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Dr. ME\u015eFE\u015e’\u00dc Necdet Hatam<\/strong><\/p>\n Saat 22: 14.<\/p>\n Hemen her ak\u015fam oldu\u011fu gibi bilgisayar\u0131m\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131nday\u0131m. Uzun zamand\u0131r evde yaln\u0131z\u0131m. Sa\u011fl\u0131k sorunu nedeniyle e\u015fim Ankara\u2019da. Sitelerimizde dola\u015fmak, yazmak ele\u015ftirmek, bana ili\u015fkin ele\u015ftirileri okumak\u2026 Yaln\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 yenme \u00e7abas\u0131ndan \u00f6te bir ya\u015fam bi\u00e7imi oldu benim i\u00e7in.<\/p>\n \u201cAnla\u015f\u0131lmak mutluluktur\u201d. Belki herkeslerden daha \u00e7ok, yazanlar tatmak ister bu mutlulu\u011fu. Ger\u00e7ekten ne b\u00fcy\u00fck mutluluktur istediklerinizi anlatabilmi\u015f olmak ve yan\u0131t bulmak benzer y\u00fcrek at\u0131\u015flar\u0131 ile.<\/p>\n Anavatana d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131mdan beri yaz\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m eski arkada\u015flar\u0131mla, dosyalar dolduracak kadar \u00e7ok, \u00e7o\u011fu da yan\u0131ts\u0131z kalan yaz\u0131 birikti. B\u00fct\u00fcn bu y\u0131llar, eski arkada\u015flar\u0131ma, birlikte belirledi\u011fimiz \u201cd\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f ilkelerini\u201d yeniden benimsetmek m\u00fccadelesi ile ge\u00e7ti. \u00c7ok yumu\u015fak ba\u015flayan ele\u015ftirilerim zamanla sertle\u015fti. Yak\u0131n \u00e7evrede ad\u0131m \u201c\u00fcslup bilmeze\u201d \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131ld\u0131. Evet zaman, zaman \u00e7ok keskin yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131m, konu\u015ftu\u011fum da olur. Bunun da fark\u0131nday\u0131m. Ancak tuhaf\u0131ma giden, bunda arkada\u015flar\u0131n kendi paylar\u0131n\u0131n da olabilece\u011fini hi\u00e7 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmemeleri\u2026 Ele\u015ftiriler nas\u0131l sertle\u015fmesin, yaz\u0131lanlar yan\u0131ts\u0131z b\u0131rak\u0131l\u0131yorsa, yap\u0131lmas\u0131 gerekenler yap\u0131lmam\u0131\u015fsa, yap\u0131lm\u0131yorsa, en \u00f6nemlisi \u201cD\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f \u0130lkeleri\u201d hepten unutulmu\u015f, paradigma kaybedilmi\u015f, politika \u00e7arp\u0131t\u0131lm\u0131\u015f ise\u2026<\/p>\n Ancak anl\u0131k mutluluklar da ya\u015fam\u0131yor de\u011filim. \u00d6rne\u011fin 2006 y\u0131l\u0131 Ocak ay\u0131 ba\u015flar\u0131. Kaf-Fed merkezinde, dernekteyiz.<\/p>\n Dil Komisyonu toplant\u0131s\u0131.<\/p>\n Komisyonda olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m halde incelik g\u00f6sterdiler, ben de \u00e7a\u011fr\u0131ld\u0131m toplant\u0131ya. \u00c7o\u011fu eski kadrodan. Mutluluk heyecan\u2026 Nereden nereye\u2026 A\u0301d\u0131\u011fece yaz\u0131l\u0131 metinleri, kitaplar\u0131 saklad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z y\u0131llar\u0131 an\u0131msamamak, yak\u0131lmak zorunda kal\u0131nan kitaplar, belgeler i\u00e7in yeniden \u00fcz\u00fclmemek ne m\u00fcmk\u00fcn.<\/p>\n Evet, T\u00fcrkiye Cumhuriyeti AB yolunda. Gen\u00e7 arkada\u015flar\u0131n haz\u0131rlam\u0131\u015f oldu\u011fu Anadil Projesi deste\u011fe lay\u0131k g\u00f6r\u00fcld\u00fc. Cep har\u00e7l\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131zla, teksir makinalar\u0131 ile alfabe \u00e7o\u011faltt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z g\u00fcnler geride kald\u0131. Bu projeyi en iyi \u015fekilde ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirme \u00e7abas\u0131 yo\u011fun\u2026 Mutlulu\u011fu as\u0131l b\u00fcy\u00fcten program \u00e7er\u00e7evesinde e\u011fitim g\u00f6recek, kursu bitirecek on be\u015f aday\u0131n Abazaca ve yirmi be\u015f aday\u0131n da A\u0301d\u0131\u011fece ders verebilece\u011fi