{"id":3383,"date":"2019-02-25T16:39:33","date_gmt":"2019-02-25T16:39:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/circassiancenter.com\/tr\/?p=3383"},"modified":"2019-02-25T16:39:33","modified_gmt":"2019-02-25T16:39:33","slug":"eski-dusman-dost-olur-mu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/eski-dusman-dost-olur-mu\/","title":{"rendered":"ESK\u0130 D\u00dc\u015eMAN DOST OLUR MU?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Kuban Paul Seauhmann
\n<\/b><\/span> 11.03.2006<\/span><\/p>\n

Eski d\u00fc\u015fman dost olur mu?<\/p>\n

Evet.<\/p>\n

Olur.<\/p>\n

\u00d6rne\u011fin; Almanya ile \u0130srail dosttur.<\/p>\n

\u00d6rne\u011fin; T\u00fcrkiye ile Rusya dosttur.<\/p>\n

\u00d6rne\u011fin; yine T\u00fcrkiye ile Yunanistan dosttur.<\/p>\n

D\u00fcnya g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fc d\u00fc\u015fmanl\u0131k \u00fczerine oturtmu\u015f her birey, ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131n her an\u0131nda \u00e7eli\u015fki ya\u015far. Bu \u00e7eli\u015fki onun so\u011fukkanl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 kaybetmesine ve yalpalamas\u0131na neden olur. Ki\u015fili\u011fi zay\u0131fsa yalpalamas\u0131, seviyesiz sata\u015fmalara d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr.<\/p>\n

Pekiyi, hangi ko\u015fullar eski d\u00fc\u015fmanlar\u0131 dost yapar?<\/p>\n

Bir\u00e7ok nedeni olabilir ancak en \u00f6nemli etken ekonomiktir. G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczde kapal\u0131 toplum olarak ya\u015famak neredeyse olanaks\u0131z. Yaln\u0131z kendi pazar\u0131n\u0131zda \u00fcr\u00fcn\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc satman\u0131z, karn\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 doyurman\u0131za yetmiyor. Bol keseden onu bunu d\u00fc\u015fman ilan etmeniz sizi tok tutmaz.<\/p>\n

Kan davas\u0131, a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 yukar\u0131 herkesin bildi\u011fi sosyal bir yara. Bir senden bir benden insan \u00f6ld\u00fcrerek, sonsuza dek s\u00fcren gerilimli, kan kokan bir ya\u015fam. Her g\u00fcn diken \u00fcst\u00fcnde oturmak, s\u0131ran\u0131 beklemek de cabas\u0131.<\/p>\n

Lise \u00e7a\u011flar\u0131m\u0131zda okulda bir arkada\u015f\u0131m\u0131z vard\u0131. \u0130nan\u0131lmaz i\u00e7ine kapan\u0131k. \u00d6n\u00fcne gelenin ittirip kakt\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131 biriydi. \u0130ki laf\u0131 bir araya getiremezdi. O denli \u00fcrkekti ki kendinden 3-4 ya\u015f k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fckler bile onu \u00f6rselemekte sak\u0131nca g\u00f6rmezlerdi. Hemen hemen hi\u00e7 konu\u015fmazd\u0131. S\u00f6zl\u00fc s\u0131nav\u0131na kalkt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda t\u00fcm sorular\u0131 kekeleyerek yan\u0131tlard\u0131. Bir g\u00fcn okul \u00e7alkaland\u0131. O y\u00f6renin en \u00fcnl\u00fc mafya babas\u0131n\u0131 9 kur\u015funla \u00f6ld\u00fcrm\u00fc\u015f.<\/p>\n

Hepimizin kan\u0131 donmu\u015ftu. Nas\u0131l olurdu? O sessiz, \u00fcrkek 16-17 ya\u015f\u0131ndaki bir gen\u00e7 45 ya\u015flar\u0131ndaki \u00fcnl\u00fc mafya babas\u0131n\u0131 hangi cesaretle \u00f6ld\u00fcrebilirdi?<\/p>\n

