{"id":3581,"date":"2019-02-25T18:26:58","date_gmt":"2019-02-25T18:26:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/circassiancenter.com\/tr\/?p=3581"},"modified":"2019-02-25T18:26:58","modified_gmt":"2019-02-25T18:26:58","slug":"her-elestiriye-yanit-verilir-mi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/her-elestiriye-yanit-verilir-mi\/","title":{"rendered":"HER ELE\u015eT\u0130R\u0130YE YANIT VER\u0130L\u0130R M\u0130?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: small;\"><strong>Semra Ademey<span lang=\"en-us\"> G<\/span>\u00fcrel<\/strong><br \/>\n<\/span><span style=\"font-family: Arial;\">24.06.2006<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Arial; font-size: small;\">Son g\u00fcnlerde CC forumda konular a\u00e7\u0131ld\u0131, sorular, ele\u015ftiriler oldu. Kimi son derece g\u00fczel anlamak, \u00f6\u011frenmek isteyen \u201csorular\u201d ile doluydu. Bu tip yaz\u0131lar insan\u0131 mutlu k\u0131l\u0131yor. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcr\u00fcyor, eksik, fazla ne nokta da oldu\u011funu anlamaya, \u00f6\u011frenmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yorsun.<\/p>\n<p>Her zaman sorulara \u00e7ok \u00f6nem vermi\u015fimdir. Ger\u00e7ekten \u00f6\u011frenmek isteyen birisi belki \u00e7ok keskin ifadeler ile sorar, belki \u00e7ok nazik\u00e7e sorar ama sonucunda \u00f6\u011frenmek i\u00e7in sorar. \u0130\u015fte o y\u00fczden bu tip sorulara ne olursa olsun de\u011fer veririm. Fark\u0131nda oluruz ya da olmay\u0131z hayat\u0131m\u0131za y\u00f6n veren \u015feylerdir <b>sorular\u0131m\u0131z<\/b>.<\/p>\n<p>Bazen yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z ya da yapmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bir \u015fey ele\u015ftirilir. Bu kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za \u00e7ok g\u00fczel, bizi y\u00f6nlendirecek, eksi\u011fimizi, yan\u0131lg\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 bize g\u00f6sterecek \u015fekilde sorular ile \u201columlu ele\u015ftiri\u201d olarak gelir. Bazen de sadece y\u0131kmak i\u00e7in ac\u0131mas\u0131zca sorgulayarak gelir. Hatta \u00f6ylesine keskin bir sorgulama olur ki, anlat\u0131r\u0131z ama yinede anlatamayan biz oluruz. \u0130\u015fte o zaman kendi kendimize \u201cacaba yan\u0131t vermeye de\u011fer mi?\u201d diye sorar\u0131z.<\/p>\n<p>Hepimizin bildi\u011fi gibi ileti\u015fimde kullan\u0131lan c\u00fcmleler kadar sesin, mimiklerin de etkisi vard\u0131r. O y\u00fczden en sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ileti\u015fim y\u00fcz y\u00fcze olan\u0131d\u0131r. Y\u00fcz y\u00fcze konu\u015fmak, ele\u015ftirileri almak gibi bir \u015fans\u0131n\u0131z yok ise mecburen yazarak kelimelere ses ve anlam y\u00fcklemeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r\u0131z. Kolay de\u011fil, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc olay sadece bizim kurdu\u011fumuz c\u00fcmleler ile s\u0131n\u0131rl\u0131 de\u011fil. Okuyan ki\u015finin o anki ruh hali dahi yorumlamas\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan son derece \u00f6nemlidir.