belgelerinin verilecek olmas\u0131. Daha \u00f6nemlisi bunun T.C. Milli E\u011fitim Bakanl\u0131\u011f\u0131\u2019nca ge\u00e7erli say\u0131lacak olmas\u0131. Bu 94 belgeleri alan arkada\u015flar\u0131n daha sonra a\u00e7aca\u011f\u0131 kurslar belki de arzu edilen yo\u011funlukta olamayabilecek. Ancak bu \u00e7al\u0131\u015fman\u0131n \u00f6nemini k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcltmez. Bir\u00e7ok yaz\u0131mda alt\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7izdim, as\u0131l eksi\u011fimizin \u00e7a\u011f\u0131n gereklerine g\u00f6re hareket edememek oldu\u011funu ama i\u015fte \u00e7a\u011f\u0131n olanaklar\u0131n\u0131 kovalayan gen\u00e7 kadro, projesini de \u00e7a\u011f\u0131n gere\u011fi gibi haz\u0131rlad\u0131 ki deste\u011fe lay\u0131k g\u00f6r\u00fcld\u00fc. Eme\u011fi ge\u00e7en t\u00fcm arkada\u015flar\u0131 g\u00f6n\u00fclden kutluyorum.<\/p>\n ”Nerden nereye” deyimini sadece TC y\u00f6netimi, T\u00fcrkiye\u2019deki demokrasinin geli\u015fmesi, anadillerin \u00f6zg\u00fcrle\u015fmesi anlam\u0131nda kulland\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 sanmay\u0131n. Gen\u00e7li\u011fimizde anadilimizi okuyup yazma konusunda kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za engel \u00e7\u0131kartanlar, kendi b\u00fcy\u00fcklerimiz, dernek y\u00f6netim kurullar\u0131nda da yer alan ya\u015fl\u0131lar\u0131m\u0131zd\u0131.<\/p>\n Y\u0131l 1968. D\u00f6nemin gen\u00e7lerine dernek\u00e7ilik, dernek disiplini vb. konularda \u00e7ok eme\u011fi ge\u00e7mi\u015f sevgili Ya\u015far Ba\u011f a\u011fabeyimizin destekleri ile Ankara Kuzey Kafkasya K\u00fclt\u00fcr Derne\u011fi Gen\u00e7lik Kolu\u2019nu kurduk. Dernek Y\u00f6netim ve Onur Kurulu ile Gen\u00e7lik Kolu toplant\u0131 halindeyiz. \u00d6n\u00fcm\u00fczdeki \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma d\u00f6neminde yap\u0131labilecek \u015feyleri konu\u015fuyoruz, belirli bir sayg\u0131 \u00e7er\u00e7evesinde. Ba\u015fkan\u0131m\u0131z Cemil Y\u0131ld\u0131z, gen\u00e7lik kolunun ilkelerini iletti y\u00f6netim kurulumuza. Sonra da \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma program\u0131m\u0131z\u0131. Maddelerden biri anadilde okuma yazma kurslar\u0131 a\u00e7makt\u0131. T\u00fcm b\u00fcy\u00fcklerimizde bir infial. Nas\u0131l olabilirdi. Kom\u00fcnist bir \u00fclkeden gelen kitaplar nas\u0131l ta\u015f\u0131nabilir, nas\u0131l okunabilir, nas\u0131l okutulabilirdi. Buna nas\u0131l cesaret edebilirdik. Hem bu kitaplar\u0131 nas\u0131l sa\u011fl\u0131yorduk. Nerden, nas\u0131l geliyordu bu kitaplar?<\/p>\n Amasya\u2019l\u0131 Ceyhan Lu a\u011fabeyimiz s\u00f6z al\u0131r bu sorular \u00fczerine. Tan\u0131yanlar bilir Ceyhan a\u011fabey \u00e7ok a\u011f\u0131r-aheste, \u00e7ok yumu\u015fak konu\u015furdu. Genelde de dinlemeyi tercih eden, daha \u00e7ok, \u00fcreten bir a\u011fabeyimizdi. O d\u00f6nemde de Kafkasya K\u00fclt\u00fcrel Dergi\u2019ye emek veren, \u0130zzet Aydemir a\u011fabeye 95 yard\u0131mc\u0131 olanlardand\u0131.. Evet s\u00f6z alan Ceyhan Lu, tan\u0131mlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m kendine \u00f6zg\u00fc konu\u015fmas\u0131 ile \u201cVallahi kitaplar, di\u011fer arkada\u015flar\u0131ma nas\u0131l geliyor bilmiyorum ama bana, TC postalar\u0131 ile geliyor\u201d demez mi?… Soruyu soran b\u00fcy\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz dahil makaralar\u0131 koyuvermi\u015ftik.