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TLETSERUK Nahit Serbes<\/strong> Bilginin ve g\u00f6rg\u00fcn\u00fcn en b\u00fcy\u00fck ara\u00e7 oldu\u011fu \u00e7a\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda, Xabze \u00fczerine her t\u00fcrl\u00fc enformasyonu payla\u015fmal\u0131y\u0131z. \u0130nsanl\u0131k tarihi boyunca en b\u00fcy\u00fck m\u00fccadele insanlar\u0131n kendi nefisleriyle olan amans\u0131z kavgas\u0131d\u0131r. Bu nedenle, Xabze k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcnde te\u015fekk\u00fcr ve \u00f6zr\u00fcn \u00f6nemi \u00fczerinde durmak istiyorum. Te\u015fekk\u00fcr etmek, yap\u0131lan bir i\u015f, g\u00f6sterilen \u00e7aba ya da nezaketten \u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fc duyulan minnetin, memnuniyetin, s\u00f6zl\u00fc bir ifadesidir. Bununla birlikte, \u00e7e\u015fitli sembolik ifadelerle veya sa\u011f el\u2019i kalbin \u00fcst\u00fcne g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcp, ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 a\u015fa\u011f\u0131ya do\u011fru hareket ettirmek sureti ile de te\u015fekk\u00fcr edilebilir. Te\u015fekk\u00fcr etmek, her dildeki en sade ama en g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc ifade tarz\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n D\u00fcnyan\u0131n her yerinde insanlar\u0131 \u201cTe\u015fekk\u00fcr ederim\u201d s\u00f6z\u00fcyle etkilemek, onlar\u0131n kalplerini kazanmak m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr. Te\u015fekk\u00fcr s\u00f6zc\u00fc\u011f\u00fc bir\u00e7ok dilde farkl\u0131 olsa da s\u00f6yleni\u015f amac\u0131 olarak ayn\u0131d\u0131r. Abazaca= Y\u0131tebup, \u00c7erkesce= Thavopsov, \u00c7e\u00e7ence= Barkal, G\u00fcrc\u00fcce= Madloba, K\u00fcrt\u00e7e= Sipas, Bask\u00e7a= Eskerrikasko, Arap\u00e7a= \u015e\u00fckran, Fars\u00e7a= M\u00fcte\u015fekkirem, Rus\u00e7a= Spasiba, Japonca= Arigato gibi.<\/p>\n Hayatta insanlar\u0131n paradan daha fazla istedi\u011fi tek \u015fey, takdir edilmektir. Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla, bir insana kendisini de\u011ferli hissettirmenin ilk ad\u0131m\u0131 ona yapt\u0131klar\u0131 i\u00e7in te\u015fekk\u00fcr etmek ve gerekti\u011finde ondan \u00f6z\u00fcr dilemesini bilmektir. \u201cTe\u015fekk\u00fcr ederim\u201d ile \u201c\u00d6z\u00fcr dilerim\u201d s\u00f6zleri do\u011fru zamanda ve i\u00e7tenlikle kullan\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda b\u00fct\u00fcn ili\u015fkilerimizde bir sihir etkisi yapacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n \u0130nsanlarla iyi ileti\u015fim kurman\u0131n temeli, onlara de\u011fer verdi\u011fimizi hissettirmektir. Bir ki\u015fiden \u00f6z\u00fcr dilemek ya da ona te\u015fekk\u00fcr etmek \u201cSen benim i\u00e7in \u00f6nemlisin\u201d anlam\u0131na gelmektedir.<\/p>\n Kimi insanlar hep hakl\u0131d\u0131rlar. Hi\u00e7bir konuda hata yapmazlar. Asla te\u015fekk\u00fcr etmezler. Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 takdir etmeyi ak\u0131llar\u0131na bile getirmezler. \u00d6zr\u00fc de te\u015fekk\u00fcr\u00fc de hep ba\u015fkalar\u0131ndan beklerler.