<\/p>\n<p>Sonu\u00e7ta hepimiz insan\u0131z her an ayn\u0131 duygular ile var olamay\u0131z. \u00c7evremizde geli\u015fen, bizimle en ufak bir ilgisi olmayan herhangi bir olaydan olumlu ya da olumsuz etkilenebiliriz. Olumlu etki, sadece yazarak de\u011fil etraf\u0131m\u0131za bak\u0131\u015f\u0131m\u0131z, duru\u015fumuz, y\u00fcz ifademiz k\u0131saca her \u015feyimiz ile bizimde olumlu mesajlar vermemizi sa\u011flar. \u00c7evremizden olumsuz etkilenmemiz ise belki hi\u00e7 fark\u0131nda olmadan bizi de bak\u0131\u015flar\u0131m\u0131zda dahi olsa olumsuz bir \u015fekilde etkiler. Kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdaki ile hi\u00e7bir sorun yokken ileti\u015fimi kesmemize sebep dahi olabilir. O y\u00fczden yorumlamada ruh halimizin de etkisi olabildi\u011fince \u00e7oktur.<\/p>\n<p>Olumsuz gelen bir ele\u015ftiriye kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k vermi\u015f oldu\u011fumuz cevapta, as\u0131l s\u00f6ylemek istedi\u011fimizin d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda anlamlarda ifade edebilecek c\u00fcmleler kurabiliriz. Bir\u00e7ok defalar benimde ba\u015f\u0131ma geldi\u011fi gibi\u2026 O y\u00fczden yap\u0131c\u0131 olmayan ele\u015ftirilere y\u00fcz y\u00fcze cevap veremedikten sonra pek fazla itibar etmemek laz\u0131m.<\/p>\n<p>\u015e\u00fcphesiz ele\u015ftiri olmadan do\u011fruyu, yerinde olan\u0131 bulmak zordur. Bilen, g\u00f6rm\u00fc\u015f, ge\u00e7irmi\u015f biri yapm\u0131\u015f oldu\u011fu ele\u015ftiriler ile ufkumuzu a\u00e7abilir. Bizim daha \u00e7ok ara\u015ft\u0131rmam\u0131z\u0131 sa\u011flayabilir. Fakat bunlar\u0131n hepsinin olabilmesi i\u00e7in \u201c bizim yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131za \u00f6nem vermemiz, inanmam\u0131z\u201d gerekir. Yoksa inanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bir i\u015fte alaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z en ufak bir ele\u015ftiri ile demoralize oluruz. E\u011fer ki inan\u0131yor isek, gelen ele\u015ftirinin i\u00e7erisinden bize laz\u0131m olanlar\u0131 hemen al\u0131r\u0131z. Kendimizi daha bir yenilenmi\u015f, daha bir zinde hissederiz.<\/p>\n<p>K\u0131saca, her \u015feyin ba\u015f\u0131nda \u00f6nce biz yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131za, yapmak istediklerimize, kendimize inan\u0131yor muyuz? Biz yapmak istediklerimizi anlatabildi\u011fimize inan\u0131yor muyuz? \u00a0Biz, \u00a0kendimiz d\u00fcr\u00fcst\u00e7e a\u00e7\u0131k ve net olarak var m\u0131y\u0131z? O halde b\u0131kmadan usanmadan, inand\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z i\u00e7in gelen olumlu ele\u015ftirilerden \u00e7\u0131karmam\u0131z gerekenleri \u00e7\u0131kart\u0131p, yolumuza devam etmemiz gerekir. Sadece y\u0131kmak, g\u00fcndemi sapt\u0131rmak i\u00e7in gelen ele\u015ftirilere de yap\u0131labilecek hi\u00e7bir \u015fey yok. Zaten ne s\u00f6ylersek s\u00f6yleyelim bizi anlamazlar. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc onlar\u0131n ve bizim inand\u0131klar\u0131m\u0131z farkl\u0131d\u0131r\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Semra Ademey G&uuml;rel 24.06.2006 Son g&uuml;nlerde CC forumda konular a&ccedil;&#305;ld&#305;, sorular, ele&#351;tiriler oldu. Kimi son derece g&uuml;zel anlamak, &ouml;&#287;renmek isteyen &ldquo;sorular&rdquo; ile doluydu. Bu tip yaz&#305;lar insan&#305; mutlu k&#305;l&#305;yor. &Ccedil;&uuml;nk&uuml; d&uuml;&#351;&uuml;nd&uuml;r&uuml;yor, eksik, fazla ne nokta da oldu&#287;unu anlamaya, &ouml;&#287;renmeye &ccedil;al&#305;&#351;&#305;yorsun. Her zaman sorulara &ccedil;ok &ouml;nem vermi&#351;imdir. 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