<\/p>\n \u00c7ok, \u00e7ok uzun y\u0131llar oldu Lu Ceyhan ile g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015femedi\u011fimiz. En son \u0130zmir taraflar\u0131nda oldu\u011funu duymu\u015ftum ama Ceyhan a\u011fabey \u00f6zellikle o toplant\u0131daki hali ile hep g\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcn \u00f6n\u00fcnde\u2026 Bir de her okudu\u011fumda g\u00f6zlerimin nemlenmesine engel olamad\u0131\u011f\u0131m Kafkasya K\u00fclt\u00fcrel Dergi’deki \u015fu anlat\u0131s\u0131 ile\u2026 Biliyorum okudu\u011funuzda, siz de iliklerinize kadar duyumsayacaks\u0131n\u0131z s\u00fcr\u00fclen, aldat\u0131lan atalar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n, halk\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n nas\u0131l t\u00fckendi\u011fini, k\u00f6ylerimizin nas\u0131l yok oldu\u011funu\u2026 Hem her birimiz maalesef art\u0131k tan\u0131\u011f\u0131 de\u011fil miyiz do\u011fup b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz k\u00f6ylerin yok olu\u015funa\u2026 Kimilerimizin k\u00f6yleri belki duruyordur yerli yerinde yerle\u015fim yeri olarak\u2026 Peki dil, n\u00fcfus, \u00e7ocuk say\u0131s\u0131\u2026 Kim s\u00f6yleyebilir okuyacak \u00e7ocuk bulunamad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in ka\u00e7 k\u00f6y\u00fcm\u00fczde ilkokullar\u0131n kapand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131?… Hangimiz tan\u0131k olmad\u0131 k\u00f6ylerimizin ancak tatillerde birazc\u0131k hareketlendi\u011fine\u2026 Dedelerimiz, ninelerimizin, torunlar\u0131 ile anla\u015fabilmek i\u00e7in yar\u0131m yamalak T\u00fcrk\u00e7e konu\u015fmalar\u0131na…<\/p>\n Sevgiyle and\u0131\u011f\u0131m, bu yaz\u0131m\u0131 okusun diledi\u011fim Ceyhan Lu a\u011fabey\u2019in anlat\u0131s\u0131 bunlar d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda, kim bilir daha neler d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcrtecek sizlere\u2026 \u201c\u00c7erkes Vadisinde 12 \u00c7erkes Mezarl\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00d6\u011fretmen: C. LU Amasya\u2019dan G\u00f6y\u00fcnc\u00fck\u2019e gidenler, K\u0131rka\u011fa\u00e7 istasyonunu ge\u00e7tikten sora, \u00c7ekerek\u2019in her iki yan\u0131nda uzanan \u0131rma\u011f\u0131n sulad\u0131\u011f\u0131, senede en az iki defa \u00fcr\u00fcn veren ; trakt\u00f6rlerin ar\u0131 gibi v\u0131z\u0131ldad\u0131\u011f\u0131, yer, yer kavakl\u0131klar ve meyve bah\u00e7eleriyle \u00f6rt\u00fcl\u00fc verimli ovac\u0131klar\u0131 96 g\u00f6rm\u00fc\u015flerdir. Irma\u011f\u0131n sa\u011f\u0131nda, solunda, kah vadinin taban\u0131nda, yada ye\u015fillikler aras\u0131nda, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck k\u00f6ylere \u2013ki bunlar\u0131n \u00fc\u00e7 tanesi 1864\u2019den sonra Kuzey Kafkasya\u2019dan g\u00f6\u00e7 eden \u00c7erkeslerin kurdu\u011fu G\u00f6zlek, Konuralan, Bekdemir k\u00f6yleridir- rastlan\u0131r.<\/p>\n K\u0131sa tarih\u00e7esi ile ilgilenmek amac\u0131yla bu \u00fc\u00e7 k\u00f6y\u00fc gezme\u011fe gitti\u011fimde, amac\u0131m\u0131 ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftiremedim ama bunun yerine 12 \u00c7erkes mezarl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ile kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131m (Bunlardan birisi de benim dedelerimin yatt\u0131\u011f\u0131 mezarl\u0131k). Mezar ta\u015flar\u0131 y\u0131k\u0131lm\u0131\u015f, sahipsiz, bak\u0131ms\u0131z, zavall\u0131 bir g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015f\u2026 Bu on iki \u00c7erkes k\u00f6y\u00fc, ne zaman, hangi yolla, ne gibi \u00e7ileler \u00e7ektikten sonra Kafkasya\u2019dan buralara d\u00fc\u015fm\u00fc\u015flerdi? Daha \u00f6nce acaba di\u011fer kader arkada\u015flar\u0131 gibi kim bilir nerelerde konaklam\u0131\u015flard\u0131?