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YEMUZ Nevzat Tarak\u00e7\u0131<\/strong><\/p>\n Nik\u00e2hlar\u0131, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131, torunlar\u0131 olan ama evli say\u0131lmayan kar\u0131 kocan\u0131n hazin hikayesini<\/strong> anlatmak isterim size.<\/p>\n Y\u0131llardan bir y\u0131l, g\u00fcnlerden bir g\u00fcn, \u00fclkenin birinde<\/strong> bir aile ya\u015farm\u0131\u015f.<\/p>\n Baba bir g\u00fcn, e\u015f dost, \u00e7ocuk, torun herkesi toplay\u0131p onlara: \u201cSizler, 30 y\u0131ld\u0131r e\u015fimle beni, kar\u0131-koca, anne-baba olarak tan\u0131yorsunuz <\/strong>me\u011fer biz evli de\u011filmi\u015fiz.\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cAsl\u0131nda biz, bundan 30 y\u0131l \u00f6nce, istenilen t\u00fcm evraklarla birlikte<\/strong> evlenmek niyetiyle evlendirme m\u00fcd\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcne gittik. \u015eahitler ve t\u00fcm e\u015f dost, akraba huzurunda nik\u00e2h memuru taraf\u0131ndan nik\u00e2h\u0131m\u0131z k\u0131y\u0131ld\u0131<\/strong> ve kar\u0131 koca ilan edildik.\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cFakat ne gariptir ki 30 y\u0131l aradan sonra bir grup taraf\u0131ndan bizim kar\u0131-koca olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z s\u00f6yleniyor ve bu durum ispat edilmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131l\u0131yor.\u201d<\/p>\n \u201c30 y\u0131l \u00f6nce evlendirme m\u00fcd\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcne teslim etti\u011fimiz evraklarda imza eksikli\u011fi mi ne varm\u0131\u015f<\/strong>! Yani biz, evli say\u0131lm\u0131yormu\u015fuz.\u201d der.<\/p>\n E\u015f dost ve \u00e7ocuklar, s\u00f6ylenenleri hayretler i\u00e7inde dinler. Kalabal\u0131\u011f\u0131n aras\u0131ndan bir ad\u0131m \u00f6ne \u00e7\u0131kan ya\u015fl\u0131 kad\u0131n, \u015funlar\u0131 s\u00f6yler:<\/p>\n \u201c\u015eu anda hepimiz \u015fa\u015fk\u0131n durumday\u0131z<\/strong>. O kadar tuhaf \u015feyler s\u00f6ylediniz ki s\u00f6ylediklerinizi kabul etmek imk\u00e2ns\u0131z, b\u00f6yle bir \u015fey olamaz, bu durum, hayat\u0131n ak\u0131\u015f\u0131na ayk\u0131r\u0131<\/strong>!\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cBiz, kar\u0131 koca birbirimizle anla\u015fam\u0131yoruz, bu evlilik y\u00fcr\u00fcm\u00fcyor, bu y\u00fczden ayr\u0131lmak istiyoruz, deseniz anlar\u0131z ama bu komikli\u011fe kimse inanmaz, a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a s\u00f6yleyin, nedir sizin niyetiniz?\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cKald\u0131 ki imza eksi\u011fini<\/strong> tamamlamak<\/strong> \u00e7ok mu zor? Ama\u00e7, bu evlili\u011fi daha sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 y\u00fcr\u00fctmekse zor da olsa bu denli k\u0131yamet kopar\u0131lmadan<\/strong> bunun bir yolu bulunmal\u0131, biz adeta ka\u015f yapal\u0131m derken g\u00f6z \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131yoruz!\u201d<\/p>\n Baba, s\u00f6z hakk\u0131 al\u0131r ve \u015funlar\u0131 s\u00f6yler:<\/p>\n \u201cBu b\u00f6yle olmayacak. Haftaya bug\u00fcn, nikah t\u00f6renimizde bulunan, t\u00f6reni izleyen, 30 y\u0131ld\u0131r evli oldu\u011fumuzu bilen <\/strong>kim varsa toplanal\u0131m ve birlikte karar verelim. \u00c7o\u011funluk, \u201cEvet, siz evli de\u011filsiniz!\u201d derse ayr\u0131lal\u0131m, bu i\u015fi burada bitsin!\u201d<\/p>\n Aradan bir hafta ge\u00e7er ve beklenen an gelir<\/strong>. Toplan\u0131rlar geni\u015f mek\u00e2nda.<\/p>\n Herkes taraf\u0131n\u0131 belli edecek, \u00e7o\u011funlu\u011fun dedi\u011fi olacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n Ya bu evlilik devam edecek ya da aile da\u011f\u0131lacakt\u0131r.<\/strong><\/p>\n Gerekli a\u00e7\u0131klamalar yap\u0131l\u0131r ve konu\u015fmalara ge\u00e7ilir.