{"id":3089,"date":"2019-02-24T20:03:52","date_gmt":"2019-02-24T20:03:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/circassiancenter.com\/tr\/?p=3089"},"modified":"2019-02-24T20:35:03","modified_gmt":"2019-02-24T20:35:03","slug":"kalem-10","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/kalem-10\/","title":{"rendered":"KALEM -10 (\u0422\u0445\u044b\u043f\u043a\u044a\u044d)"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Ali \u00c7urey<\/strong>
\n<\/span>25.12.2017<\/p>\n

Sevgili dostlar\u0131m, bu defada kafay\u0131 \u201ckad\u0131n haklar\u0131<\/strong>\u201d s\u00f6z\u00fcne takt\u0131m. \u015eaka etmiyorum. Ger\u00e7ekten geceleri uyuyamaz oldum. Sak\u0131n \u201cEeee Ali \u00c7urey, sende g\u00fcnd\u00fczleri uyu!\u201d demeyin. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc caddelerde ve sokaklarda g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm manzaralardan dolay\u0131 g\u00fcnd\u00fczleri de t\u00fcmden uyuyam\u0131yorum. Nedenini bilmiyorum. Ama, sanki benden ba\u015fka hi\u00e7 kimse, rahats\u0131z olmuyormu\u015f gibi, bir duygu i\u00e7indeyim. \u015eimdi kendimce \u201ckad\u0131n haklar\u0131<\/strong>\u201dna bir nebze de\u011fineyim. Yanl\u0131\u015f anla\u015f\u0131lmas\u0131n, sosyolog veya psikolog de\u011filim. Ancak, bir anneden do\u011fdum ve o anam\u0131n hat\u0131r\u0131na bir \u015feyler s\u00f6ylemek istiyorum.<\/p>\n

Sevgili dostlar\u0131m, \u201dkad\u0131n<\/strong>\u201d denilince akl\u0131ma gelenler; annem, e\u015fim, k\u0131z\u0131m ve yengelerim. Babam, anneme nas\u0131l davran\u0131rd\u0131 ve annem buna ne tepki verirdi? Yan\u0131t\u0131m, abart\u0131s\u0131z ve eksiksiz. Annem, susard\u0131. \u0130\u00e7imden \u2018\u2019Allah Allah, babam haks\u0131z oldu\u011fu halde, annem neden susar ve cevap vermez?\u2019\u2019 diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrd\u00fcm. Evleninceye kadar, annemle babam aras\u0131ndaki bu ufak didi\u015fmeler beni hep rahats\u0131z etti. Vaktaki, evlendim. Bazen babam\u0131 taklit etmek istercesine, e\u015fime \u201cefelik\u201d yapmaya kalkard\u0131m. Ger\u00e7ekten bunu bilin\u00e7li olarak tekrarlard\u0131m. \u201dAcaba ne yapacak?\u201d diye. Enteresand\u0131r; en haks\u0131z oldu\u011fum zaman, s\u00f6z \u015fiddetini artt\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131m halde o susard\u0131. Oysa e\u015fim, bir \u00f6\u011fretmendi ve benim ailemle k\u0131yaslanamayacak kadar da \u00e7a\u011fda\u015f ve de e\u011fitimli bir aileye sahipti. Sevgili dostlar\u0131m, e\u015fimin bu durumu ho\u015fuma gitmiyordu. \u0130stiyordum ki, az\u0131c\u0131k da olsa, \u00e7ene yar\u0131\u015ft\u0131rs\u0131n. Yok, yok anam!<\/p>\n

Bir g\u00fcn, ciddi ciddi, kendisine \u201cNeden bana yan\u0131t vermiyorsun?\u201d diye sordu\u011fumda, \u2018\u2019Ali, sen \u00c7erkes\u2019im diyorsun. Benim ebeveynlerimden, yani anne ve babamdan, dahas\u0131 aile \u00e7evremden, ald\u0131\u011f\u0131m \u00f6\u011f\u00fctlere uymuyorsun. Seni \u015fa\u015fk\u0131nl\u0131k i\u00e7inde izliyorum. Suskunlu\u011fum \u00f6z\u00fcmden.<\/strong>\u2019\u2019 yan\u0131t\u0131n\u0131 verdi. Bu s\u00f6zler, daha sonraki davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131ma inan\u0131lmaz disiplin getirdi.<\/p>\n