<\/p>\n Bizim insan\u0131m\u0131z, \u00f6z\u00fcr dilemenin bir t\u00fcr yenilgi, te\u015fekk\u00fcr etmenin de kar\u015f\u0131 tarafa minnet etmek oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcp, farkl\u0131 baz\u0131 davran\u0131\u015flarla durumu idare etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r.<\/p>\n H\u00e2lbuki do\u011fru d\u00fczg\u00fcn \u00f6z\u00fcr dilemeyi de te\u015fekk\u00fcr etmeyi de \u00f6nce kendimiz \u00f6\u011frenmeliyiz, daha sonra da \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131za \u00f6\u011fretmeliyiz.<\/p>\n Olaya kendimizle bar\u0131\u015f\u0131k bir a\u00e7\u0131dan bakacak olursak, burada yaz\u0131lan pek \u00e7ok \u015fey ve burada anlatt\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z ne yaz\u0131k ki ger\u00e7ektir.<\/strong> Buna benzer ba\u015fka \u00f6rnekler de verilebilir, ama<\/strong> bu bir \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fc meselesidir, \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcy\u00fc ka\u00e7\u0131rmamak gerekir, \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fc ka\u00e7\u0131nca Xabze\u2019ye zarar vermektedir.<\/strong><\/p>\n Bir \u00f6rnek!<\/p>\n Kendi ba\u015f\u0131mdan ge\u00e7en bir olay:<\/p>\n \u0130nsanlara az \u00e7ok, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck b\u00fcy\u00fck demeden yard\u0131m etmeyi severim. Burada ad\u0131n\u0131 vermek istemedi\u011fim bir \u00fclkeye giderken, o \u00fclke vatanda\u015f\u0131 olan k\u0131sa boylu bir yak\u0131n\u0131m, T\u00fcrkiye\u2019den 42 numara burun taraf\u0131 diki\u015fsiz, derisi parlak, topuklar\u0131 7 cm olan siyah bir \u00e7ift ayakkab\u0131 sipari\u015f etmi\u015fti. Ayakkab\u0131c\u0131larda bu tip ayakkab\u0131 bulamad\u0131\u011f\u0131m i\u00e7in \u00f6zel alarak topuklar\u0131 7 cm. 42 numara kaliteli bir \u00e7ift ayakkab\u0131 yapt\u0131r\u0131p, g\u00f6t\u00fcrd\u00fcm. Arkada\u015f\u0131ma ayakkab\u0131lar\u0131 uzat\u0131nca, eline almak istemedi, masan\u0131n \u00fczerine b\u0131rak diyerek ilgiyi ba\u015fka y\u00f6ne \u00e7ekti. \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Birka\u00e7 g\u00fcn sonra tekrar u\u011fray\u0131p, ayakkab\u0131lar\u0131 be\u011fenip be\u011fenmedi\u011fini sordu\u011fumda: \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u201cS\u0131fayem fede xu\u011fep\u201d \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0(\u0130stedi\u011fim gibi olmad\u0131) dedi.<\/p>\n Ayn\u0131 \u00fclkeye ikinci defa gitmeden 15 g\u00fcn \u00f6nce, saf duygularla o ki\u015fiye yine telefonla bir ihtiyac\u0131 olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 sordu\u011fumda, bu sefer buzdolab\u0131n\u0131n kart\u0131n\u0131n yand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yledi, model ve numaras\u0131n\u0131 verdi\u011fi \u00fcnl\u00fc bir marka olan buzdolab\u0131n\u0131n kart\u0131n\u0131 istedi. O firman\u0131n merkezi \u0130stanbul\u2019dayd\u0131, oradan kart\u0131 sipari\u015f edip, Almanya\u2019dan getirttim ve gitti\u011fimde kart\u0131 kendisine verdim. Bu sefer resmen te\u015fekk\u00fcr bekledim ama yine \u00e7\u0131t yok. D\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcmden bir g\u00fcn \u00f6nce kendisinin yan\u0131na u\u011fray\u0131p, kart\u0131n buzdolab\u0131na uyum sa\u011flay\u0131p sa\u011flamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 