Sonradan \u00f6\u011frendik ki, kan davas\u0131.<\/p>\n

Hesap edin. Kendinden g\u00fc\u00e7 ve ya\u015f olarak a\u015fa\u011f\u0131da olan \u00e7ocuklardan bile \u00fcrken bir gen\u00e7, mafya babas\u0131na kur\u015fun ya\u011fd\u0131r\u0131yor. Sonrada kar\u015f\u0131 taraf kendi ailesinden birka\u00e7 ki\u015fiyi \u00f6ld\u00fcrd\u00fc.<\/p>\n

Kim kazan\u00e7l\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131? Bu iki ailenin bu kan davas\u0131ndan zarar g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc kesin. Karl\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kanlar bu ailelere silah satanlard\u0131. S\u00fcrekli bu kan davas\u0131n\u0131 k\u00f6r\u00fckleyenlerdi.<\/p>\n

\u015eimdi bu olay\u0131 \u00fclkeler boyutunda alal\u0131m. Kimileri gen\u00e7lerin kafas\u0131n\u0131 s\u00fcrekli nefretle dolduruyorlar. Eline de silah verip yolluyor.<\/p>\n

Bizarc\u0131k akl\u0131 olan kendine neden d\u00fc\u015fman yarats\u0131n ki?<\/p>\n

Bu sorunun en do\u011fru yan\u0131t\u0131, \u00e7aps\u0131zl\u0131k.<\/p>\n

Sanatta yoksun, bilimde yoksun, edebiyatta yoksun. S\u0131f\u0131rs\u0131n. Alt ku\u015fak senin a\u011fz\u0131na bak\u0131yor. Senin onlara \u00f6rnek olabilecek bir tek niteli\u011fin yok. Ne yapacaks\u0131n? Kolay. Aha d\u00fc\u015fman sald\u0131r\u0131n. Gen\u00e7ler d\u00fc\u015fmanla bo\u011fu\u015furken senin \u00e7aps\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rme \u015fans\u0131 olmayacak. Sa\u011flamas\u0131n\u0131 yapmak i\u00e7in sava\u015f k\u0131\u015fk\u0131rt\u0131c\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 yapanlara bir bak\u0131n. Bir tanesinin -ila\u00e7 niyetine- gen\u00e7li\u011fe \u00f6rnek olabilecek bir \u00f6zelli\u011fi var m\u0131? Yok. Zaten bilim adam\u0131 olsa, sanat\u00e7\u0131 olsa k\u0131sacas\u0131 bir \u00f6zelli\u011fi ile gen\u00e7lere \u00f6rnek olacak durumu olsa niye gen\u00e7leri k\u0131\u015fk\u0131rts\u0131n. Hadi toplay\u0131n \u00e7elenkleri b\u00fcy\u00fckel\u00e7ilik \u00f6n\u00fcne. Gen\u00e7ler; bak ne yi\u011fit bir b\u00fcy\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz var, diye kendilerini mutlu ve g\u00fcvende hissetsinler. Oysa ger\u00e7ek sava\u015fta, elinde silah\u0131yla cephede bir \u00e7ukurun i\u00e7inde tek ba\u015f\u0131na kald\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, o \u00e7elenk elde \u00f6nde giden b\u00fcy\u00fcklerini asla yan\u0131nda bulamayacak. \u0130nanmayan; uzak de\u011fil yak\u0131n tarihe baks\u0131nlar, hemen g\u00f6receklerdir.<\/p>\n

Her insan toplumda bir yer, bir konum aramak i\u00e7in didinir. Sosyal ya\u015fam\u0131n gere\u011fidir. Kendini; sporda, sanatta, edebiyatta geli\u015ftirememi\u015fse ne yapacak? Kaba g\u00fcc\u00fcne g\u00fcvenecek. Kaba g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fc nas\u0131l g\u00f6sterecek? Kendine d\u00fc\u015fman yaratarak.<\/p>\n