Sevgili dostlar\u0131m, biliyorum \u00c7erkeslerde, gelenekleri icab\u0131, e\u015finden, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131ndan ve hatta kendisinden, s\u00f6z edemeyece\u011fi gibi, bir kimseyide y\u00fcz\u00fcne kar\u015f\u0131 \u00f6vmek yok! Do\u011fru. Ama, \u201c\u0415\u043aI\u0443\u0440 \u0445\u0430\u0431\u0437\u0430\u0449!\u201d h\u00fckm\u00fcne uydurulamaz m\u0131? Dahas\u0131, \u015fu anda kentle\u015fen ya\u015fam tarz\u0131m\u0131za, uygulayabilir miyiz? Uygularsak, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z, bizden uzakla\u015f\u0131p, daha k\u00f6t\u00fc bir davran\u0131\u015f ve ya\u015fam bi\u00e7imine terkedilmi\u015f olmaz m\u0131? \u00d6rne\u011fin, ben, uzun y\u0131llar mesle\u011fim gere\u011fi, sabit bir yer ve mahalde kalmad\u0131m. Yani, \u00c7erkes\u2019in \u00c7\u2019sinin bile bulunmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 b\u00f6lgelerde bulundum. Peki ben, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131ma, bir arkada\u015f gibi davranmam\u0131\u015f olsa idim, onlara kadim geleneklerimizi ve de bilgilerimizi nas\u0131l aktaracakt\u0131m? Yan\u0131t\u0131n\u0131 sizlere b\u0131rak\u0131yorum.<\/p>\n

Tekrar \u201ckad\u0131n haklar\u0131!<\/strong>\u201d tekerlemesine d\u00f6n\u00fcyorum.<\/p>\n

Bu kavram, s\u00f6ylem ve eylem, kad\u0131n\u0131 daha da pasifize eder. Ve \u201cO\u201d kendisini \u201ckorunmaya muhta\u00e7\u201d bir nesne g\u00f6rmeye ba\u015flar. Zaten olan da budur! Oysa, \u201dana<\/strong>\u201d korunan de\u011fil, koruyand\u0131r. \u201d\u0130nsan\u201d s\u0131fatlamas\u0131 ile an\u0131lan ben, yani erkek Ali \u00c7urey\u2019i do\u011furan, emziren, b\u00fcy\u00fcten ve koruyan \u201cO\u201d ana<\/strong> de\u011fil midir? Bu anlamda, kim kimin koruyucusudur? Sevgili dostlar\u0131m, bana fiziksel g\u00fc\u00e7ten bahsetmeyin. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc, hi\u00e7bir erkek, kad\u0131n\u0131n ne fiziksel, ne de ruhsal olarak, sahip oldu\u011fu, de\u011ferlere sahip de\u011fildir. Zira, hangi i\u015f kolunda, fiziksel bak\u0131mdan, kad\u0131nlar erkeklerden daha dayan\u0131ks\u0131zd\u0131r?<\/p>\n

