{"id":44860,"date":"2025-04-30T01:14:11","date_gmt":"2025-04-30T06:14:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/?p=44860"},"modified":"2025-04-30T17:37:58","modified_gmt":"2025-04-30T22:37:58","slug":"bereko-memet-anavatanimizda-mutluluk-icinde-yasiyoruz","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/bereko-memet-anavatanimizda-mutluluk-icinde-yasiyoruz\/","title":{"rendered":"BEREKO MEMET: \u201cANAVATANIMIZDA MUTLULUK \u0130\u00c7\u0130NDE YA\u015eIYORUZ\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"

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CARE Fatim<\/strong>
\nAd\u0131ge Mak, 9 \u015eubat 2024<\/p>\n

Memet ve Temare \u00e7ifti, 18 y\u0131ldan beri Ad\u0131gey\u2019in Mefehable k\u00f6y\u00fcnde ya\u015f\u0131yor. Konuksever bu \u00e7ift, temiz bir Ad\u0131gece ile bizi kar\u015f\u0131lad\u0131 ve Mefehable\u2019ye yerle\u015fme nedenlerini anlatt\u0131.
\nMemet, T\u00fcrkiye\u2019deki Hunehable k\u00f6y\u00fcnde do\u011fdu, ard\u0131ndan annesinin k\u00f6y\u00fc Hakur\u0131nehable\u2019de b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc. Anne ve babas\u0131 hayatta de\u011fil ama k\u0131z ve erkek karde\u015fleri T\u00fcrkiye\u2019dedir. S\u00fclalesinden Ad\u0131gey\u2019e d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f yapm\u0131\u015f tek ki\u015fidir. S\u00f6yledi\u011fine g\u00f6re Berekolar \u015eaps\u0131\u011f; ama Kabartay ve Abazinler aras\u0131nda da Berekolar var, hepsi ayn\u0131 k\u00f6ke dayan\u0131yor.<\/p>\n

\u2018\u2019T\u00fcrkiye\u2019deyken k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fckl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcmden beri kom\u015fu ihtiyarlar\u0131n anlatt\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 dinlerdim. Bir \u00fclkemiz oldu\u011funu, atalar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n orada ya\u015fam\u0131\u015f ve oradan gelmi\u015f olduklar\u0131n\u0131 duyuyordum. Anlat\u0131lanlar\u0131 akl\u0131mda tuttum; b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcmde de \u201cart\u0131k vakti geldi\u201d diyerek Ad\u0131gey\u2019e d\u00f6nd\u00fcm. \u2018\u2019 dedi Bereko.<\/p>\n

\u2018\u2019Evimizde s\u00fcrekli Ad\u0131gece konu\u015fulurdu; anne ve babalar\u0131m\u0131z bizimle Ad\u0131gece konu\u015furlard\u0131.\u2019\u2019 diyerek konu\u015fmas\u0131na devam ediyor Memet. \u2018\u2019\u0130stanbul\u2019da okudum, nerede olursam olay\u0131m anadilimi b\u0131rakmad\u0131m. Anne ve babam\u0131n yard\u0131mlar\u0131 sayesinde ya\u015f\u0131tlar\u0131mdan daha iyi Ad\u0131gece konu\u015fan biri oldum.\u2019\u2019<\/p>\n

Ad\u0131ge diline kar\u015f\u0131 sevgisi nedeniyle Memet, \u0130stanbul\u2019daki derneklere gitmeye, oraya gelen Ad\u0131gelerle tan\u0131\u015fmaya ve dernek \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131na kat\u0131lmaya ba\u015flad\u0131. Rusya\u2019ya giri\u015f yolu a\u00e7\u0131l\u0131nca da bir arkada\u015f grubuyla birlikte Ad\u0131gey\u2019e geldi.<\/p>\n

O s\u0131ralar Memet 31 ya\u015f\u0131nda ve bekar bir gen\u00e7ti. \u201cOturma izni\u201d alm\u0131\u015f ve Ad\u0131gey\u2019de ya\u015famaya ba\u015flam\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Ard\u0131ndan So\u00e7i\u2019ye gitti, orada bir s\u00fcre akrabalar\u0131n\u0131n (s\u00fclalesinden ki\u015filerin) ve \u015eaps\u0131\u011flar\u0131n aras\u0131nda ya\u015fad\u0131. Ad\u0131gey\u2019e d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnden 8 y\u0131l sonra, \u011eobekuaye k\u00f6y\u00fcnden Sta\u015fular\u0131n k\u0131z\u0131 Temare ile evlendi.<\/p>\n

