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Dr. ME\u015eFE\u015e’\u00dc Necdet Hatam<\/strong><\/p>\n CC’de 17 Haziran 2006 tarihinde ilk payla\u015f\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan bu yana empati yapma yetene\u011fi geli\u015fmeyip daha bir geriledi\u011fi, T\u00fcrkiye\u2019deki ayd\u0131nlara kar\u015f\u0131 tutumu g\u00f6rmezden gelip Qeberdey- Balkar\u2019daki olaylar\u0131 dillerine dolad\u0131klar\u0131 i\u00e7in yeniden\u2026<\/p><\/blockquote>\n Kimi yaz\u0131lar\u0131mda, tart\u0131\u015fmalarda dile getirdi\u011fim bir kavram T\u00fcrkiyelilik \u00c7emberi, \u00f6zelimizde T\u00fcrkiyeli \u00c7erkes \u00c7emberi. \u00c7o\u011fu dernek y\u00f6neticimizin k\u0131ramad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir \u00e7emberdir bu. Bize g\u00f6re olaylar\u0131 yanl\u0131\u015f de\u011ferlendirme, yorumlaman\u0131n, yanl\u0131\u015f eylemlerde bulunman\u0131n temelinde de bu \u00e7ember yatmaktad\u0131r. Dahas\u0131 bu \u00e7emberi k\u0131ramayanlar\u0131n yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 yanl\u0131\u015fl\u0131klar\u0131n her zaman kendilerine g\u00f6re hakl\u0131 bir gerek\u00e7esi de vard\u0131r. Dolay\u0131s\u0131 ile ele\u015ftiriye kar\u015f\u0131 tepkileri de \u00e7o\u011funluk yanl\u0131\u015f\u0131 d\u00fczeltme y\u00f6n\u00fcnde olmaz. .K\u0131zarlar, k\u00fcserler ele\u015ftiri yapana. Bu davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n kendilerine g\u00f6re hakl\u0131\u00a0 gerek\u00e7esi, ele\u015ftirinin dile getirili\u015f bi\u00e7imidir.\u00a0 Ele\u015ftiri \u00f6z\u00fcnde hakl\u0131d\u0131r ancak s\u00f6ylemde hata vard\u0131r. \u201cEle\u015ftiri \u00e7ok sert dile getirilmi\u015ftir\u201d, \u201calayc\u0131 bir \u00fcslup kullan\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u201d gibi.<\/p>\n Eh \u00f6zdeki hakl\u0131l\u0131\u011fa kar\u015f\u0131n \u00fcslup yanl\u0131\u015f ise ele\u015ftirinin ele\u015ftirilen yaz\u0131yla birlikte kendi Web sayfalar\u0131nda yay\u0131mlanmas\u0131na elbette ki gerek yoktur. \u00d6zetle bu \u00e7emberin tutsa\u011f\u0131 olanlar\u0131n hem hata yapma, hem de ele\u015ftirilerinizi g\u00f6z \u00f6n\u00fcne almama \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fckleri vard\u0131r. Herkesin duyaca\u011f\u0131 \u015fekilde hatalar\u0131n\u0131 kabul etme mi dediniz? \u201cZay\u0131f ki\u015filere \u00f6zg\u00fc\u201d b\u00f6yle bir davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n zaten defterlerinde hi\u00e7 yeri yoktur.<\/p>\n Bu \u00e7ember tutsaklar\u0131n\u0131n en belirgin \u00f6zelli\u011fi, hi\u00e7 empati yapmamalar\u0131d\u0131r. Bilindi\u011fi gibi empati olaylar\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131 taraf\u0131n g\u00f6z\u00fc ile, anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131 ile, paradigmas\u0131 ile g\u00f6rebilmek, de\u011ferlendirebilmektir. Bu kar\u015f\u0131 taraf, kimileyin kaybetmek istemedi\u011finiz bir m\u00fc\u015fteriniz, iyile\u015ftirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z bir hastan\u0131z, g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc anlatmak zorunda oldu\u011funuz insan\u0131n\u0131z, ya da politik kar\u015f\u0131tlar\u0131n\u0131z olabilir. Ba\u015far\u0131da, empatinin \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli bir yeri oldu\u011funa inan\u0131l\u0131r.<\/p>\n D\u00fcnya \u00c7erkes Birli\u011fi\u2019nin ola\u011fan genel kurullar\u0131n\u0131n, alt\u0131 May\u0131s 2006\u2019da \u0130stanbul\u2019da ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirilen yedincisinde, sahnede Adige ve Abhaz bayraklar\u0131na yer verilmemi\u015f olmas\u0131 de\u011filse de bunun sanal ortamda pek dile getirilmemesi T\u00fcrkiye\u2019deki \u00c7erkeslerin empati yapmamalar\u0131n\u0131n bir sonucu de\u011fil mi sizce de? Ya da Genel Kurulun T\u00fcrkiye\u2019de olmas\u0131, sahnede T\u00fcrk bayra\u011f\u0131 ve Atat\u00fcrk resminin bulunmas\u0131n\u0131 zorunlu k\u0131l\u0131yor, Ad\u0131ghe ve Abhaz bayraklar\u0131na yasak m\u0131 getiriyordu?<\/p>\n Ben, Kaf-Fed\u2019in\u00a0 D\u00c7B \u00fcyeli\u011fine ve \u00f6rg\u00fct\u00fcn genel kuruluna ev sahipli\u011fi yapmas\u0131na izin veren T\u00fcrkiye Cumhuriyeti\u2019nin, b\u00f6yle bir engel \u00e7\u0131kartm\u0131\u015f olabilece\u011fini sanm\u0131yorum. Ki, s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc etti\u011fimiz bayraklar, D\u00c7B\u2019nin Krasnodar dahil, genel kurulun ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirildi\u011fi her kentte toplant\u0131 salonundaki yerini alm\u0131\u015ft\u0131.