sordu\u011fumda, kart\u0131n i\u015fe yaramad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yledi, \u00f6yle ise kart\u0131 iade et, ben de geri g\u00f6t\u00fcreyim dedim, dur eve bir soray\u0131m dedi. S\u00f6zde telefonla eve sorup, \u00e7al\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015f, \u00e7al\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015f diyerek i\u015fi basite indirgeyip ge\u00e7i\u015ftirdi ve yine de te\u015fekk\u00fcr etmedi.<\/p>\n O arkada\u015f\u0131m s\u0131radan cahil bir ki\u015fi de\u011fildi, f\u0131r\u0131n \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131ran, makine m\u00fchendisi olan, \u00fclkenin Cumhurba\u015fkan\u0131 ve Bakanlar\u0131yla oturup kalkan bir i\u015f adam\u0131yd\u0131. \u00dc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc seferinde kendisi bana telefon edip, f\u0131r\u0131n ar\u0131zaland\u0131 \u00e7al\u0131\u015fm\u0131yor, Bursa\u2019dan bana \u015fu- \u015fu par\u00e7alar\u0131 al ve gelirken mutlaka getir dedi. Ben de olmaz diyemedim, ama olur da demedim hi\u00e7bir \u015fey almadan tekrar o \u00fclkeye gittim. Benim geldi\u011fimi \u00f6\u011frenen o arkada\u015f yan\u0131ma u\u011fray\u0131p ho\u015f geldin dedikten sonra, sipari\u015f etti\u011fi par\u00e7alar\u0131 getirdi\u011fimi sand\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan, i\u015finin acele oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yleyip par\u00e7alar\u0131 istedi. Par\u00e7a falan getirmedi\u011fimi s\u00f6yledim. O da neden getirmedin, dedi. Daha \u00f6nce getirdiklerim i\u00e7in bir kere olsun te\u015fekk\u00fcr bile etmedin, o sebepten \u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fc getirmedim, \u00f6z\u00fcr dilemezsen, bundan sonra da getirmeyece\u011fim, dedim.<\/p>\n Bana bakt\u0131 ve ben te\u015fekk\u00fcr edip, \u00f6z\u00fcr dileyip kendimi k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrmem. Te\u015fekk\u00fcr etmek ay\u0131p de\u011fil mi? dedi.<\/p>\n Te\u015fekk\u00fcr etmek neden ay\u0131p olsun, te\u015fekk\u00fcr etmek, uygar insanlara yak\u0131\u015fan bir davran\u0131\u015ft\u0131r dedim. Fakat, kendisi bunu ya anlamakta zorland\u0131 ya da hi\u00e7 anlamak istemedi.<\/p>\n Asl\u0131nda, te\u015fekk\u00fcr etmek de \u00f6z\u00fcr dilemek de san\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan \u00e7ok daha b\u00fcy\u00fck etkileri olan iki b\u00fcy\u00fck g\u00fc\u00e7t\u00fcr. \u0130\u00e7tenlikle \u00f6zr\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc veya te\u015fekk\u00fcr\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc payla\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda, sadece kar\u015f\u0131 tarafa de\u011fil, kendimize de iyilik yapm\u0131\u015f oluruz.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" TLETSERUK Nahit Serbes 19.01.2014 Bilginin ve görgünün en büyük araç olduğu çağımızda, Xabze üzerine her türlü enformasyonu paylaşmalıyız. İnsanlık tarihi boyunca en büyük mücadele insanların kendi nefisleriyle olan amansız kavgasıdır. Bu nedenle, Xabze kültüründe teşekkür ve özrün önemi üzerinde durmak istiyorum. 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\n<\/span><\/span>19<\/span>.01.2014<\/span><\/p>\n