\u2018\u2019Maykop\u2019ta oturuyorduk, konut sat\u0131n almak istiyorduk. O s\u0131ralar Kosova\u2019dan gelenleri Mefehable k\u00f6y\u00fcne yerle\u015ftiriyorlard\u0131. Bizim gibi d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f yapm\u0131\u015f ki\u015filere de ayn\u0131 yerde arsa hakk\u0131 tan\u0131nd\u0131 ve kendimiz \u015fimdiki evimizi in\u015fa ettik. Mefehable\u2019de \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc \u00e7ocu\u011fumuz do\u011fdu. Atalar\u0131m\u0131n \u00fclkesine d\u00f6nd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm i\u00e7in seviniyor ve k\u0131van\u00e7 duyuyorum.\u2019\u2019<\/p>\n

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Dedi\u011fine g\u00f6re Memet\u2019in sabit bir i\u015fyeri yok ama bo\u015f g\u00fcn\u00fc de yok. Ad\u0131gey\u2019e gelen soyda\u015flar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 havaliman\u0131nda kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131yor, yard\u0131m ediyor, gezdiriyor ve onlara \u201crehberlik\u201d ediyor.
\nBereko ile Temare 25 y\u0131ldan beri evliler; iki k\u0131z ve bir o\u011fullar\u0131 var. En b\u00fcy\u00fckleri Bekir 24 ya\u015f\u0131nda, \u0130stanbul\u2019da \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yor. K\u0131zlar\u0131 Dane evli ve 23 ya\u015f\u0131nda, T\u00fcrkiye\u2019de ya\u015f\u0131yor. K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck k\u0131zlar\u0131 Cenet ise 8. s\u0131n\u0131f \u00f6\u011frencisi. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131 d\u00f6rt dil biliyor: Ad\u0131gece, Rus\u00e7a, \u0130ngilizce ve T\u00fcrk\u00e7e.
\nMemet\u2019le g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm s\u0131rada o\u011flu \u0130stanbul\u2019dan telefon etti. Memet, o\u011flunun Ad\u0131geceyi kendisinden daha fazla sevdi\u011fini, beraber olduklar\u0131 s\u00fcrece onunla T\u00fcrk\u00e7e konu\u015fmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ve Ad\u0131gece d\u0131\u015f\u0131 konu\u015fmaya da izin vermedi\u011fini s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n

\u2018\u2019Ad\u0131ge \u00fclkesine d\u00f6nmekle \u00e7ok \u015fey elde ettim. Bir Ad\u0131ge ailesi kurdum, g\u00fczel gelenekleri olan bir Ad\u0131ge k\u0131z\u0131yla evlendim. Tanr\u0131 bize \u00fc\u00e7 \u00e7ocuk ba\u011f\u0131\u015flad\u0131. H\u00fck\u00fcmet bize yer g\u00f6sterdi, paras\u0131z arsa verdi ve oraya bir ev in\u015fa ettik. Ayr\u0131ca bize ba\u015fka desteklerde de bulundu. G\u00fczel bir ya\u015fam\u0131m\u0131z var. T\u00fcrkiye\u2019de kalsayd\u0131m, daha iyi bir ya\u015fam\u0131m olmayabilirdi. \u0130\u00e7im rahat. Ad\u0131ge olmayan Ad\u0131geyliler de bize kar\u015f\u0131 k\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 davran\u0131\u015flarda bulunmaktan ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131yorlar ve onlarla birlikte \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yoruz. Anayurt topra\u011f\u0131nda mutluluk i\u00e7inde hep birlikte ya\u015f\u0131yoruz.\u2019\u2019<\/p>\n

\u2018\u2019Memet, Temare ile nas\u0131l evlendin?\u2019\u2019 diye soruyorum.<\/p>\n

\u2018\u2019E\u015fimi ilk g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcmde davran\u0131\u015f bi\u00e7imini be\u011fendim. K\u00f6yl\u00fc bir k\u0131zd\u0131 ve alt\u0131 k\u0131z karde\u015ftiler, ayr\u0131ca erkek karde\u015fleri de var. B\u00fcy\u00fck anne ve b\u00fcy\u00fck babalar\u0131 taraf\u0131ndan iyi yeti\u015ftirildiler. Ger\u00e7ek bir Ad\u0131ge evinde b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fcler. Bu \u015feyleri tutamak yapt\u0131m, yan\u0131lmam\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. Tan\u0131\u015fmam\u0131zdan bu yana tek bir kez olsun pi\u015fmanl\u0131k duymad\u0131m. E\u015fim ev i\u015flerini bilen biri, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na m\u00fckemmel bir anal\u0131k yapt\u0131. Ailesi bana sayg\u0131 duyuyor, de\u011fer veriyor; bu da her \u015feye de\u011fer. Benim Ad\u0131gey\u2019de s\u00fclalemden (Berekolardan) kimsem yok. Ac\u0131m\u0131 ve sevincimi payla\u015facak olanlar e\u015fimin yak\u0131nlar\u0131d\u0131r. Onlardan memnunum.\u2019\u2019<\/p>\n

