{"id":3200,"date":"2019-02-25T13:56:34","date_gmt":"2019-02-25T13:56:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/circassiancenter.com\/tr\/?p=3200"},"modified":"2019-02-25T13:56:34","modified_gmt":"2019-02-25T13:56:34","slug":"itibar-kaybi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/itibar-kaybi\/","title":{"rendered":"\u0130T\u0130BAR KAYBI"},"content":{"rendered":"

Kuban Paul Seauhmann
\n<\/b><\/span> 02.10.2003<\/span><\/p>\n

Bir insan d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn. Gitti\u011fi kahvehanede insanlar onu g\u00f6r\u00fcnce aya\u011fa kalk\u0131yor. Gen\u00e7ler, mekan\u0131 terk ediyorlar.<\/p>\n

Bir insan d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn. Yolda giderken, herkes ona selam veriyor. Hat\u0131r\u0131n\u0131 soruyor. Elinde bir \u015fey varsa, gen\u00e7ler ko\u015fup elinden sayg\u0131yla al\u0131yorlar ve g\u00f6t\u00fcrmesi gereken yere ondan \u00f6nce ula\u015ft\u0131r\u0131yorlar.<\/p>\n

Bir insan d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn. B\u00fct\u00fcn tan\u0131d\u0131k tan\u0131mad\u0131k kom\u015fular\u0131 evlerine konuk etmek i\u00e7in yar\u0131\u015f\u0131yorlar.<\/p>\n

Bir insan d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn.\u00a0 Birinin evine konuk oldu\u011funda, ev halk\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fck mutluluk ya\u015f\u0131yor.<\/p>\n

Bir insan d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn. Onun ad\u0131n\u0131 yeni do\u011fan \u00e7ocuklara veriyorlar, gen\u00e7lere \u00f6rnek insan olarak g\u00f6steriliyor.<\/p>\n

Yukarda s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc etti\u011fimiz insan, \u00e7ok de\u011fil bundan 30-35 y\u0131l \u00f6nce olduk\u00e7a fazla vard\u0131. Di\u011fer milliyetlerden insanlar,\u00a0 imrenerek bakarlard\u0131 sokakta ba\u015f\u0131 dik, umars\u0131z ama \u00e7evresinin fark\u0131nda olan bu b\u00fcy\u00fcklerimize. Onlar, \u00e7o\u011fu yerde ad\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcne \u00c7erkes s\u0131fat\u0131 konarak an\u0131l\u0131rd\u0131. Yani \u00c7erkes s\u0131fat\u0131 bir itibar konusuydu. E\u011fitim durumu ve sosyal konumu hi\u00e7bir zaman bu s\u0131fat\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcne ge\u00e7emedi. Yani iki validen biri \u00c7erkes ise \u015f\u00f6yle bir sonu\u00e7 \u00e7\u0131kard\u0131: \u00c7erkes olmayan \u201cVali Ahmet\u201d \u00c7erkes olan \u201c\u00c7erkes Vali\u201d.<\/p>\n

Bu durum, b\u00fct\u00fcn sosyal stat\u00fcler i\u00e7in ge\u00e7erliydi. \u00c7erkeslik her zaman kariyer, unvan ve ismin \u00f6n\u00fcne konulurdu. Bu taksi \u015fof\u00f6r\u00fcnde de, \u00fcniversite \u00f6\u011frencisinde de, bakkalda da ayn\u0131yd\u0131.<\/p>\n

Ad\u0131n\u0131n ya da unvan\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcne \u201c\u00c7erkes\u201d konulmu\u015f her insan\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n \u00f6zellikleri a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 yukar\u0131 \u015f\u00f6yle olurdu:<\/p>\n

G\u00fcvenilir, ahlakl\u0131, \u00e7al\u0131\u015fkan, efendi, sayg\u0131l\u0131.<\/p>\n

Nerede susup, nerede konu\u015faca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilen.<\/p>\n

Dedikodu ve \u00f6nyarg\u0131dan uzak.<\/p>\n

Elbette t\u00fcm bu \u00f6zelliklere sahip olan insan\u0131m\u0131z, do\u011fal olarak kahvehaneye gitti\u011finde, sokakta y\u00fcr\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde hak etti\u011fi de\u011feri al\u0131rd\u0131.<\/p>\n

Bu \u00f6zelliklere sahipseniz, hangi ortamda olursan\u0131z olun insanlar sizin fark\u0131n\u0131za varacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n

\u0130ster 10 milyonluk kentlerde ya\u015fay\u0131n, ister 10 hanelik k\u00f6yde.<\/p>\n

Zaman\u0131m\u0131zda, durum biraz farkl\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcyor. Toplumsal stat\u00fc daha \u00e7ok ba\u015fka yollarla aran\u0131r oldu.<\/p>\n

Zengin olmak, \u00fcnl\u00fc olmak, rant sahibi olmak (ne demekse!), kabaday\u0131 olmak, delikanl\u0131 olmak, “day\u0131” olmak, hi\u00e7bir \u015fey bilmeden \u00e7ok \u015fey bilirmi\u015f gibi davranmak…<\/p>\n

Siz arzu ederseniz bu listeyi uzat\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p>\n