\u0130\u015fte \u00e7aps\u0131zl\u0131k budur.<\/p>\n

Bunun bedelini a\u011f\u0131r \u00f6der. Kimi zaman lider olarak, \u00e7o\u011funlukla da onun bunun ma\u015fas\u0131 olarak. \u0130nsan\u0131n en do\u011fal tepkisi olan korku duygusunu \u00f6ylesine gizler ki, bazen kendi bile \u015fa\u015f\u0131r\u0131r.<\/p>\n

\u00c7o\u011funuza denk gelmi\u015ftir. Adam \u00f6n\u00fcne gelene \u00e7atar. Kavga \u00e7\u0131karmak i\u00e7in her t\u00fcrl\u00fc bahaneyi yarat\u0131r. Ancak minnac\u0131k bir fare g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde ka\u00e7acak delik arar. Yolda yenge\u00e7 gibi yan yan y\u00fcr\u00fcr. Kendine g\u00f6re hedef k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fclt\u00fcyordur. Ancak ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131n hedef oldu\u011funu hi\u00e7bir zaman alg\u0131layamaz. Kendine d\u00fc\u015fman yerine dost edinse, adam gibi y\u00fcr\u00fcyebilece\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnemez.<\/p>\n

Bir de eli kalem tutan, m\u00fcrekkep yalam\u0131\u015flar vard\u0131r. Sak\u0131n g\u00fczel yaz\u0131lar yazabilen, \u015fair ruhlu falan olmalar\u0131 sizi yan\u0131ltmas\u0131n. Bunlar da kalemleriyle d\u00fc\u015fman yarat\u0131rlar. Bu t\u00fcrlere t\u00fcm\u00fcyle \u00e7aps\u0131z demek haks\u0131zl\u0131k olur. Yar\u0131 \u00e7apl\u0131d\u0131rlar. Son derece zekidirler. Ancak zekalar\u0131n\u0131 kullanmakta bocalarlar. Beyinlerindeki ileti\u015fim a\u011flar\u0131 internet ba\u011flant\u0131s\u0131 gibidir. En olmad\u0131k zaman da kesilir. Kafa birden bire durur. \u0130\u015fte en tehlikeli an budur. Bir bakars\u0131n\u0131z, ona buna a\u011f\u0131r hakaret i\u00e7eren mailler atarlar. Olmad\u0131k yerde insanlar\u0131 hain ilan ederler. Bilgisayar de\u011fil ki \u2018\u2019resetleyip\u2019\u2019 yeniden do\u011fru \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r hale getirelim.<\/p>\n

\u00c7evrenizde de vard\u0131r. Durduk yerde insanlara sata\u015fan. Durduk yerde s\u0131r\u0131tan. K\u00fcrek kaslar\u0131 olmamas\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131n kollar\u0131 bir t\u00fcrl\u00fc a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 sark\u0131tamayan insanlarla mutlaka kar\u015f\u0131la\u015fm\u0131\u015fs\u0131n\u0131zd\u0131r. Bu t\u00fcr insanlar birileriyle didi\u015fmeden ya\u015fayamazlar. Belaya bula\u015fmak, d\u00fc\u015fman edinmek uyu\u015fturucu al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan daha beter yakalar\u0131na yap\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n