<\/p>\n Bu on iki mezarl\u0131k buraya kadar eri\u015febilenlerin mezarlar\u0131. Ya buralara eri\u015femeden yollarda d\u00f6k\u00fclenler. Ya\u015fl\u0131lar, kartal bak\u0131\u015fl\u0131 yi\u011fitler, selvi boylu, nazl\u0131 \u00c7erkes k\u0131zlar\u0131, hen\u00fcz ye\u015ferme\u011fe f\u0131rsat bulamadan, t\u0131rpanla bi\u00e7ilmi\u015f\u00e7esine topra\u011fa serilen zavall\u0131 sabi yavrucaklar…<\/p>\n Mezar ta\u015flar\u0131na bakarak haklar\u0131nda \u00f6\u011frenmek istediklerimdi bunlar. Ama mezar ta\u015flar\u0131 benimle konu\u015fmad\u0131, sorular\u0131ma cevap vermediler. Sanki onlar\u0131n u\u011frad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bu elim felaketin sorumlusu benmi\u015fim gibi, baz\u0131 mezar ta\u015flar\u0131 ba\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 topra\u011fa g\u00f6mm\u00fc\u015flerdi. Fakat yine de i\u00e7lerinde anlay\u0131\u015fl\u0131 olanlar vard\u0131. Bir\u015feyler, hatta bir\u00e7ok \u015feyler anlatt\u0131lar bana. Ben pek az\u0131n\u0131 anlayabildim anlatt\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131n: \u201cBiz\u201d dediler, \u201c\u015fu topraklarda yatanlar, \u00c7erkes muhacirleriyiz. Rus \u00c7arlar\u0131 \u00fclkemize g\u00f6z dikmi\u015flerdi, yurdumuza sahip olmak i\u00e7in sava\u015ft\u0131lar bizimle. Sava\u015ft\u0131k, sava\u015ft\u0131k, tam \u00fc\u00e7 y\u00fcz y\u0131l boyunca sava\u015ft\u0131k vatan\u0131m\u0131z\u0131, h\u00fcrriyetimizi korumak i\u00e7in. Ama d\u00fc\u015fman\u0131m\u0131z b\u00fcy\u00fckt\u00fc, \u00e7ok g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fcyd\u00fc. T\u00fcketemedik \u00f6ld\u00fcrmekle, sonunda biz t\u00fckendik. D\u00fc\u015fman \u00fclkemizi ald\u0131. Biz de \u2018vatan\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 kaybettikse de iman\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 kaybetmedik a\u2019 dedik. Terk ettik vatan\u0131, geldik halifenin \u00fclkesine, \u0130slam diyar\u0131na.<\/p>\n Biz tepeleri, g\u00f6kleri delen Kafkas\u2019\u0131n \u00e7ocuklar\u0131yd\u0131k. Kartal yuvalar\u0131nda b\u00fcy\u00fcm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fck Hamurumuz, Kafkas\u2019\u0131n topra\u011f\u0131yla yo\u011frulmu\u015ftu. Kafkas vadilerinin buzlu sular\u0131yla sertle\u015fmi\u015f, \u00e7elikle\u015fmi\u015ftik. Boynumuz kal\u0131n, bileklerimiz kuvvetliydi. Ne yaz\u0131k ki \u00c7ekerek vadisinin \u00e7\u00fcr\u00fck suyu, batakl\u0131klar\u0131ndaki u\u011fursuz sivrisinekleri boynumuzu armut sap\u0131na \u00e7evirdi. G\u00fcnlerce kul\u00fcbelerimizin etraf\u0131nda tir, tir titreyerek, g\u00fcne\u015flenip yatt\u0131ktan sonra bir daha kalkmamak \u00fczere buraya, ebedi yerimize g\u00f6\u00e7 ettik. \u0130\u015fte delikanl\u0131 bu on iki \u00c7erkes k\u00f6y\u00fcn\u00fcn tarih\u00e7esi.<\/p>\n Bu on iki \u00c7erkes k\u00f6y\u00fcn\u00fcn kuruldu\u011fu y\u0131llardaki n\u00fcfusu ile isimleri a\u015fa\u011f\u0131dad\u0131r:<\/p>\n K\u0131lcak (Penexes) 80 haneAbdzax<\/p>\n Kabaktepe 30 Abdzax<\/p>\n Sergiz 500 Kheberd\u0113y biraz da Abdzax<\/p>\n \u0130skilip 60 Abdzax Kutluk\u00f6y 80 Kheberd\u0113y<\/p>\n Bekdemir 80 Abdzax<\/p>\n Konuralan 55 Abdzax<\/p>\n K\u00f6t\u00fck\u00f6y (Westekhuehabl) 65 Abdzax<\/p>\n \u0130\u011fdelik 70 Abdzax<\/p>\n Kavak 45 Abdzax<\/p>\n \u015euayip k\u00f6y 25 Kheberd\u0113y<\/p>\n G\u00f6zlek 80 Abdzax<\/p>\n \u015eu anda bu k\u00f6ylerden Konuralan\u2019da 40 hane, G\u00f6lek\u2019de 15 hane, Bekdemir\u2019de 10 hane \u00c7erkes aile oturmakta ise de G\u00f6zlek ve Bekdmir\u2019de oturanlar bu k\u00f6ylerin kurulu\u015funda burada oturmay\u0131p, son senelerde ba\u015fka k\u00f6ylerden buraya gelip yerle\u015fen \u00c7erkes aileleridir. Ayr\u0131ca G\u00f6zlek k\u00f6y\u00fcnden 15 hane de K\u00f6t\u00fck\u00f6y\u2019e yerle\u015fmi\u015ftir.\u201d<\/p>\n Evet yukar\u0131daki liste k\u00f6ylerin kurulu\u015f y\u0131llar\u0131ndaki durumu\u20261968 y\u0131l\u0131ndaki durumu da Ceyhan A\u011fabey tespit etmi\u015f. Peki ya \u015fimdi, 2006 daki durum \u2026 Bu anlat\u0131y\u0131 okuyan, halk\u0131n\u0131 seven, dili k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fc ya\u015fas\u0131n isteyen her insan\u0131n, sizce de y\u00fcre\u011fi s\u0131zlamaz, g\u00f6z\u00fc nemlenmez mi? Ya siz kendinizin y\u00fcrek burkulmas\u0131na engel olabildiniz mi? Diyasporada var olunamayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 iliklerinize kadar duyumsamad\u0131n\u0131z m\u0131?