{"id":3557,"date":"2019-02-25T18:18:10","date_gmt":"2019-02-25T18:18:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/circassiancenter.com\/tr\/?p=3557"},"modified":"2019-02-25T18:18:10","modified_gmt":"2019-02-25T18:18:10","slug":"hayati-dolu-dolu-yasamak","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/hayati-dolu-dolu-yasamak\/","title":{"rendered":"HAYATI DOLU DOLU YA\u015eAMAK"},"content":{"rendered":"

Semra Ademey G<\/span>\u00fcrel<\/strong>
\n<\/span>11.02.2006<\/span><\/p>\n

Kafkasya\u2019ya d\u00f6nmeyi g\u00f6ze alamayanlara, biraz \u00fcrkek bakanlara k\u0131zar\u0131z. Sanki onlar anavatan\u0131n\u0131 sevmiyormu\u015f gibi alg\u0131lar\u0131z. Oysa hayat\u0131n ger\u00e7ekleri var. Bizler bu ger\u00e7ekleri g\u00f6rmek ve en sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 \u015fekle sokmak durumunda de\u011fil miyiz? Neden bir t\u00fcrl\u00fc iki ad\u0131m\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 dengeli bir \u015fekilde atamay\u0131z? Kesinlikle eksik olan bir \u015feyler var ama ne?<\/p>\n

Her ge\u00e7en g\u00fcn hayat\u0131n i\u00e7erisinde k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcld\u00fck\u00e7e k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcl\u00fcyoruz. Her g\u00fcn daha iyi olacak diye \u00e7abalad\u0131k\u00e7a daha \u00e7ok s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131lar ile kar\u015f\u0131la\u015f\u0131yoruz. Y\u0131llar ge\u00e7tik\u00e7e al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar, ihtiya\u00e7lar, beklentiler de h\u0131zla, daha bir \u00e7\u0131kmaza do\u011fru de\u011fi\u015fiyor. Bar\u0131nma, beslenme, sosyal derken her ge\u00e7en g\u00fcn ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131m\u0131z art\u0131yor ve yeni ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131 hedef tayin edip onlara do\u011fru ko\u015fuyoruz. En az\u0131ndan elimizde olanlar\u0131 korumak i\u00e7in u\u011fra\u015f vermek durumunda kal\u0131yoruz.<\/p>\n

Bizler Kafkasya\u2019dan ayr\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda b\u00fcy\u00fck bir \u00e7o\u011funlu\u011fumuzun yerle\u015fti\u011fi alanlar k\u00f6ylerdi. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u00e7ift\u00e7ili\u011fi biliyorduk ve yeni evimizde hayatta kalmak i\u00e7in en iyi bildi\u011fimiz i\u015fi yapmak zorundayd\u0131k. Y\u0131llarca bu b\u00f6yle devam etti. O zamanlar sorun yoktu. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc geldi\u011fimiz \u00fclke de tar\u0131m \u00fclkesiydi.\u00a0 Oysa \u00f6zellikle son elli y\u0131ld\u0131r b\u00f6yle mi?<\/p>\n

Tar\u0131m \u00fclkesi olmaktan \u00e7\u0131k\u0131p sanayi \u00fclkesi olma yoluna giren T\u00fcrkiye\u2019de ba\u015fta e\u011fitim olmak \u00fczere her ge\u00e7en g\u00fcn ki\u015filerde aranan vas\u0131flar de\u011fi\u015fti. Tar\u0131m kazand\u0131r\u0131rken iki \u00e7ift \u00f6k\u00fcz ya da bir trakt\u00f6r ne kadar de\u011fer ifade ediyor ise \u015fimdi de ki\u015filerin e\u011fitim ve yetenekleri o derece \u00f6nem ta\u015f\u0131r oldu. Maalesef \u015fartlar bizim aleyhimize \u00e7ok de\u011fi\u015fti. Bizler bu de\u011fi\u015fimi tabi ki yakalad\u0131k fakat yakalarken de zorland\u0131k. Mutlaka de\u011fi\u015fik sebepleri vard\u0131r ama bir ger\u00e7ek var ki, oda bizim biraz ge\u00e7 kalm\u0131\u015f olmam\u0131zd\u0131r. Etraf\u0131m\u0131zda ki anne ve babalara dikkat etti\u011fimizde b\u00fct\u00fcn hayatlar\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na iyi e\u011fitim ald\u0131rmak ve meslek sahibi edebilmek \u00fczere kurulmu\u015f oldu\u011funu g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fcz. Bu gayet do\u011fal, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u015fu anda hayatta kalman\u0131n tek yolu…<\/p>\n

