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Dr. ME\u015eFE\u015e’\u00dc Necdet Hatam<\/strong><\/p>\n 08.03.2008<\/p>\n Evet bizler kad\u0131nlar\u0131m\u0131za sayg\u0131l\u0131 de\u011filiz. Dernek y\u00f6netimlerimizdeki kad\u0131nlar\u0131n yok denecek kadar az olmas\u0131 bunun kan\u0131t\u0131. Kad\u0131nlar\u0131m\u0131z \u00e7o\u011funlukla y\u00f6netimlere \u201cbir iki bayan da olsun\u201d ya da \u201chep ba\u015fkan\u0131n taraf\u0131n\u0131 tutar\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesi ile al\u0131n\u0131rlar\u2026<\/p>\n Ancak sak\u0131n buradan hareketle \u00c7erkes ailelerinde son s\u00f6z\u00fc erkeklerin s\u00f6yledi\u011fi, s\u00f6yleyebildi\u011fi kan\u0131s\u0131na da kap\u0131lmay\u0131n. \u00c7ok yan\u0131lt\u0131c\u0131 olur bu. Bu uyar\u0131 \u00c7erkes olmayanlar i\u00e7indi. \u00c7erkesler zaten son s\u00f6z\u00fcn kad\u0131nlarda oldu\u011funu ya\u015fayarak \u00f6\u011frenmi\u015flerdir.<\/p>\n \u00c7eli\u015fki, iplerin erkeklerde oldu\u011fu, erkeklerin dilediklerini kad\u0131nlar\u0131na yapt\u0131rabildikleri g\u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fcs\u00fcd\u00fcr. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc kad\u0131nlar\u0131m\u0131z ak\u0131ll\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130pler kendi elinde oldu\u011fu halde erke\u011finin dedi\u011fim dedik rol\u00fcn\u00fc oynamas\u0131na ses \u00e7\u0131kartmaz. Bu \u00f6zellik acaba genetik mi diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmezlik edemiyorum kimileyin\u2026 Ancak folklorumuzun etkisinin etkisi kesin gibi geliyor bana\u2026<\/p>\n Halk danslar\u0131m\u0131zda da \u00f6yle de\u011fil mi? Sert fig\u00fcrleri yapan, u\u00e7maya kalkan, ne denli yi\u011fit, ne denli onurlu, ne denli gururlu oldu\u011fu g\u00f6sterilerinde bulunan hep erkektir. Ancak bir bakm\u0131\u015fs\u0131n\u0131z k\u0131z\u0131m\u0131z dans\u0131 sonland\u0131r\u0131r, bir anlamda erke\u011fin havas\u0131n\u0131 al\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc geleneklerimize g\u00f6re dans\u0131 sonland\u0131rma hakk\u0131 dans eden bayan\u0131nd\u0131r. Dans boyunca k\u0131z\u0131m\u0131z son noktay\u0131 kendisinin koyaca\u011f\u0131 bilinci ile erke\u011fin diledi\u011fince tek yetkili g\u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fcs\u00fc vermesine izin verir hafif mahcup bir eda ile.<\/p>\n Kad\u0131nlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n bu edas\u0131 \u00c7’ere\u015fe Tembot’un \u201c\u041d\u0430\u0441\u044b\u043f\u044b\u043c \u0419\u044b\u0433\u044a\u0443\u044d\u0433\u0443 – Nas\u0131p\u0131m Y\u0131\u011fuegu\u201d roman\u0131na T\u00fcrk\u00e7eye \u00e7ok zor \u00e7evrilebilecek bir s\u00f6zc\u00fckle yans\u0131m\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n Anne k\u0131z iki kad\u0131n yolcusu olan \u00f6k\u00fcz arabas\u0131 batakl\u0131kta kalm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. \u00c7ocuk ya\u015ftaki s\u00fcr\u00fcc\u00fc arabay\u0131 batakl\u0131ktan kurtaramamaktad\u0131r. Durumu g\u00f6ren Dolet, ilgilenir, arabay\u0131 yard\u0131m amac\u0131 ile yanlar\u0131na yakla\u015f\u0131r. Kad\u0131nlar kenara \u00e7ekilir. \u0130\u015fte bu kenara \u00e7ekilmeyi \u00fcnl\u00fc yazar\u0131m\u0131z \u00c7\u2019ere\u015fe T\u00e9mbot bak\u0131n, nas\u0131l buram buram xabze kokan bir t\u00fcmce ile anlat\u0131r:<\/p>\n \u201c\u0411\u0437\u044b\u043b\u044a\u0444\u044b\u0433\u044a\u0438\u0442’\u0443\u044b\u0440, \u0448\u044a\u0443\u044b\u0437 \u043d\u044b\u0431\u0436 \u0445\u044d\u045c\u0443\u044d\u0442\u0430\u0433\u044a\u044d \u0445\u044c\u0430\u0437\u044b\u0440\u044b\u0440\u044d, \u043f\u0448\u044a\u0430\u0448\u044a\u044d\u0440\u044d \u0437\u0430\u0433\u044a\u044d\u045e\u043aI\u044b\u0442\u0438 \u0443\u044b\u045c\u0443\u044d\u0442\u044b\u0433\u044a\u044d\u0445. – Bz\u0131lhf\u0131\u011fit\u2019u\u0131r, \u015f\u00fc\u0131z n\u0131bj xequete\u011fe haz\u0131r\u0131re, p\u015fa\u015fere za\u011few\u00e7\u00e7\u0131ti u\u0131quet\u0131\u011fex \u2013Biri ya\u015fl\u0131ca di\u011feri gen\u00e7 k\u0131z, iki kad\u0131n utan\u0131r gibi yap\u0131p (kendi kendilerini utand\u0131r\u0131p) kenara \u00e7ekildiler\u201d.<\/p>\n Peki \u00f6rg\u00fctlerimizin ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n temelinde de erkeklerin toplumsal \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalara, kad\u0131nlar\u0131 ortak etmemesi, edememesi yatm\u0131yor mu? Son s\u00f6z\u00fc s\u00f6yleyen evin kad\u0131n\u0131 olmasayd\u0131 bug\u00fcn anavatana yerle\u015fik D\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00e7\u00fc say\u0131s\u0131 daha fazla olmaz m\u0131yd\u0131?<\/p>\n M\u0131\u015f gibi olan her \u015feyimizle y\u00fczle\u015fme zaman\u0131 gelmedi mi?<\/p>\n Kad\u0131nlar\u0131m\u0131za ger\u00e7ekte sayg\u0131 g\u00f6stermedi\u011fimiz konusunda Say\u0131n Talebe ile g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015flerimiz \u00f6rt\u00fc\u015f\u00fcyor olmal\u0131 ki bak\u0131n o da forumda nas\u0131l bir dilekte bulunmu\u015f. D\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fc her ba\u015fl\u0131\u011fa ta\u015f\u0131ma al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131m olmasa Telebe\u2019nin dileklerine can\u0131 g\u00f6n\u00fclden kat\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 s\u00f6ylemekle yetinebilirdim. Kuruyas\u0131 huyum buna engel. Talebe\u2019nin izniyle yukar\u0131daki g\u00fczel dile\u011fe k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir eklemede bulunuyor ve D\u00fcnya Kad\u0131nlar G\u00fcn\u00fcn\u00fc kutluyorum:<\/p>\n \u201cEvlere hapsedilmekten kurtulup, “\u00e7ocuklara bug\u00fcn sen bak, ben derne\u011fe gidiyorum” diyebilecekleri; d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnlerde en \u00f6nde g\u00fczel oyunlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 sergileyebilmekleri; “Thamade” olabilecekleri… e\u015flerine, \u201cBen anavatana d\u00f6n\u00fcyorum\u2026 \u0130stemiyorsan sen kalabilirsin… \u00e7ocuklardan da isteyenler yan\u0131nda kalabilir\u2026 Bir g\u00fcn gelir g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f de\u011fi\u015ftirir, \u201cbenim yerim e\u015fimin yan\u0131d\u0131r\u201d der, Anavatana d\u00f6nersen, beni, seni bekler bulacaks\u0131n\u201d diyecekleri g\u00fcnlerin \u00f6zlemi ve umuduyla cefakar, vefakar ve asil \u00c7erkes kad\u0131nlar\u0131na ve t\u00fcm d\u00fcnya halklar\u0131n\u0131n kad\u0131nlar\u0131na: Her \u015fey g\u00f6nl\u00fcn\u00fczce olsun…\u201d diyorum\u2026<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Dr. MEŞFEŞ’Ü Necdet Hatam 08.03.2008 Evet bizler kadınlarımıza saygılı değiliz. Dernek yönetimlerimizdeki kadınların yok denecek kadar az olması bunun kanıtı. Kadınlarımız çoğunlukla yönetimlere “bir iki bayan da olsun” ya da “hep başkanın tarafını tutar” düşüncesi ile alınırlar… Ancak sakın buradan hareketle Çerkes ailelerinde son sözü erkeklerin söylediği, söyleyebildiği kanısına da kapılmayın. Çok yanıltıcı olur bu. 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