona girerler ama hemen toparlan\u0131rlar; hayata k\u00fcsmezler. Yeni yollar dener \u015fans\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u015fansa \u00e7evirecek bir yol bulurlar.<\/p>\n

Wiseman, kendilerini \u015fanss\u0131z olarak nitelendiren bir grup \u00fczerinde ilgin\u00e7 bir deney yapt\u0131. Bu insanlar\u0131n bir ay boyunca \u015fansl\u0131 bir insan gibi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcp davranmalar\u0131n\u0131 istedi. Yeni ortamlara girmelerini, deneyimlere a\u00e7\u0131k olmalar\u0131n\u0131, hayata kar\u015f\u0131 daha olumlu bir tav\u0131r benimsemelerini, daha d\u0131\u015fa d\u00f6n\u00fck, daha sosyal olmalar\u0131n\u0131, kendilerini rahat b\u0131rakmalar\u0131n\u0131 ve risk almalar\u0131n\u0131 istedi.<\/p>\n

Bu deneyin sonu\u00e7lar\u0131 \u00e7ok etkili oldu. G\u00f6n\u00fcll\u00fcler \u015fans f\u0131rsatlar\u0131n\u0131n neler oldu\u011funu ve \u015fans\u0131n kendilerine nas\u0131l yakla\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 fark ettiler. G\u00f6n\u00fcll\u00fclerin %80’i kendilerini daha mutlu ve \u201cdaha \u015fansl\u0131 insanlar\u201d olarak nitelediler.<\/p>\n

Bir bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131 insan\u0131n hayat\u0131n\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirebilir. Hayata, olaylara, sevdiklerimize, i\u015fimize hangi bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z nas\u0131l bir hayata sahip olaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 belirler. Hayat\u0131 nas\u0131l ele ald\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z, nas\u0131l bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bizi mutlu ya da mutsuz; \u015fansl\u0131 ya da \u015fanss\u0131z k\u0131labilir.<\/p>\n

Ben de Wiseman gibi, \u015fans\u0131n kendi zihnimizde, kendi tercihlerimizde oldu\u011funa inan\u0131yorum. \u0130stisnalar\u0131 bir kenara b\u0131rak\u0131rsak insanlar \u015fanslar\u0131n\u0131 kendileri yarat\u0131rlar. Kendi duygu ve davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131yla \u015fans\u0131 hayatlar\u0131na davet ederler ya da d\u0131\u015flarlar.<\/p>\n

\u00c7ok istisnai durumlarda bile insan\u0131n d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceleri ya\u015fayaca\u011f\u0131 hayat\u0131 belirleme g\u00fcc\u00fcne sahiptir. Engelli olanlar ya da son derece k\u00f6t\u00fc ko\u015fullar\u0131n h\u00fck\u00fcm s\u00fcrd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc Afrika\u2019daki gibi yoksullu\u011fun i\u00e7ine do\u011fmu\u015f olanlar bile hayata kar\u015f\u0131 tav\u0131r ve tutumlar\u0131yla \u015fanslar\u0131n\u0131 de\u011fi\u015febiliyorlar. Bu kadar k\u00f6t\u00fc ko\u015fullar alt\u0131nda bile benzerlerinden daha iyi bir konuma ge\u00e7ebiliyorlar.<\/p>\n

Kendilerini \u015fanss\u0131z olarak niteleyen insanlar\u0131n ilk g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fte fark edilen bir gerginlikleri vard\u0131r. Bu gerginlik hem bir sonu\u00e7tur hem de neden; \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc gergin olmak onlara yeni ili\u015fkilerin, yeni f\u0131rsatlar\u0131n, yeni \u015fanslar\u0131n kap\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 kapat\u0131r.<\/p>\n

\u015eansl\u0131 insanlar ise daha rahat ve a\u00e7\u0131kt\u0131rlar. Hayat\u0131 kucaklayarak ya\u015farlar. Alg\u0131lar\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131k, \u00e7evrede olan bitene merakl\u0131, yakla\u015f\u0131mlar\u0131 olumlu ve ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fcd\u00fcrler. \u0130\u00e7 seslerine daha \u00e7ok g\u00fcvenirler, m\u00fc\u015fk\u00fclpesent de\u011fildirler. Barda\u011f\u0131n dolu taraf\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rd\u00fckleri i\u00e7in daha h\u0131zl\u0131 karar al\u0131rlar, daha \u00e7ok risk al\u0131rlar.<\/p>\n

