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YEMUZ Nevzat Tarak\u00e7\u0131<\/strong><\/p>\n Telefondaki ses, olduk\u00e7a yorgun ve bitkindi. NEREDES\u0130N EY \u00dcSLUP \u201cKESK\u0130N S\u0130RKE K\u00dcP\u00dcNE ZARAR\u201d AH KE\u015eKE! \u201cSEN, HERKES\u0130 K\u00d6R, \u00c2LEM\u0130 SERSEM M\u0130 SANIRSIN?\u201d YEMUZ Nevzat Tarakçı Telefondaki ses, oldukça yorgun ve bitkindi. Sesin sahibi kırgındı; ses, konuşmacının boğazında düğümleniyordu. Kızım gibi sevdiğim, yıllarca “Toplumum, kültürüm için ne yapabilirim?” düşüncesiyle dernekte görev alan her etkinlikte koşan, koşturan sevgili …‘nın sesiydi bu. “Nasılsınız, müsait misiniz, sizinle çok önemli bir konuyu konuşacaktım!” dedi. Yorgundu, üzgündü… Hayırdır kızım, nedir durum, önemli bir 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\nSesin sahibi k\u0131rg\u0131nd\u0131; ses, konu\u015fmac\u0131n\u0131n bo\u011faz\u0131nda d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcmleniyordu.
\n<\/strong>K\u0131z\u0131m gibi sevdi\u011fim<\/strong>, y\u0131llarca \u201cToplumum, k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcm i\u00e7in ne yapabilirim?\u201d<\/strong> d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesiyle dernekte g\u00f6rev alan her etkinlikte ko\u015fan, ko\u015fturan sevgili \u2026\u2018n\u0131n sesiydi bu.
\n\u201cNas\u0131ls\u0131n\u0131z, m\u00fcsait misiniz,<\/strong> sizinle \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli bir konuyu konu\u015facakt\u0131m!\u201d dedi.
\nYorgundu, \u00fczg\u00fcnd\u00fc\u2026
\nHay\u0131rd\u0131r k\u0131z\u0131m, nedir durum, \u00f6nemli bir s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131 yok umar\u0131m, dedim.
\nBa\u015flad\u0131 anlatmaya.
\n<\/strong>\u201cB\u00fcy\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz \u2026\u2018\u0131n sosyal medyada benim i\u00e7in yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131 yaz\u0131y\u0131 okudunuz mu?<\/strong> dedi.
\nYaz\u0131y\u0131 daha \u00f6nce okumu\u015f ve ziyadesiyle \u00fcz\u00fclm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcm.
\nBilgisi ve birikimi olduk\u00e7a zengin, kalemi bir o kadar g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir thamadenin, k\u00fclt\u00fcre olabildi\u011fince duyarl\u0131 torunu ya\u015f\u0131ndaki bir \u00c7erkes k\u0131z\u0131 i\u00e7in <\/strong>(\u00c7erkes de olmayabilir) yazd\u0131klar\u0131 ifadeler yenilir, yutulur cinsten de\u011fildi.
\nK\u0131r\u0131p d\u00f6ken, a\u015fa\u011f\u0131layan,<\/strong> yak\u0131p y\u0131kan bir \u00fcslupla yaz\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131 yaz\u0131.
\n\u00dcz\u00fclmemek m\u00fcmk\u00fcn m\u00fcyd\u00fc, \u00fcz\u00fclm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcm, k\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131m, kahrolmu\u015ftum.
\nToplumumuzda rehber, model<\/strong> konumundaki bir insan\u0131n, torunu ya\u015f\u0131ndaki bir k\u0131z\u0131<\/strong>, bir k\u00fclt\u00fcrel yaz\u0131daki duygu ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceleri i\u00e7in bu kadar h\u0131rpalamas\u0131 <\/strong>\u00e7ok \u00fczd\u00fc beni.
\nBilmem ki thamade konumundaki bir insan,<\/strong> gencecik bir k\u0131z\u0131 sosyal medyada bu denli nas\u0131l azarlar<\/strong>, bu kadar nas\u0131l h\u0131rpalar?
\nEvet, \u015fimdi bu samimi, bu duyarl\u0131 k\u0131z, benden yard\u0131m <\/strong>istiyordu.
\nNe diyebilirdim ki.
\n\u201cK\u0131z\u0131m, can\u0131m k\u0131z\u0131m, bu thamade hep b\u00f6yle, bu b\u00fcy\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fcn k\u0131r\u0131p d\u00f6kmedi\u011fi insan kalmad\u0131, o bir ki\u015filik cellad\u0131\u2026<\/strong> diyemezdim.
\nDiyemedim, sustum\u2026
\n\u201cBu b\u00fcy\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fcn hakaret dolu bu yaz\u0131s\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k ben de bir \u015feyler yazaca\u011f\u0131m<\/strong>. Bu i\u015f bu kadar basit olmamal\u0131, bu nas\u0131l bir \u00fcslup?\u201d dedi.