Birazc\u0131k g\u00fcvenilir olamasak ne olur? \u00c7al\u0131\u015fmak yerine k\u0131sa yoldan k\u00f6\u015fe d\u00f6nmek daha uygun de\u011fil mi? Delikanl\u0131l\u0131k argosunda \u201cefendi ol\u201d tehdit kavram\u0131na d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fse ne olur ki? Her konuda, kar\u015f\u0131ndaki b\u00fcy\u00fckm\u00fc\u015f, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fckm\u00fc\u015f fark etmeden pabu\u00e7 kadar dil oynatmakta ne sak\u0131nca olabilir? Susmak \u201ckabullenmek\u201d de\u011fil midir?<\/p>\n

Bunlar\u0131n hepsi olabilir. Ki\u015fisel oldu\u011fu s\u00fcrece ne sak\u0131ncas\u0131 olsun? Kahvehanedeki, sizin \u00c7erkes oldu\u011funuzu bilmeyen ki\u015fi, bu \u00f6zelliklerinizden dolay\u0131 sadece sizi cezaland\u0131r\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Ne yapar?<\/p>\n

Ne yapacak, kahveden girdi\u011finde size elbise ask\u0131s\u0131 tavr\u0131 koyar. Ha gelmi\u015fsin, ha gelmemi\u015fsin onun i\u00e7in bir \u00f6nemi yoktur.<\/p>\n

\u0130yi de siz bundan etkilenir misiniz? E\u011fer etkilenmiyorsan\u0131z hi\u00e7 sorun yok demektir. Bu ya\u015fam bi\u00e7iminizle devam edebilirsiniz. Yok e\u011fer etkileniyorsan\u0131z, o zaman oturup ciddi bi\u00e7imde d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmelisiniz. \u201cBenim babam, dedem bu kahveye girdi\u011finde neden insanlar \u00f6nemserken, beni \u00f6nemsemiyorlar\u201d. Bu soruyu kendinize sorman\u0131z gerek.<\/p>\n

Acaba devir mi de\u011fi\u015fti, insanlar m\u0131 de\u011fi\u015fti, yoksa ben mi de\u011fi\u015ftim diye \u00e7ok iyi bir analiz yapman\u0131z gerekiyor.<\/p>\n

En kolay\u0131; devir de de\u011fi\u015fti, insanlar da de\u011fi\u015fti deyip i\u015fin i\u00e7inden s\u0131yr\u0131lmak. Zor olan\u0131 \u00c7erkes olmak. E\u011fer siz \u00c7erkes gibi davran\u0131rsan\u0131z; en l\u00fcmpeninden en entelekt\u00fceline, en efendisinden en berdu\u015funa kadar size \u00f6nceki devirlerde oldu\u011fu gibi sayg\u0131 duyacaklard\u0131r. Belki kahvehaneye girdi\u011finde aya\u011fa kalkmayacakt\u0131r ama sizi g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde kendine \u00e7eki d\u00fczen verecektir.<\/p>\n

Peki t\u00fcm bunlar, insanlar\u0131n bize sayg\u0131 duymalar\u0131 i\u00e7in mi yap\u0131lmal\u0131?<\/p>\n

Elbette hay\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Biz e\u011fer asimile olup, bu d\u00fcnya \u00fczerinden silinmek istemiyorsak, kendimiz gibi ya\u015famal\u0131y\u0131z. Bunun ko\u015fulu da toplumsal konumumuzu her zaman ayakta tutmakt\u0131r. Bu davran\u0131\u015f modellerini ya\u015fatmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z s\u00fcrece ne yaparsan\u0131z yap\u0131n ad\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcne \u201c\u00c7erkez\u201dden ba\u015fka her \u015feyi koyarlar. \u201cDelikanl\u0131 Mehmet\u201d olursun ama delikanl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n tart\u0131\u015f\u0131l\u0131r. \u201cBaba Ahmet\u201d olursun ama babal\u0131\u011f\u0131n tart\u0131\u015f\u0131l\u0131r. “Yi\u011fit Hasan\u201d olursun yi\u011fitli\u011fin tart\u0131\u015f\u0131l\u0131r.<\/p>\n

E\u011fer ger\u00e7ekten \u00c7erkes gibi ya\u015farsan, ad\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcndeki s\u0131fat hi\u00e7bir zaman tart\u0131\u015f\u0131lamaz. Toplumumuza en b\u00fcy\u00fck hizmeti vermi\u015f olursun.<\/p>\n

Toplumsal davran\u0131\u015f modelinin \u00f6n\u00fcne hi\u00e7bir stat\u00fc ge\u00e7emez.<\/p>\n

\u015eu an i\u00e7in d\u00fcnyada hala toplumumuz ayr\u0131cal\u0131kl\u0131. Ancak bu ayr\u0131cal\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z g\u00fcn ge\u00e7tik\u00e7e s\u0131radanla\u015f\u0131yor. B\u00f6yle giderse, bir s\u00fcre sonra da yok olacak.<\/p>\n

SonS\u00f6z<\/span>
\n\u00c7erkes, \u015fakay\u0131 laubalilikten ay\u0131rabilendir. (Kuban)<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Kuban Paul Seauhmann 02.10.2003 Bir insan düşünün. Gittiği kahvehanede insanlar onu görünce ayağa kalkıyor. Gençler, mekanı terk ediyorlar. Bir insan düşünün. Yolda giderken, herkes ona selam veriyor. Hatırını soruyor. Elinde bir şey varsa, gençler koşup elinden saygıyla alıyorlar ve götürmesi gereken yere ondan önce ulaştırıyorlar. Bir insan düşünün. 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