\u00dcnl\u00fc s\u00f6zd\u00fcr; r\u00fczgar eken f\u0131rt\u0131na bi\u00e7er. Bizde ekleyelim; nefret eken, ac\u0131 bi\u00e7er.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Kuban Paul Seauhmann 11.03.2006 Eski düşman dost olur mu? Evet. Olur. Örneğin; Almanya ile İsrail dosttur. Örneğin; Türkiye ile Rusya dosttur. Örneğin; yine Türkiye ile Yunanistan dosttur. Dünya görüşünü düşmanlık üzerine oturtmuş her birey, yaşamının her anında çelişki yaşar. Bu çelişki onun soğukkanlılığını kaybetmesine ve yalpalamasına neden olur. Kişiliği zayıfsa yalpalaması, seviyesiz sataşmalara dönüşür. Pekiyi, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_bbp_topic_count":0,"_bbp_reply_count":0,"_bbp_total_topic_count":0,"_bbp_total_reply_count":0,"_bbp_voice_count":0,"_bbp_anonymous_reply_count":0,"_bbp_topic_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_reply_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_forum_subforum_count":0,"ocean_post_layout":"","ocean_both_sidebars_style":"","ocean_both_sidebars_content_width":0,"ocean_both_sidebars_sidebars_width":0,"ocean_sidebar":"0","ocean_second_sidebar":"0","ocean_disable_margins":"enable","ocean_add_body_class":"","ocean_shortcode_before_top_bar":"","ocean_shortcode_after_top_bar":"","ocean_shortcode_before_header":"","ocean_shortcode_after_header":"","ocean_has_shortcode":"","ocean_shortcode_after_title":"","ocean_shortcode_before_footer_widgets":"","ocean_shortcode_after_footer_widgets":"","ocean_shortcode_before_footer_bottom":"","ocean_shortcode_after_footer_bottom":"","ocean_display_top_bar":"default","ocean_display_header":"default","ocean_header_style":"","ocean_center_header_left_menu":"0","ocean_custom_header_template":"0","ocean_custom_logo":0,"ocean_custom_retina_logo":0,"ocean_custom_logo_max_width":0,"ocean_custom_logo_tablet_max_width":0,"ocean_custom_logo_mobile_max_width":0,"ocean_custom_logo_max_height":0,"ocean_custom_logo_tablet_max_height":0,"ocean_custom_logo_mobile_max_height":0,"ocean_header_custom_menu":"0","ocean_menu_typo_font_family":"0","ocean_menu_typo_font_subset":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_size":0,"ocean_menu_typo_font_size_tablet":0,"ocean_menu_typo_font_size_mobile":0,"ocean_menu_typo_font_size_unit":"px","ocean_menu_typo_font_weight":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_weight_tablet":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_weight_mobile":"","ocean_menu_typo_transform":"","ocean_menu_typo_transform_tablet":"","ocean_menu_typo_transform_mobile":"","ocean_menu_typo_line_height":0,"ocean_menu_typo_line_height_tablet":0,"ocean_menu_typo_line_height_mobile":0,"ocean_menu_typo_line_height_unit":"","ocean_menu_typo_spacing":0,"ocean_menu_typo_spacing_tablet":0,"ocean_menu_typo_spacing_mobile":0,"ocean_menu_typo_spacing_unit":"","ocean_menu_link_color":"","ocean_menu_link_color_hover":"","ocean_menu_link_color_active":"","ocean_menu_link_background":"","ocean_menu_link_hover_background":"","ocean_menu_link_active_background":"","ocean_menu_social_links_bg":"","ocean_menu_social_hover_links_bg":"","ocean_menu_social_links_color":"","ocean_menu_social_hover_links_color":"","ocean_disable_title":"default","ocean_disable_heading":"default","ocean_post_title":"","ocean_post_subheading":"","ocean_post_title_style":"","ocean_post_title_background_color":"","ocean_post_title_background":0,"ocean_post_title_bg_image_position":"","ocean_post_title_bg_image_attachment":"","ocean_post_title_bg_image_repeat":"","ocean_post_title_bg_image_size":"","ocean_post_title_height":0,"ocean_post_title_bg_overlay":0.5,"ocean_post_title_bg_overlay_color":"","ocean_disable_breadcrumbs":"default","ocean_breadcrumbs_color":"","ocean_breadcrumbs_separator_color":"","ocean_breadcrumbs_links_color":"","ocean_breadcrumbs_links_hover_color":"","ocean_display_footer_widgets":"default","ocean_display_footer_bottom":"default","ocean_custom_footer_template":"0","ocean_post_oembed":"","ocean_post_self_hosted_media":"","ocean_post_video_embed":"","ocean_link_format":"","ocean_link_format_target":"self","ocean_quote_format":"","ocean_quote_format_link":"post","ocean_gallery_link_images":"off","ocean_gallery_id":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[96],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3383","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-yazarlar-kuban-seauhmann","entry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3383","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3383"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3383\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3384,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3383\/revisions\/3384"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3383"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3383"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3383"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}