\nYutkundum, \u201cHay\u0131r, sak\u0131n ayn\u0131 \u00fcslupla cevap yazma; sen, sana yak\u0131\u015fan\u0131 yap!\u201d <\/strong>dedim.
\nNeden? Dedi.
\n\u201cBana yak\u0131\u015fan susmak, thamadeye yak\u0131\u015fan hakaret mi? Bu kadar hakareti yiyip sus pus olup oturmak xabzenin mi gere\u011fi<\/strong> acaba?\u201d dedi.
\nYutkundum, zor anlar ya\u015fad\u0131m, terledim, bunald\u0131m\u2026<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>Ey thamade, bu ne hal, bu ne \u00fcslup?
\nNeden torununuz ya\u015f\u0131ndaki bu k\u00fclt\u00fcr sevdal\u0131s\u0131 gencecik k\u0131z\u0131<\/strong> bu kadar h\u0131rpalars\u0131n\u0131z?
\nBu k\u0131z, sadece duygu ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerini aktarm\u0131\u015f yaz\u0131s\u0131nda.
\n\u0130fadelerinde yanl\u0131\u015f da eksik de olabilir.
\n<\/strong>Neden \u201cK\u0131z\u0131m, burada bu yanl\u0131\u015f, \u015furada bu esik!\u201d demek yerine, bir gen\u00e7 k\u0131z\u0131 k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcnden so\u011futacak thamade kavram\u0131na k\u00fcst\u00fcrecek h\u00e2le getiriyorsunuz?
\nBu nas\u0131l bir ruh hali?
\nBu nas\u0131l bir ego?
\n<\/strong>Pes do\u011frusu!<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>Ey thamade, siz, hangi ara, y\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 ele\u015ftirisi<\/strong>\u00a0bol, ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fcs\u00fc ve\u00a0tahamm\u00fcl\u00fc az<\/strong>, bu kadar\u00a0asabi bir ki\u015fili\u011fe <\/strong>d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcn\u00fcz?
\nYoksa siz, xabze k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fc<\/strong> bunu mu gerektiriyor san\u0131yorsunuz?
\nBu ne hal, bu nas\u0131l bir \u00fcslup<\/strong>, bu nas\u0131l bir ego?
\nYoksa kalbiniz, g\u00f6nl\u00fcn\u00fcz buz mu tutmu\u015f sizin ne?
\nMe\u011ferse k\u0131rmadan d\u00f6kmeden sa\u011flam, g\u00fczel bir \u00fcslupla<\/strong> ele\u015ftirmek; eksikleri gidermek,\u00a0yanl\u0131\u015flar\u0131 d\u00fczeltmek<\/strong>\u00a0ne b\u00fcy\u00fck bir erdemmi\u015f!
\nB\u00fcy\u00fckler, eskimeyen ifadeyle: \u201c\u00dcslubu beyan, ayn\u0131yla insand\u0131r!\u201d<\/strong> diye bo\u015funa s\u00f6ylememi\u015fler.<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>Ah ke\u015fke, ruhumuzu ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n ba\u015far\u0131, yetenek, erdem ve g\u00fczelliklerini kabule al\u0131\u015ft\u0131rsak!
\n<\/strong>Ah ke\u015fke ele\u015ftiriyi, kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdakini yakmak, y\u0131kmak amac\u0131yla de\u011fil;\u00a0ona yol g\u00f6stermek,\u00a0<\/strong>moral ve ilham vermek amac\u0131yla yapabilsek!
\nAh ke\u015fke her \u015feyin en iyisini ben bilirim<\/strong>, anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131ndan vaz ge\u00e7ebilsek.
\nNe iyi olurdu, \u00e7evremizdeki insanlar\u0131n kusurlar\u0131ndan ziyade iyi yanlar\u0131n\u0131 bulup onlar\u0131 takdir edebilsek<\/strong>!
\nNe iyi olurdu, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n hatalar\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 yeri geldik\u00e7e g\u00f6zs\u00fcz, kulaks\u0131z ve dilsiz<\/strong> olabilsek!
\nY\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 ele\u015ftirilerin gerisinde bir y\u0131\u011f\u0131n k\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015f, y\u0131k\u0131lm\u0131\u015f kalp, h\u00fcz\u00fcn, d\u00fc\u015fmanl\u0131k, pi\u015fmanl\u0131k<\/strong>\u2026 kal\u0131yor.<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>Unutma ey thamade, \u201cEn ummad\u0131\u011f\u0131n ke\u015ffeder esr\u00e2r-\u0131 der\u00fbnun; sen, herkesi k\u00f6r, \u00e2lemi sersem mi san\u0131rs\u0131n?\u201d<\/strong> diyor \u015fair.
\nAma yine de siz bilirsin!
\nBu tavr\u0131n\u0131z, bu ruh haliniz, bu \u00fcslubunuzla bildikleriniz ayet, anlatt\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131z hadis olsa<\/strong> dahi kanaatimce bu k\u00fclt\u00fcre bu topluma b\u00fcy\u00fck zarar veriyorsunuz.
\nYine de siz bilirsiniz, thamade sizsiniz!<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"