\u2018\u2019Evde Ad\u0131gece konu\u015fmak aile gelene\u011fimizin bir par\u00e7as\u0131.\u2019\u2019 diye s\u00f6zlerini s\u00fcrd\u00fcr\u00fcyor Memet. \u2018\u2019Bu sayede \u00fc\u00e7 \u00e7ocu\u011fumuza da Ad\u0131gece \u00f6\u011fretmeyi ba\u015fard\u0131k. \u0130nsan, \u0131rk ve din ay\u0131r\u0131m\u0131 yapm\u0131yoruz ama \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n kendi uluslar\u0131n\u0131 seven ki\u015filer olmalar\u0131 i\u00e7in de \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131k ve \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yoruz.\u2019\u2019<\/p>\n

\u2014 Bah\u00e7e kap\u0131n\u0131z yok, evinizin kap\u0131s\u0131 da s\u00fcrekli a\u00e7\u0131k. Ni\u00e7in \u00f6yle?<\/p>\n

\u2014 Evet, i\u00e7imiz temiz, kimseden \u00e7ekindi\u011fimiz, korktu\u011fumuz yok; gizlimiz sakl\u0131m\u0131z da yok. Konu\u015facak kimsesi olmayan Ruslar ve di\u011ferleri bile evimize geliyorlar. Kim bize gelirse onu kar\u015f\u0131lamaya haz\u0131r\u0131z. Kimse gelecekte ne olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilemez; yar\u0131n bizler de onlardan yard\u0131m umabiliriz.<\/p>\n

\u2018\u2019T\u00fcrkiye\u2019den gelenlerin geleneksel \u00f6zellikleri bizden biraz farkl\u0131, yemek k\u00fclt\u00fcrleri de de\u011fi\u015fik. Gelenekler konusunda biraz kat\u0131 olan e\u015fine nas\u0131l uyum sa\u011flayabildin?\u2019\u2019 diye sordum Temare\u2019ye.<\/p>\n

\u2018\u2019Tan\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda Ad\u0131ge Devlet \u00dcniversitesi\u2019ni bitirmek \u00fczereydim. T\u00fcrkiye\u2019den gelen ve m\u00fckemmel Ad\u0131gece konu\u015fan biri olmas\u0131 ilgimi \u00e7ekti ve sevindim. Al\u00e7akg\u00f6n\u00fcll\u00fc ve yuva kurmak isteyen biri oldu\u011funu anlad\u0131m ve onunla evlenmeye karar verdim. \u00dc\u00e7 \u00e7ocu\u011fumuz oldu, pi\u015fmanl\u0131k duydu\u011fum tek bir g\u00fcn\u00fcm olmad\u0131, bug\u00fcne de\u011fin hi\u00e7 kalbimi k\u0131rmad\u0131. Do\u011frusu, ba\u015flarda biraz s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131 \u00e7ektim. Bunun nedeni onun d\u00fcnya g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fc, adetleri ve yemek k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fc bizden biraz farkl\u0131yd\u0131. Ama birbirini anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda bunlar engel olmuyor. Kat\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131m aileye uyum sa\u011flad\u0131m, yemeklerini \u00f6\u011frendim. Mefehable bizim i\u00e7in u\u011furlu bir k\u00f6y oldu. Mefehable\u2019de Kosova\u2019dan ve ba\u015fka \u00fclkelerden d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f yapm\u0131\u015f Ad\u0131geler ya\u015f\u0131yorlar. Bizi birbirimize ba\u011flayan as\u0131l ba\u011f Ad\u0131gece. Her konuda bir araya geliyor, birbirimize dan\u0131\u015f\u0131yor ve uyum i\u00e7inde birlikte ya\u015f\u0131yoruz.\u2019\u2019<\/p>\n

BEREKO Memet ile Temare, \u00f6rnek al\u0131nacak ailelerden biri. Aile bireyleriyle birlikte ve mutluluk i\u00e7inde bir ya\u015fam s\u00fcrd\u00fcrmelerini diliyoruz.<\/p>\n

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CARE Fatim Adıge Mak, 9 Şubat 2024 Memet ve Temare çifti, 18 yıldan beri Adıgey’in Mefehable köyünde yaşıyor. Konuksever bu çift, temiz bir Adıgece ile bizi karşıladı ve Mefehable’ye yerleşme nedenlerini anlattı. Memet, Türkiye’deki Hunehable köyünde doğdu, ardından annesinin köyü Hakurınehable’de büyüdü. Anne ve babası hayatta değil ama kız ve erkek kardeşleri Türkiye’dedir. 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