{"id":3563,"date":"2019-02-25T18:20:15","date_gmt":"2019-02-25T18:20:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/circassiancenter.com\/tr\/?p=3563"},"modified":"2019-02-25T18:20:15","modified_gmt":"2019-02-25T18:20:15","slug":"ne-kadar-zor-bir-durum","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/ne-kadar-zor-bir-durum\/","title":{"rendered":"NE KADAR ZOR B\u0130R DURUM"},"content":{"rendered":"

Semra Ademey G<\/span>\u00fcrel<\/strong>
\n<\/span>25.02.2006<\/span><\/p>\n

Bir \u00e7ok \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan anneden defalarca duydu\u011fum ama pek \u00f6nemsemedi\u011fim bir c\u00fcmle bu g\u00fcnlerde \u00e7ok fazla kafama tak\u0131ld\u0131. Biz bayanlar bir \u015feyler yap\u0131yoruz derken y\u0131k\u0131yor muyuz acaba?<\/p>\n

Evet \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan anneler genelde \u201ci\u015ften o kadar yorgun d\u00f6n\u00fcyorum ki, inan \u00e7ocu\u011fumla ilgilenecek vakit bulam\u0131yorum\u201d der. Bir k\u0131sm\u0131 da \u201c benim \u00e7ocu\u011fum art\u0131k beni istemiyor (dad\u0131s\u0131 yada b\u00fcy\u00fckannesi her kim bak\u0131yor ise) onu istiyor\u201d der.<\/p>\n

San\u0131r\u0131m bunlar\u0131 bir \u00e7o\u011funuz duydu yada ya\u015f\u0131yor. Ne kadar \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fc verici bir \u015fey \u00e7ocu\u011fun bak\u0131c\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 tercih etmesi.<\/p>\n

Ama anne! Sen onun ate\u015fi \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, karn\u0131 ac\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, hatta her ge\u00e7en g\u00fcn yeni yeni \u015feyler \u00f6\u011frendi\u011finde yan\u0131nda de\u011filsin ki. O k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck beyni ile bebek tabi ki do\u011furan\u0131 de\u011fil doyuran\u0131 tercih edecek. O zaman senin \u00fcz\u00fclmen birazda haks\u0131zl\u0131k de\u011fil mi?<\/p>\n

\u0130\u015ften eve yorgun geldi\u011finde senden sevgi bekleyen minicik bir varl\u0131\u011fa onu veremedi\u011finde onun tercihi tabi ki bak\u0131c\u0131s\u0131 olacak. Fakat bir ger\u00e7ekte var ki, ne olursa olsun hi\u00e7 kimse bir annenin \u015fefkatini tam anlam\u0131 ile veremez. Biraz ba\u015f\u0131m\u0131z a\u011f\u0131rsa, can\u0131m\u0131z s\u0131k\u0131lsa bizi en i\u00e7ten ve herhangi bir kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k beklemeden dinleyen tek varl\u0131k. En kutsal varl\u0131k ANNE\u2026 Fakat bunlar\u0131 \u00e7ocuk idrak edene kadar ge\u00e7ip giden g\u00fcnler kay\u0131p de\u011fil midir? \u0130\u015fin k\u00f6t\u00fcs\u00fc ya idrak edemez de \u201csen anne olarak bana ne verdin ki\u201d derse\u2026<\/p>\n

\u00c7al\u0131\u015fan anneler, \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan bayanlar bizler neden \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yoruz. Ekonomik olarak daha iyi bir noktada olabilmek i\u00e7in. \u0130\u00e7imizde \u00e7ok azd\u0131r zevk i\u00e7in \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan. Genelde birinci sebep ekonomik rahatl\u0131k. Evin babas\u0131na daha bir yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmak. Temel ama\u00e7 bu ise, peki neden bo\u015fanmalar, \u015fiddetli ge\u00e7imsizlikler her ge\u00e7en g\u00fcn daha da fazlala\u015f\u0131yor. Demek ki ama\u00e7 o de\u011fil. Sonu\u00e7tan bu \u00e7\u0131km\u0131yor mu?<\/p>\n