Sevgili dostlar\u0131m, t\u00fcm semavi inan\u00e7larda, buyruklar, erkek egemen \u00f6ncelikli. Adem\u2019in yarad\u0131l\u0131\u015f esprisinden yola \u00e7\u0131karak, g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcze ula\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda \u201derkek egemen\u201d anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131n, nereye ula\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6v\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz \u201d\u0130slam co\u011frafyas\u0131na<\/strong>\u201d bir g\u00f6z atarsak sonucu g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fcz. Bu ba\u011flamda, manzara, kad\u0131n haklar\u0131<\/strong> a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 hi\u00e7 de i\u00e7 a\u00e7\u0131c\u0131 de\u011fildir. Peki, neden? Asl\u0131nda sorgulamam\u0131z gereken bu \u201cneden?<\/strong>\u201d sorusunun yan\u0131t\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Sevgili dostlar\u0131m, acizane kanaat ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncem, \u201dkad\u0131n haklar\u0131!<\/strong>\u201d kavram\u0131 yanl\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Veya en az\u0131ndan eksiktir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc, kad\u0131n, cinselli\u011finden \u00f6te bir insand\u0131r. Bir ki\u015filiktir. \u0130nsan haklar\u0131, genel kavram\u0131 i\u00e7inde, \u201cezileni<\/strong>\u201d ezenden, \u201ds\u00f6m\u00fcr\u00fcleni<\/strong>\u201d s\u00f6m\u00fcrenden, korumak esas olmal\u0131d\u0131r. T\u00fcm insanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n, ortak paydas\u0131 ise \u201c\u00e7evre<\/strong>\u201d ve \u201chayvan haklar\u0131<\/strong>\u201cn\u0131n korunmas\u0131 olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Zira, onlar\u0131n kendilerini koruma iradesi ve g\u00fc\u00e7leri yoktur.<\/p>\n

NOT 1:<\/strong> \u201cAnneler G\u00fcn\u00fc\u201d ile \u201cKad\u0131n Haklar\u0131 G\u00fcn\u00fc\u201d aras\u0131ndaki fark\u0131, ben anlayam\u0131yorum. Birisi bana anlat\u0131rsa sevinirim.<\/p>\n

NOT 2:<\/strong>
\na)<\/strong> \u0410\u043d\u044d \u0437\u0438\u043c\u044bI\u044d \u0441\u0430\u0431\u0438\u0439\u0440,
\n\u0430\u0434\u044d \u0438I\u044d\u043c\u0438, \u0438\u0431\u0430\u0444\u044d\u0449.
\nb)<\/strong> \u0410\u043d\u044d \u0437\u0438\u043c\u044bI\u044d\u043c
\n\u0433\u0443I\u044d\u0440 \u0438 \u043c\u0430\u0445\u0443\u044d\u0449.
\nc)<\/strong> \u0410\u043d\u044d \u0438 \u0433\u044b\u0431\u0437\u044d \u0431\u044b\u0434\u0437 \u0437\u044d\u0445\u0443\u0430\u043a\u0443 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u0434\u044d\u043aI\u043a\u044a\u044b\u043c.
\nd)<\/strong> \u0410\u043d\u044d\u043c \u0431\u044b\u043d\u044b\u0440 \u0438 \u0437\u044d\u0445\u0443\u044d\u0434\u044d\u0449.
\ne)<\/strong> \u0410\u043d\u044d\u043c \u0441\u044b\u0442 \u0449\u044b\u0433\u044a\u0443\u0438 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u0431\u044b\u043d\u044b\u0440 \u0441\u0430\u0431\u0438\u0439 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u043a\u044a\u044b\u0449\u043e\u0445\u044a\u0443.<\/p>\n