<\/p>\n M\u0131yequape d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fc CC\u2019deki posta kutusuna bir aya yak\u0131n bakamam\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. Bir hafta kadar \u00f6nce a\u00e7t\u0131\u011f\u0131mda \u00e7ok uzun s\u00fcre \u00f6nce yaz\u0131lm\u0131\u015f birka\u00e7 ileti buldum kutuda. Bunlardan birini Say\u0131n Aytek Kubat g\u00f6ndermi\u015fti. CC\u2019deki 28.01.2006 tarihli da\u011farc\u0131k\u2019da, haftal\u0131k yaz\u0131mda, s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc etti\u011fim, ele\u015ftirdi\u011fim Ankara Derne\u011fi\u2019ndeki bayramla\u015fma merkezli yaz\u0131da de\u011findi\u011fim hemen her konuya de\u011finen, ince bir yaz\u0131. Say\u0131n Kubat ile ilk kez bu bayramla\u015fmada kar\u015f\u0131la\u015fm\u0131\u015ft\u0131k, genel konu\u015fmalar, \u00e7er\u00e7evesinde, g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f belirtmeler d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda, \u00f6zel bir sohbetimiz de olmam\u0131\u015ft\u0131. \u0130zninizle, xabze d\u0131\u015f\u0131na \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131m i\u00e7in de utanarak yaz\u0131n\u0131n kimi b\u00f6l\u00fcmlerini vereyim:<\/p>\n \u201cSay\u0131n Hatam Necdet Bey, \u00d6ncelikle selam ve sevgilerimle sizi kucakl\u0131yorum. Uzun s\u00fcre bir ar\u0131za nedeniyle bilgisayar\u2019\u0131m devre d\u0131\u015f\u0131yd\u0131, bu nedenle internet ba\u011flant\u0131m kesilmi\u015fti. Sizin kendinize \u00f6zg\u00fc \u00fcslubunuzla kaleme ald\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z nazik, k\u0131r\u0131c\u0131l\u0131ktan uzak ama etkili yaz\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 okumaktan mahrum kalm\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. \u015eimdi uzun bir s\u00fcre sonra sizi okumaktan b\u00fcy\u00fck bir keyif ald\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 dile getirmek isterim.\u201d<\/p>\n Hemen her tart\u0131\u015fmada, yaz\u0131\u015fmada eski arkada\u015flar\u0131mca, \u00e7o\u011fun \u00f6z\u00fcnde hakl\u0131 olmama kar\u015f\u0131n \u00fcslubumun yanl\u0131\u015f oldu\u011fu, k\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 oldu\u011fu konusunda o kadar \u00e7ok ele\u015ftirildim, ele\u015ftiriliyorum ki Say\u0131n Kubat\u2019\u0131n bu s\u00f6zleri benim i\u00e7in ger\u00e7ekten mutluluk kayna\u011f\u0131 oldu. Anla\u015f\u0131lma mutlulu\u011funu ya\u015fatt\u0131. Kimi eski arkada\u015flar\u0131mla, tart\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 ger\u00e7ekten k\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 boyutlara g\u00f6t\u00fcren as\u0131l nedenin, benim k\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 \u00fcslubumdan \u00e7ok, \u00f6zle ilgili oldu\u011fu, \u00fcz\u00fcc\u00fcd\u00fcr ki kimi arkada\u015flar\u0131m\u0131n paradigmalar\u0131n\u0131n de\u011fi\u015fmi\u015f oldu\u011fu g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm\u00fc peki\u015ftirdi. Bu arkada\u015flar\u0131m\u0131n, yaz\u0131lar\u0131m i\u00e7in kendilerinden farkl\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnenlerin de oldu\u011funu g\u00f6rmeleri 99 iste\u011fim, xabzeye ayk\u0131r\u0131 davranmama neden oldu, l\u00fctfen affedin\u2026<\/p>\n \u201cBayramla\u015fma\u201d yaz\u0131mdaki ele\u015ftirilerime kat\u0131lan Say\u0131n Kubat, xabzeye uygun nas\u0131l bayramla\u015f\u0131lmas\u0131, genelde bir toplulukta xabze\u2019ye uygun nas\u0131l selamla\u015f\u0131lmas\u0131 gerkti\u011fini o kadar g\u00fczel anlatt\u0131 ki sadece bende kalmas\u0131na g\u00f6nl\u00fcm raz\u0131 olmad\u0131:<\/p>\n \u201cBu t\u00fcr olaylar\u0131, telefon mesajlar\u0131yla yer ve zaman belirterek ilan etmekle organize etmi\u015f say\u0131lamay\u0131z. Sizin de de\u011findi\u011finiz gibi; Konuklar\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131lama, m\u00fczik benzeri bir\u00e7ok \u015feyi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmek ve y\u0131lda iki defa ger\u00e7ekle\u015fen b\u00f6yle g\u00fcnleri \u00e7ok iyi de\u011ferlendirmemiz gerek.