<\/p>\n Ak sa\u00e7l\u0131, ad\u0131 \u201ctxamade\u201d<\/strong> oldu\u011fu s\u00f6ylenen, g\u00fcn g\u00f6rm\u00fc\u015f, tecr\u00fcbeli bir adam huzura gelir ve \u015funlar\u0131 s\u00f6yler:<\/p>\n \u201cBiz, neden bir ka\u015f\u0131k suda f\u0131rt\u0131na kopar\u0131yoruz,<\/strong> neden birbirimizle sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ileti\u015fim kuram\u0131yoruz, anlayam\u0131yorum. Hani herkes bu davaya sahiplenecekti\u2026 \u00c7ok duyars\u0131zla\u015ft\u0131k \u00e7ok!\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cEvlili\u011fimiz hakk\u0131nda \u00e7ok pervas\u0131zca s\u00f6zler sarf edildi. Bilen de bilmeyen de y\u00fcksek perdeden konu\u015furken konuya vak\u0131f olanlar\u0131n bir k\u0131sm\u0131 sustu. Bu s\u00fcre\u00e7te bize hi\u00e7 yak\u0131\u015fmayan \u00e7ok \u00e7irkin ifadeler<\/strong> duyduk. Hani bizim \u201cxabze\u201d<\/strong> dedi\u011fimiz kurallar\u0131m\u0131z vard\u0131, hani ki\u015filikler bu kadar hedefe konulmaz, yalan yanl\u0131\u015f ifadelerden medet umulmazd\u0131? Bu ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z beni \u00e7ok \u00fczd\u00fc.\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cBiliyorum, bu toplant\u0131n\u0131n kazanan\u0131 olmayacak, bir taraf mutlaka k\u0131r\u0131lacak, k\u00fcsecek, ayr\u0131lacak\u2026<\/strong> Kaybeden halk\u0131m\u0131z olacak. <\/strong>Her \u015feye ra\u011fmen birbirimizi iyi dinleyelim, anlay\u0131\u015fl\u0131, ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fc olal\u0131m ve bu badireyi atlatal\u0131m.\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cBilmiyorum ki biz, yap\u0131lacak bunca i\u015f varken neden kendi i\u00e7imizde birbirimizle bu kadar didi\u015fip <\/strong>duruyoruz?\u201d<\/p>\n S\u00f6z hakk\u0131 alan gen\u00e7 kad\u0131n, emin ad\u0131mlarla huzura gelir ve \u015funlar\u0131 s\u00f6yler:<\/p>\n \u201c\u00dczg\u00fcn\u00fcm, aram\u0131zda \u00e7ok pervas\u0131zlar var, kurumlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 \u015feytanla\u015ft\u0131rma gayretleri var. Toplumumuzda hi\u00e7 ya\u015fanmad\u0131k olaylar ya\u015fan\u0131yor, hatta ithamlar, kad\u0131n objesi kullanmaya kadar uzan\u0131yor. Toplum ad\u0131na konu\u015fma hakk\u0131na sahip baz\u0131 ki\u015filerin<\/strong> agresif tutumu, pervas\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131<\/strong> kurumlar\u0131m\u0131za \u00e7ok b\u00fcy\u00fck zarar veriyor, toplumumuz ayr\u0131\u015ft\u0131k\u00e7a ayr\u0131\u015f\u0131yor.\u201d<\/p>\n \u201c\u015euradaki gruba bak\u0131n, ellerinde \u00e7ekirdek<\/strong> aksiyon bekliyor. Biz hangi ara bu hale geldik, bilmem ki?\u201d<\/p>\n Halk\u0131n i\u00e7inden \u201c\u00c7ok e\u011flenece\u011fiz \u00e7ok!\u201d<\/strong> sesleri y\u00fckselir.<\/p>\n Derken, itirazlar, ba\u011f\u0131r\u0131\u015flar, aras\u0131nda konu\u015fmalar biter ve oylamaya ge\u00e7ilir.<\/strong><\/p>\n Oylama bitmi\u015f, hen\u00fcz sonu\u00e7lar a\u00e7\u0131klanmam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Halk\u0131n aras\u0131ndan birinin y\u00fcksek sesle \u201cE\u011fer bu oylamadan benim istedi\u011fim sonu\u00e7 \u00e7\u0131kmasa<\/strong> ben ne yapaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131 biliyorum!\u201d dedi\u011fi duyulur.<\/p>\n Nihayet sonu\u00e7lar a\u00e7\u0131klan\u0131r.<\/p>\n Sand\u0131ktan \u00f6fke, k\u0131rg\u0131nl\u0131k, k\u00fcsk\u00fcnl\u00fck \u00e7\u0131km\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. <\/strong><\/p>\n \u0130ki taraf da kaybetmi\u015ftir.<\/p>\n Bir ses duyulur: \u201cBen, kazananlar\u0131n yan\u0131na kadeh kald\u0131rmaya gidiyorum!\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" YEMUZ Nevzat Tarakçı Nikâhları, çocukları, torunları olan ama evli sayılmayan karı kocanın hazin hikayesini anlatmak isterim size. Yıllardan bir yıl, günlerden bir gün, ülkenin birinde bir aile yaşarmış. 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