<\/p>\n Sanal ortamda pek \u00f6nemsenmeyen bu olay\u0131n tersi olsayd\u0131, benzeri bir sahne d\u00fczeni daha \u00f6nceki toplant\u0131lardan birinde olsayd\u0131 peki. \u00d6rne\u011fin Nal\u00e7ik\u2019teki, Maykop\u2019taki, \u00c7erkessk\u2019teki dahas\u0131 Krasnodar\u2019daki genel kurul salonunda duvar\u0131n t\u00fcm\u00fc tavandan yere I.Petro\u2019nun resmi ve iki taraf\u0131nda Rus bayra\u011f\u0131 ile kaplansayd\u0131 ya da ortada Lenin ve iki taraf\u0131nda k\u0131z\u0131l bayrak, ya da Putin posteri ve iki taraf\u0131nda Rusya bayra\u011f\u0131\u2026<\/p>\n Sitelerde k\u0131z\u0131lca k\u0131yamet kopmaz m\u0131yd\u0131?<\/p>\n Genel kurul sorumlular\u0131, D\u00c7B yetkilileri yerden yere vurulmaz m\u0131yd\u0131? Sitelere, forumlara,\u00a0 moderat\u00f6rlerin okuyamayacaklar\u0131, kontrol edemeyecekleri say\u0131da \u201cg\u00fczel s\u0131fatlarla bezenmi\u015f\u201d iletiler gelmez miydi?\u00a0 Kaf-Fed y\u00f6neticileri genel nezdinde bunu sorgulamaz m\u0131yd\u0131? Olay\u0131n \u00fczerine ne denli titizlikle gitti\u011fini kendi sitesinde kamuoyuna a\u00e7\u0131klamaz, gazetelere a\u00e7\u0131klamalar g\u00f6ndermez miydi?<\/p>\n Bu yazd\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131zdan, D\u00c7B delegelerinin, sahnenin T\u00fcrk bayraklar\u0131 ve Atat\u00fcrk posteri ile bezenmi\u015f olmas\u0131n\u0131 yanl\u0131\u015f bulduklar\u0131n\u0131 sanmay\u0131n sak\u0131n. Bu c\u00fcmleyi de TC vatanda\u015f\u0131 oldu\u011fum i\u00e7in korkudan yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131ma hi\u00e7 yormay\u0131n l\u00fctfen.<\/p>\n \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc kimileri \u201ci\u015fbirlik\u00e7i\u201d dese de, \u00fcye derneklerin bulundu\u011fu \u00fclke yasalar\u0131na sayg\u0131l\u0131 olmak, ama\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 yasalar \u00e7er\u00e7evesinde, kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 anlay\u0131\u015f \u00e7er\u00e7evesinde yasa de\u011fi\u015fiklikleri ile ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak, D\u00c7B\u2019nin en \u00f6nde gelen ilkelerinden biridir. Genel kurulun yap\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00fclkenin bayra\u011f\u0131 ve \u00f6nemsedi\u011fi \u015fahsiyetlerin \u00f6nemsenmesi konusunda, ev sahibi \u00fclkenin geleneklerine uymak da bunun do\u011fal bir sonucudur. Anla\u015f\u0131lmayan art\u0131k birer devletin bayra\u011f\u0131 Ad\u0131ghe ve Abhaz bayraklar\u0131n\u0131n sahnenin bir k\u00f6\u015fesinde yer bulamam\u0131\u015f olmas\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n T\u00fcrkiye \u00c7erkeslerinden dile\u011fimiz, kendilerini \u00fczen, k\u0131zd\u0131ran bir durumla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131klar\u0131nda, \u201cayn\u0131 olay kendi ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m \u00fclkede olsayd\u0131 ben nas\u0131l davran\u0131rd\u0131m\u201d ya da \u201colay\u0131n ge\u00e7ti\u011fi \u00fclkede ya\u015fayan ben olsayd\u0131m benzer ko\u015fullarda ben nas\u0131l bir tepki verebilirdim\u201d gibi empati yapmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131, di\u011fer \u00fclke \u00c7erkeslerinin kendilerine g\u00f6sterdikleri tolerans\u0131 g\u00f6stermeleridir.<\/p>\n Bu yakla\u015f\u0131m,\u00a0 \u00e7e\u015fitli \u00fclkelerdeki \u00c7erkesleri s\u00fcre\u00e7 i\u00e7erisinde birbirine daha bir yakla\u015ft\u0131racak, \u00fclkelerinde daha huzurlu olmalar\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flayacak, diaspora \u00fclkeleri ile Rusya Federasyonu aras\u0131ndaki ili\u015fkilerin geli\u015fmesine\u00a0 k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsenemeyecek katk\u0131larda bulunacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Dr. MEŞFEŞ’Ü Necdet Hatam CC’de 17 Haziran 2006 tarihinde ilk paylaşıldığından bu yana empati yapma yeteneği gelişmeyip daha bir gerilediği, Türkiye’deki aydınlara karşı tutumu görmezden gelip Qeberdey- Balkar’daki olayları dillerine doladıkları için yeniden… Kimi yazılarımda, tartışmalarda dile getirdiğim bir kavram Türkiyelilik Çemberi, özelimizde Türkiyeli Çerkes Çemberi. 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