<\/p>\n Salona girenlerin b\u00fcy\u00fck bir \u00e7o\u011funlu\u011funun b\u0131rak\u0131n \u201cXabze\u201dyi protokol kaidelerini bile bilmediklerine, bilenlerin de o karambolde suyun ak\u0131\u015f\u0131na kendilerini b\u0131rakt\u0131klar\u0131na \u015fahit olduk. Sizi rahats\u0131z eden hususlar, beni de, belki bir\u00e7ok ki\u015fiyi de rahats\u0131z etti.<\/p>\n B\u00f6yle bir salona giren ki\u015finin kap\u0131ya en uzak oturan ki\u015fiye bakmas\u0131 onun davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131na g\u00f6re kendi rol\u00fcn\u00fc oynamas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini yine bu t\u00fcr toplant\u0131larda bilenlerin bilemeyenlerin kula\u011f\u0131na \u00fcflemesi, ayr\u0131ca iki ayda bir \u00e7\u0131kan dergimizde k\u0131sa-k\u0131sa anlat\u0131lmas\u0131 gerekmektedir.<\/p>\n Ba\u015flam\u0131\u015fken yar\u0131da b\u0131rakmayay\u0131m. Oturan ya\u015fl\u0131n\u0131n davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 neler olabilir?<\/p>\n 1) Salona giren ki\u015fi 7 ya\u015f\u0131nda olsa bile aya\u011fa kalkmak esast\u0131r. Ancak Thamade o andaki sohbeti veya konu\u015fmay\u0131 kesmemek i\u00e7in oturdu\u011fu yerden ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6ne e\u011ferek gelen ki\u015fiyi selamlar.<\/p>\n 2) Aya\u011fa kalk\u0131p kendisini selamlar ve el i\u015faretiyle oturmas\u0131n\u0131 veya kendisine bir yer bulmas\u0131n\u0131 i\u015faret eder.<\/p>\n 3) Aya\u011fa kalk\u0131p bir ad\u0131m \u00f6ne \u00e7\u0131kar.<\/p>\n 4) Aya\u011fa kalk\u0131p oturdu\u011fu yerin \u00f6n\u00fcn\u00fc a\u00e7arak birka\u00e7 ad\u0131m ilerler.<\/p>\n Salonda bulunan di\u011fer ki\u015filer de ya\u015fl\u0131n\u0131n davran\u0131\u015f\u0131na paralel hareket ederler. (genelde thamadelerin sa\u011f taraf\u0131nda bayanlar sol taraf\u0131nda baylar ya\u015f durumuna g\u00f6re oturmal\u0131 veya ayakta durmal\u0131d\u0131rlar) Salona giren ki\u015fi erkekse kendisinden daha gen\u00e7 olanlar bulunduklar\u0131 yerden bir sola, bayan ise hemcinsleri yine ya\u015f durumuna g\u00f6re bir sa\u011fa kayarak kendisine yer a\u00e7arlar.<\/p>\n Salona giren ki\u015fi Thamadenin 1 ve 2 nolu davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131ndan selam\u0131n\u0131n al\u0131nd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlar ve sessizce kendisi i\u00e7in a\u00e7\u0131lan yere ge\u00e7er. 3 nolu davran\u0131\u015f Thamadenin kendisiyle tokala\u015fmak istedi\u011fini belirtir. Salona giren ki\u015fi seri ad\u0131mlarla kendisine yakla\u015f\u0131p elini al\u0131r. Thamadenin sa\u011f\u0131nda oturan elini uzat\u0131rsa onunla ve Thamadenin solundaki ile de tokala\u015ft\u0131ktan sonra geri, geri y\u00fcr\u00fcyerek kendine a\u00e7\u0131lan yere gider. Kaideyi bilen bir d\u00f6rd\u00fcnc\u00fc ki\u015fi elini uzatmaz.<\/p>\n 4 nolu davran\u0131\u015f: Gelen ki\u015finin, sayg\u0131de\u011fer bir b\u00fcy\u00fck oldu\u011funu g\u00f6sterir. Gelen ya\u015fl\u0131 da \u00fc\u00e7 ki\u015fi ile tokala\u015ft\u0131ktan sonra y\u00fcksek sesle salondakileri selamlay\u0131p kendisine g\u00f6sterilen yere oturur.<\/p>\n Bu t\u00fcr yerlerde maddi g\u00fc\u00e7, makam ve mevki\u2019e de\u011fil akl\u0131selim ya\u015fl\u0131ya itibar edilir.