KAYNAK\u00c7A:<\/strong> \u201c\u0410\u0434\u044b\u0433\u044d \u041f\u0441\u0430\u043b\u044a\u044d\u0436\u044a\u0445\u044d\u0440, \u041d\u0410\u041b\u0429\u042b\u041a, 1967\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Ali Çurey 25.12.2017 Sevgili dostlarım, bu defada kafayı “kadın hakları” sözüne taktım. Şaka etmiyorum. Gerçekten geceleri uyuyamaz oldum. Sakın “Eeee Ali Çurey, sende gündüzleri uyu!” demeyin. Çünkü caddelerde ve sokaklarda gördüğüm manzaralardan dolayı gündüzleri de tümden uyuyamıyorum. Nedenini bilmiyorum. Ama, sanki benden başka hiç kimse, rahatsız olmuyormuş gibi, bir duygu içindeyim. Şimdi kendimce “kadın hakları”na […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_bbp_topic_count":0,"_bbp_reply_count":0,"_bbp_total_topic_count":0,"_bbp_total_reply_count":0,"_bbp_voice_count":0,"_bbp_anonymous_reply_count":0,"_bbp_topic_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_reply_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_forum_subforum_count":0,"ocean_post_layout":"","ocean_both_sidebars_style":"","ocean_both_sidebars_content_width":0,"ocean_both_sidebars_sidebars_width":0,"ocean_sidebar":"0","ocean_second_sidebar":"0","ocean_disable_margins":"enable","ocean_add_body_class":"","ocean_shortcode_before_top_bar":"","ocean_shortcode_after_top_bar":"","ocean_shortcode_before_header":"","ocean_shortcode_after_header":"","ocean_has_shortcode":"","ocean_shortcode_after_title":"","ocean_shortcode_before_footer_widgets":"","ocean_shortcode_after_footer_widgets":"","ocean_shortcode_before_footer_bottom":"","ocean_shortcode_after_footer_bottom":"","ocean_display_top_bar":"default","ocean_display_header":"default","ocean_header_style":"","ocean_center_header_left_menu":"0","ocean_custom_header_template":"0","ocean_custom_logo":0,"ocean_custom_retina_logo":0,"ocean_custom_logo_max_width":0,"ocean_custom_logo_tablet_max_width":0,"ocean_custom_logo_mobile_max_width":0,"ocean_custom_logo_max_height":0,"ocean_custom_logo_tablet_max_height":0,"ocean_custom_logo_mobile_max_height":0,"ocean_header_custom_menu":"0","ocean_menu_typo_font_family":"0","ocean_menu_typo_font_subset":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_size":0,"ocean_menu_typo_font_size_tablet":0,"ocean_menu_typo_font_size_mobile":0,"ocean_menu_typo_font_size_unit":"px","ocean_menu_typo_font_weight":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_weight_tablet":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_weight_mobile":"","ocean_menu_typo_transform":"","ocean_menu_typo_transform_tablet":"","ocean_menu_typo_transform_mobile":"","ocean_menu_typo_line_height":0,"ocean_menu_typo_line_height_tablet":0,"ocean_menu_typo_line_height_mobile":0,"ocean_menu_typo_line_height_unit":"","ocean_menu_typo_spacing":0,"ocean_menu_typo_spacing_tablet":0,"ocean_menu_typo_spacing_mobile":0,"ocean_menu_typo_spacing_unit":"","ocean_menu_link_color":"","ocean_menu_link_color_hover":"","ocean_menu_link_color_active":"","ocean_menu_link_background":"","ocean_menu_link_hover_background":"","ocean_menu_link_active_background":"","ocean_menu_social_links_bg":"","ocean_menu_social_hover_links_bg":"","ocean_menu_social_links_color":"","ocean_menu_social_hover_links_color":"","ocean_disable_title":"default","ocean_disable_heading":"default","ocean_post_title":"","ocean_post_subheading":"","ocean_post_title_style":"","ocean_post_title_background_color":"","ocean_post_title_background":0,"ocean_post_title_bg_image_position":"","ocean_post_title_bg_image_attachment":"","ocean_post_title_bg_image_repeat":"","ocean_post_title_bg_image_size":"","ocean_post_title_height":0,"ocean_post_title_bg_overlay":0.5,"ocean_post_title_bg_overlay_color":"","ocean_disable_breadcrumbs":"default","ocean_breadcrumbs_color":"","ocean_breadcrumbs_separator_color":"","ocean_breadcrumbs_links_color":"","ocean_breadcrumbs_links_hover_color":"","ocean_display_footer_widgets":"default","ocean_display_footer_bottom":"default","ocean_custom_footer_template":"0","ocean_post_oembed":"","ocean_post_self_hosted_media":"","ocean_post_video_embed":"","ocean_link_format":"","ocean_link_format_target":"self","ocean_quote_format":"","ocean_quote_format_link":"post","ocean_gallery_link_images":"off","ocean_gallery_id":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[91],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3089","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-yazarlar-ali-curey","entry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3089","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3089"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3089\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3139,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3089\/revisions\/3139"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3089"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3089"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3089"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}