Olumlu tutumlar\u0131 sayesinde yeni olas\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131, yeni teklifleri ve f\u0131rsatlar\u0131 da kendilerine \u00e7ekerler. Daha \u00e7ok insanla tan\u0131\u015fmak, yeni olu\u015fumlar i\u00e7inde yer almak, farkl\u0131 ortamlara girmek, yeni projelere kat\u0131lmak onlara daha fazla \u015fans yarat\u0131r.<\/p>\n

\u015eansl\u0131 olan insanlar\u0131n \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli bir \u00f6zelli\u011fi daha vard\u0131r: Hayat\u0131 kendi isteklerine g\u00f6re de\u011fi\u015ftirebileceklerine inan\u0131rlar. Bu nedenle daha fazla \u00e7aba g\u00f6sterirler, daha \u00e7ok gayret ederler, daha \u00e7ok denerler. Sonu\u00e7 alamad\u0131klar\u0131 takdirde yeniden ba\u015flama g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fc bulurlar kendilerinde. Bu tutum onlar\u0131n \u015fanslar\u0131n\u0131 artt\u0131r\u0131r. Ki\u015fisel g\u00fc\u00e7leri, irade ve kararl\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131yla hayat\u0131 deneyerek \u00f6\u011frenirler.<\/p>\n

\u015eans\u0131z insanlar ise genelde karamsarl\u0131klar\u0131ndan ve hemen hayata k\u00fcst\u00fcklerinden daha az \u00e7aba g\u00f6sterirler, ikinci \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc denemeye giri\u015fmezler. Bir mazeret bulup vazge\u00e7erler, kendi \u015fanslar\u0131n\u0131 kendileri k\u00f6reltirler.<\/p>\n

Richard Wiseman\u2019\u0131n dedi\u011fi gibi \u201c\u015eans ilahi bir hediye ya da sihirli bir yetenek de\u011fildir. \u015eans, bir zihin durumu, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnme ve davranma bi\u00e7imidir. \u0130nsanlar \u015fansl\u0131 ya da \u015fanss\u0131z do\u011fmazlar. Duygular\u0131, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceleri ve davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131yla \u015fans\u0131 da \u015fanss\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131 da kendileri yarat\u0131rlar.”<\/p>\n

\u201cNe \u015fanss\u0131z bir insan\u0131m ben.\u201d derseniz, \u00f6yle olursunuz. Bu inanc\u0131n\u0131z “kendi kendini kan\u0131tlayan bir kehanet” gibi hayat\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 \u015fans\u0131zl\u0131kla doldurur.<\/p>\n

Belki kendilerini \u015fanss\u0131z g\u00f6renlerin Wiseman\u2019\u0131n bir ayl\u0131k deneyini hayatlar\u0131nda uygulamas\u0131 gerekir. Bence tav\u0131r ve davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirerek \u015fans\u0131 kendi hayat\u0131m\u0131za davet edebiliriz. Daha fazla gayret g\u00f6stererek daha \u00e7ok se\u00e7ene\u011fi deneyerek daha yarat\u0131c\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnerek daha anlaml\u0131 bir hayata kavu\u015fman\u0131n kap\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7abiliriz. Bence denemeye de\u011fer, ya sizce?
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\n<\/b><\/span> Faydalan\u0131lan kaynak: <\/span><\/b> Temel Aksoy<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

TLETSERUK Nahit Serbes 30.06.2011 Neden bazı insanların hiç şansı yoktur, neden gittikleri tatile bile yağmur götürürler de bazılarının paçasından şans akar? Bazı insanlar her zaman dört ayaklarının üzerine düşerler. Onların hep doğru zamanda doğru yerde bulunmak gibi sıra dışı bir “yetenekleri” vardır. Şansları özel ve iş hayatlarında hep yaver gider. 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