<\/p>\n B\u00fcy\u00fcklerimden \u00f6z\u00fcr dileyerek \u015funu dile getirmek isterim ki; Kafkasya\u2019da misafirhaneler (A\u0301d\u0131\u011fece ha\u00e7\u00e7e\u015f) en \u00fcst seviye sosyal ilimler akademisi g\u00f6revini g\u00f6r\u00fcyorlard\u0131. O k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fc almam\u0131\u015f olanlar\u0131n ya\u015flar\u0131, etiketleri ne olursa olsun topluma yarar sa\u011flam\u0131yorlar. S\u00f6z konusu bayramla\u015fmam\u0131zda bir a\u011fabeyimiz s\u00f6z\u00fcm ona modern bir \u00f6rnek sergiledi; \u00d6ncelikle bayanlar\u0131n oturdu\u011fu k\u00f6\u015feye y\u00f6neldi. Elbetteki geleneklerimizde bayanlar\u0131n \u00f6ncelik ta\u015f\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131 yerler var ama kanaatimce o yer buras\u0131 de\u011fildi\u201d.<\/p>\n Say\u0131n Kubat\u2019\u0131n, ad\u0131 ge\u00e7en yaz\u0131mda yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m isim yanl\u0131\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in yazd\u0131klar\u0131, k\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 olmayan, hep g\u00f6z \u00f6n\u00fcnde bulundurmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015faca\u011f\u0131m bir ince ele\u015ftiri \u00f6rne\u011fi; \u201c\u0130nternet\u2019teki 101 yaz\u0131n\u0131zdan konu\u015fmam esnas\u0131nda bir hata yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 zannediyorum. Galiba Musa Kunduk Pa\u015fa diyece\u011fime o\u011flu Bekir Sami Kunduk\u2019un ad\u0131n\u0131 vermi\u015fim. Bu da sizi tarih olarak yan\u0131ltm\u0131\u015f olmal\u0131. E\u011fer b\u00f6yle bir hata yapm\u0131\u015f isem \u00f6z\u00fcr dilerim.\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cMuhacirin Hicrand\u0131r \u00d6mr\u00fcn\u00fcn Yar\u0131s\u0131\u201d. Bilmem ki bir kitab\u0131n ad\u0131 kendini nas\u0131l bu kadar g\u00fczel tan\u0131mlayabilir. Hele okumay\u0131 bir bitireyim, yolculuk s\u0131ras\u0131nda beni dolayaca\u011f\u0131 an\u0131lar\u0131 da sizinle payla\u015fmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015faca\u011f\u0131m ve soluk alabildi\u011fim s\u00fcrece de y\u00fcr\u00fcyece\u011fim. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc biliyorsunuz halk\u0131ma s\u00f6z\u00fcm var.<\/p>\n \u201c(\u2026)<\/p>\n s\u00f6z\u00fcn k\u0131sas\u0131 g\u00fczelim;<\/p>\n seni sarsmamal\u0131<\/p>\n en sa\u011flam bildiklerinin y\u0131k\u0131l\u0131\u015f\u0131<\/p>\n yld\u0131rmamal\u0131 seni<\/p>\n en y\u0131lmaz bildiklerinin y\u0131lg\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131<\/p>\n y\u00fcr\u00fcmeli, y\u00fcr\u00fcmelisin<\/p>\n inanc\u0131n do\u011frultusunda sa\u011flam ad\u0131mlarla<\/p>\n taaa ki\u2026<\/p>\n ere\u011fine var\u0131ncaya dek<\/p>\n ya da \u00f6l\u00fcnceye\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Dr. MEŞFEŞ’Ü Necdet Hatam Saat 22: 14. Hemen her akşam olduğu gibi bilgisayarımın başındayım. Uzun zamandır evde yalnızım. Sağlık sorunu nedeniyle eşim Ankara’da. Sitelerimizde dolaşmak, yazmak eleştirmek, bana ilişkin eleştirileri okumak… Yalnızlığımı yenme çabasından öte bir yaşam biçimi oldu benim için. “Anlaşılmak mutluluktur”. Belki herkeslerden daha çok, yazanlar tatmak ister bu mutluluğu. Gerçekten ne büyük […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_bbp_topic_count":0,"_bbp_reply_count":0,"_bbp_total_topic_count":0,"_bbp_total_reply_count":0,"_bbp_voice_count":0,"_bbp_anonymous_reply_count":0,"_bbp_topic_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_reply_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_forum_subforum_count":0,"ocean_post_layout":"","ocean_both_sidebars_style":"","ocean_both_sidebars_content_width":0,"ocean_both_sidebars_sidebars_width":0,"ocean_sidebar":"0","ocean_second_sidebar":"0","ocean_disable_margins":"enable","ocean_add_body_class":"","ocean_shortcode_before_top_bar":"","ocean_shortcode_after_top_bar":"","ocean_shortcode_before_header":"","ocean_shortcode_after_header":"","ocean_has_shortcode":"","ocean_shortcode_after_title":"","ocean_shortcode_before_footer_widgets":"","ocean_shortcode_after_footer_widgets":"","ocean_shortcode_before_footer_bottom":"","ocean_shortcode_after_footer_bottom":"","ocean_display_top_bar":"default","ocean_display_header":"default","ocean_header_style":"","ocean_center_header_left_menu":"0","ocean_custom_header_template":"0","ocean_custom_logo":0,"ocean_custom_retina_logo":0,"ocean_custom_logo_max_width":0,"ocean_custom_logo_tablet_max_width":0,"ocean_custom_logo_mobile_max_width":0,"ocean_custom_logo_max_height":0,"ocean_custom_logo_tablet_max_height":0,"ocean_custom_logo_mobile_max_height":0,"ocean_header_custom_menu":"0","ocean_menu_typo_font_family":"0","ocean_menu_typo_font_subset":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_size":0,"ocean_menu_typo_font_size_tablet":0,"ocean_menu_typo_font_size_mobile":0,"ocean_menu_typo_font_size_unit":"px","ocean_menu_typo_font_weight":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_weight_tablet":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_weight_mobile":"","ocean_menu_typo_transform":"","ocean_menu_typo_transform_tablet":"","ocean_menu_typo_transform_mobile":"","ocean_menu_typo_line_height":0,"ocean_menu_typo_line_height_tablet":0,"ocean_menu_typo_line_height_mobile":0,"ocean_menu_typo_line_height_unit":"","ocean_menu_typo_spacing":0,"ocean_menu_typo_spacing_tablet":0,"ocean_menu_typo_spacing_mobile":0,"ocean_menu_typo_spacing_unit":"","ocean_menu_link_color":"","ocean_menu_link_color_hover":"","ocean_menu_link_color_active":"","ocean_menu_link_background":"","ocean_menu_link_hover_background":"","ocean_menu_link_active_background":"","ocean_menu_social_links_bg":"","ocean_menu_social_hover_links_bg":"","ocean_menu_social_links_color":"","ocean_menu_social_hover_links_color":"","ocean_disable_title":"default","ocean_disable_heading":"default","ocean_post_title":"","ocean_post_subheading":"","ocean_post_title_style":"","ocean_post_title_background_color":"","ocean_post_title_background":0,"ocean_post_title_bg_image_position":"","ocean_post_title_bg_image_attachment":"","ocean_post_title_bg_image_repeat":"","ocean_post_title_bg_image_size":"","ocean_post_title_height":0,"ocean_post_title_bg_overlay":0.5,"ocean_post_title_bg_overlay_color":"","ocean_disable_breadcrumbs":"default","ocean_breadcrumbs_color":"","ocean_breadcrumbs_separator_color":"","ocean_breadcrumbs_links_color":"","ocean_breadcrumbs_links_hover_color":"","ocean_display_footer_widgets":"default","ocean_display_footer_bottom":"default","ocean_custom_footer_template":"0","ocean_post_oembed":"","ocean_post_self_hosted_media":"","ocean_post_video_embed":"","ocean_link_format":"","ocean_link_format_target":"self","ocean_quote_format":"","ocean_quote_format_link":"post","ocean_gallery_link_images":"off","ocean_gallery_id":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[137],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-34883","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-yazarlar-mesfessu-necdet-hatam","entry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/34883","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=34883"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/34883\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":34886,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/34883\/revisions\/34886"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=34883"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=34883"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=34883"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}