Kad\u0131n kendi ayaklar\u0131n\u0131n \u00fczerinde durmas\u0131n\u0131 bilmeli. K\u00f6t\u00fc g\u00fcne kar\u015f\u0131n kimseye muhta\u00e7 olmadan \u00a0ya\u015famas\u0131n\u0131 bilmeli. Kad\u0131n e\u011fitimli, meslek sahibi ve k\u00fclt\u00fcrl\u00fc olmal\u0131\u2026 Ama\u00e7lardan biride budur. \u0130yide \u00fclkemizde en \u00e7ok dayak yiyen kad\u0131nlar e\u011fitimli, k\u00fclt\u00fcrl\u00fc kad\u0131nlar. En rahat ve en kestirme yoldan bo\u015fananlar yine meslek sahibi olanlar. O zaman garip bir tezat olmuyor mu?<\/p>\n

Kad\u0131n i\u015f hayat\u0131n\u0131n i\u00e7ine girdi maalesef aile denen o kutsal varl\u0131k her ge\u00e7en g\u00fcn bozulmaya ba\u015flad\u0131. Kad\u0131n \u201cben art\u0131k sana muhta\u00e7 de\u011filim\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesini istemese de kafas\u0131n\u0131n bir k\u00f6\u015fesine yazd\u0131. Ya\u015fanan en ufak tart\u0131\u015fmalar i\u00e7inden \u00e7\u0131k\u0131lamaz noktalara geldi. Dikkat ederseniz bir \u00e7ok evlilik sevgisiz ama \u00e7ocuk hat\u0131r\u0131na \u00e7ekilir oldu. De\u011fer mi peki de\u011fer mi?<\/p>\n

Bence de\u011fmez. Madem ki ama\u00e7 daha rahat etmek, daha sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir aile yaratmak o zaman kad\u0131n sevgisini ve eme\u011fini evine vermeli. \u015eayet i\u015fin evini, \u00e7ocu\u011funu senden al\u0131yorsa de\u011fmez.<\/p>\n

Ben bir dershane sahibi olsam, \u00f6\u011frenci ba\u015f\u0131na ne kadar \u00fccret istemem gerekir diye hesap etsem hemen anne ve baban\u0131n meslek sahibi olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131na bakar\u0131m. \u00c7o\u011funluk \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan e\u015flerdir. O halde ortalama eve gelen paran\u0131n ne kadar\u0131na g\u00f6z dikece\u011fimi de an\u0131nda hesaplar\u0131m. K\u0131saca ne kadar gelir o kadarda gider. \u0130\u015fin \u00f6z\u00fc bu.<\/p>\n

Hi\u00e7bir \u015fey aileden daha de\u011ferli de\u011fildir. Her zaman s\u00f6ylerim bir eve 300 lirada girse, 1000 lirada girse s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131 ayn\u0131 s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131d\u0131r. Eve gelen ile mutlu olmay\u0131 bilmek laz\u0131m.<\/p>\n

Son g\u00fcnlerde TV’larda izlenen sa\u00e7ma sapan programlar y\u00fcz\u00fcnden ailelerin ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 felaketleri\u00a0 g\u00f6r\u00fcnce \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak \u015f\u00f6yle dursun insan\u0131n evden \u00e7\u0131kas\u0131 gelmiyor.<\/p>\n

Bu yazd\u0131klar\u0131ma bayanlar k\u0131zacak ama k\u0131zmadan \u00f6nce \u015f\u00f6yle bir etraflar\u0131na dikkatlice bakarak geli\u015fmeleri g\u00f6zlemlesinler\u2026Okuldan eve geldi\u011fimizde s\u0131cac\u0131k yemekleri yapm\u0131\u015f, halgoneleri yapm\u0131\u015f, bize g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fcn nas\u0131l ge\u00e7ti\u011fini soran, konu\u015fan\u00a0 o tatl\u0131 anneler gitti yerine yorgun ve stres dolu anneler geldi. Buna kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k da her taraf \u201camannn ne konu\u015facam senle odama \u00e7ekilir bilgisayar\u0131mla ya da derslerimle u\u011fra\u015f\u0131r\u0131m\u201d diyen gencecik asiler \u00a0ile dolu. Aman dikkat\u2026<\/p>\n

Burada belki anlatmak istedi\u011fimi tam olarak anlatamad\u0131m. Ama ger\u00e7ekten \u201cyumurtam\u0131 tavuktan tavuk mu yumurtadan\u201d meselesi gibi bir \u015fey. Ne olursa olsun \u00fczerinde d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmekte fayda var. \u00d6ncelikler ve insan\u0131 as\u0131l mutlu edecek \u015feyler iyi analiz edilmeli. Zaman olduk\u00e7a h\u0131zl\u0131 ak\u0131p gidiyor. <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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