\u0130\u015fte bu noktada hen\u00fcz de\u011fi\u015fen T\u00fcrkiye\u2019ye ve d\u00fcnyaya uyum sa\u011flamaya ba\u015flam\u0131\u015fken acaba insanlar\u0131m\u0131z Kafkasya diyerek hayatlar\u0131n\u0131 riske etmekten korkuyor olabilirler mi?<\/p>\n

Bir\u00e7ok defa beylerimizin anavatana olan ilgisini duymu\u015fuzdur. Evli olanlar\u0131n bu ilgiyi ayn\u0131 derecede e\u015flerinde bulamad\u0131klar\u0131na \u015fahit olmu\u015fuzdur. Neden hayat\u0131n\u0131 payla\u015fan iki insan b\u00f6yle bir konuda birbirine destek veremez?<\/p>\n

\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ge\u00e7 elde edilen ya\u015famsal d\u00fczenlerini bozmak istemezler. Hakl\u0131 olduklar\u0131 noktalar var. Zaman maalesef duygusal bir zaman de\u011fil. Kafkasya y\u00fcrekte, en derinlerde fakat ayn\u0131 derecede de b\u00fcy\u00fck bir bilinmez. En az\u0131ndan b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00e7o\u011funlu\u011fumuz i\u00e7in b\u00f6yle. Bilmiyoruz, gitti\u011fimizde nas\u0131l, ne \u015fekilde, nerede olaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 bilmiyoruz.<\/p>\n

D\u00f6nmek i\u00e7in ahenk yarat\u0131lacak ise, ad\u0131mlar e\u015fit at\u0131lacak ise erkeklerin yan\u0131nda kad\u0131nlarda olmak zorundad\u0131r. \u0130\u015f hayat\u0131ndan ba\u015flay\u0131p, ya\u015fam\u0131n b\u00fct\u00fcn zorluklar\u0131n\u0131n i\u00e7inde yer alan kad\u0131nlara bu konuda yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmak zorunday\u0131z. Korkular\u0131ndan ar\u0131nd\u0131rmak zorunday\u0131z. Y\u0131llar\u0131n\u0131 bu k\u00fclt\u00fcre adam\u0131\u015f erkeklerimiz e\u011fer e\u015flerini yanlar\u0131nda ayn\u0131 heyecan ile bulam\u0131yor ise bizim bunlar\u0131 sorgulamam\u0131z laz\u0131m. Biz kolayc\u0131l\u0131\u011fa ka\u00e7\u0131p, e\u015fine gerekli deste\u011fi veremeyen kad\u0131n\u0131 su\u00e7layamay\u0131z. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc o bir annedir. Anne psikolojisi ile kad\u0131n, \u00e7ocu\u011funu ve e\u015fini s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131 alt\u0131na sokmaktan korkar. \u0130\u015fte dengeli ad\u0131m atmamam\u0131z\u0131n temel sebebi bu. Yani bilinmezlik. Bizler Kafkasya\u2019y\u0131 bilmiyoruz.<\/p>\n

E\u011fer emekli olduktan sonra ya da \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n gelece\u011fini garanti alt\u0131na ald\u0131ktan sonra d\u00f6nme iste\u011fi var ise bunun \u00fczerine e\u011filmeliyiz. Neden b\u00f6yle d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcl\u00fcyor iyice ortaya koymal\u0131y\u0131z. \u0130yice sorgulamaz isek maalesef hep bir yan\u0131m\u0131z aksak olacak. Bir an \u00f6nce sorabildi\u011fimiz kadar \u00e7ok soru sormal\u0131y\u0131z, sorana nefret ile bakmamal\u0131y\u0131z. V\u00fccuttaki hastal\u0131\u011f\u0131 bulmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan bir doktor titizli\u011fi ile hastaya sorabildi\u011fimiz kadar \u00e7ok soru sormal\u0131y\u0131z. E\u011fer sorular\u0131 soramaz isek hastal\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n tedavisini de yapamay\u0131z.<\/p>\n

D\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fc en \u00e7ok engelleyen sebeplerden biri olarak g\u00f6r\u00fclen e\u015fler aras\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce birli\u011fini acaba nas\u0131l yaratabiliriz?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Semra Ademey Gürel 11.02.2006 Kafkasya’ya dönmeyi göze alamayanlara, biraz ürkek bakanlara kızarız. Sanki onlar anavatanını sevmiyormuş gibi algılarız. Oysa hayatın gerçekleri var. Bizler bu gerçekleri görmek ve en sağlıklı şekle sokmak durumunda değil miyiz? Neden bir türlü iki adımımızı dengeli bir şekilde atamayız? Kesinlikle eksik olan bir şeyler var ama ne? 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