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Ay\u015fe Nart<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00c7ocuklar d\u00fcnyaya yaln\u0131zca melek kanatlar\u0131yla gelmezler. Onlar, i\u00e7lerinde siyah\u0131n ve beyaz\u0131n, kaosun ve d\u00fczenin, sevginin ve \u00f6fkenin ayn\u0131 anda var oldu\u011fu g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir f\u0131rt\u0131nayla do\u011farlar. Bu f\u0131rt\u0131na, onlar\u0131n i\u00e7sel d\u00fcnyas\u0131n\u0131n temelidir. B\u00fcy\u00fcmek ise, bu f\u0131rt\u0131nan\u0131n tam ortas\u0131nda y\u00f6n bulmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmakt\u0131r. Ama biz yeti\u015fkinler, \u00e7o\u011fu zaman yaln\u0131zca beyaz\u0131 g\u00f6rmek isteriz. Sessiz, uyumlu, kurallara sad\u0131k \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 severiz. Oysa unuturuz: \u00e7ocuk, i\u00e7indeki karanl\u0131\u011f\u0131 tan\u0131madan ayd\u0131nl\u0131\u011fa ula\u015famaz.<\/p>\n Finli n\u00f6rolog Matti Bergstr\u00f6m, \u00e7ocuk beyninin iki temel g\u00fc\u00e7 taraf\u0131ndan y\u00f6netildi\u011fini s\u00f6yler: kaos ve d\u00fczen, yani siyah ve beyaz. Bu iki g\u00fc\u00e7, \u00e7ocuk b\u00fcy\u00fcrken s\u00fcrekli \u00e7arp\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Bizim \u201csorun\u201d sand\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z davran\u0131\u015flar, asl\u0131nda bu \u00e7arp\u0131\u015fman\u0131n do\u011fal \u00fcr\u00fcn\u00fcd\u00fcr. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u00e7ocuk yaln\u0131zca mutlu an\u0131lar\u0131n de\u011fil, ayn\u0131 zamanda i\u00e7sel f\u0131rt\u0131nalar\u0131n da \u00e7ocu\u011fudur. Her duygu \u2013ister \u00f6fke, ister k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k, isterse sald\u0131rganl\u0131k olsun\u2013 bir ba\u011f\u0131r\u0131\u015f, bir \u00e7a\u011fr\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130\u00e7eride bir \u015feyler \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fclmeyi, anla\u015f\u0131lmay\u0131, dile gelmeyi bekliyordur.<\/p>\n Benim y\u0131llar i\u00e7inde kazand\u0131\u011f\u0131m deneyimler de bunu do\u011fruluyor. Spastik engelli bireylerden ruhsal bozukluklar ya\u015fayan yeti\u015fkinlere kadar, farkl\u0131 ya\u015f ve ko\u015fullarda pek \u00e7ok insanla \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. Ama en keskin aynay\u0131 \u00e7ocuklar tuttu bana. Onlar\u0131n \u00f6fkesine, h\u0131r\u00e7\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131na, suskunluklar\u0131na, k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131klar\u0131na tan\u0131k oldum. Ve zamanla g\u00f6rd\u00fcm ki, \u201ck\u00f6t\u00fc\u201d diye yaftalad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z davran\u0131\u015flar asl\u0131nda bir yard\u0131m \u00e7a\u011fr\u0131s\u0131yd\u0131. \u00c7ocuk ba\u011f\u0131rmasa da, i\u00e7i konu\u015fuyordu. Biz yeti\u015fkinlere d\u00fc\u015fen, o sessiz dili anlamakt\u0131.<\/p>\n \u00c7ocuk, i\u00e7indeki siyah ve beyaz taraflardan yaln\u0131zca biriyle var olamaz. Her iki y\u00f6n\u00fcn\u00fc de tan\u0131mal\u0131, anlamal\u0131 ve bu iki u\u00e7 aras\u0131nda bir denge kurabilmelidir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bast\u0131r\u0131lan her karanl\u0131k, zaman\u0131 geldi\u011finde daha g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir \u015fekilde geri d\u00f6ner. Bu y\u00fczden \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n i\u00e7sel \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131nda yaln\u0131z b\u0131rak\u0131lmamalar\u0131 gerekir. Onlara yol g\u00f6sterecek bir rehbere, bir yeti\u015fkine ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131 vard\u0131r. Biri onlar\u0131n yan\u0131nda durmal\u0131, dinlemeli, duygular\u0131n\u0131 ifade etmeleri i\u00e7in g\u00fcvenli bir alan a\u00e7mal\u0131. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc i\u00e7lerindeki o \u00e7alkant\u0131y\u0131 anlamland\u0131rmak ve dengede kalmak, sand\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zdan \u00e7ok daha zordur.<\/p>\n Bir \u00e7ocuk ba\u015fka bir \u00e7ocu\u011fun lego kulesini tekmeledi\u011finde, biz genellikle yaln\u0131zca bir y\u0131k\u0131m\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fcz. Hemen cezaya, d\u00fczene y\u00f6neliriz. Oysa bu davran\u0131\u015f, d\u0131\u015flanm\u0131\u015fl\u0131k hissinin, anla\u015f\u0131lmaman\u0131n ya da i\u00e7sel karma\u015fan\u0131n bir d\u0131\u015favurumu olabilir. Bu y\u00fczden cezaland\u0131rmak yerine, o davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n ard\u0131ndaki duyguyu g\u00f6rmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmal\u0131y\u0131z. Konu\u015fmal\u0131, anlamal\u0131, y\u00fczle\u015fmeliyiz. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n siyah taraf\u0131, bast\u0131r\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda de\u011fil; ifade edildi\u011finde, duyuldu\u011funda iyile\u015fir.<\/p>\n Zor \u00e7ocuklar, g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc e\u011fitimciler yarat\u0131r. Ayn\u0131 zamanda daha bilin\u00e7li ebeveynler\u2026 \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc o \u00e7ocuklar, yeti\u015fkinlerin konfor alan\u0131n\u0131 yerle bir eder. Ezber cevaplar i\u015fe yaramaz. Onlar sab\u0131r, yarat\u0131c\u0131l\u0131k ve ger\u00e7ek bir y\u00fczle\u015fme ister. Bir \u00e7ocu\u011fun karanl\u0131\u011f\u0131na e\u015flik eden yeti\u015fkin, kendi karanl\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan da ge\u00e7mek zorunda kal\u0131r. Ve belki de bu y\u00fczden, ger\u00e7ek e\u011fitim yaln\u0131zca \u00e7ocu\u011fa de\u011fil, yeti\u015fkine de aittir.<\/p>\n E\u011fer biz, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n i\u00e7indeki kaosu kabullenmeyi \u00f6\u011frenemezsek; onlar\u0131n yarat\u0131c\u0131 ruhunu, \u00f6zg\u00fcn d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnme bi\u00e7imlerini ve duygusal derinliklerini bast\u0131rm\u0131\u015f oluruz. D\u00fczenli ama ruhsuz, steril ama geli\u015fmeyen bireyler yeti\u015ftiririz. Oysa insan, i\u00e7indeki siyah ve beyaz\u0131n \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmas\u0131ndan do\u011far. Ve bu \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmay\u0131 bast\u0131rmak de\u011fil, anlamland\u0131rmak gerekir.<\/p>\n \u00c7ocukluk, yaln\u0131zca sevimli an\u0131lardan, ba\u015far\u0131 tablolar\u0131ndan, s\u00fcslenmi\u015f duvarlardan ibaret de\u011fildir. \u00c7ocukluk, ayn\u0131 zamanda g\u00f6zya\u015f\u0131n\u0131n, hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n, \u00f6fkenin, k\u0131r\u0131lganl\u0131\u011f\u0131n da alan\u0131d\u0131r. Ve bir \u00e7ocuk, ancak i\u00e7indeki bu f\u0131rt\u0131nay\u0131 tan\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, onunla konu\u015fabildi\u011finde, ona y\u00f6n verebildi\u011finde b\u00fcy\u00fcr.<\/p>\n Unutmayal\u0131m: \u00c7ocuk, i\u00e7indeki f\u0131rt\u0131na dindi\u011finde de\u011fil; o f\u0131rt\u0131naya y\u00f6n vermeyi \u00f6\u011frendi\u011finde b\u00fcy\u00fcr.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Ayşe Nart Çocuklar dünyaya yalnızca melek kanatlarıyla gelmezler. Onlar, içlerinde siyahın ve beyazın, kaosun ve düzenin, sevginin ve öfkenin aynı anda var olduğu güçlü bir fırtınayla doğarlar. Bu fırtına, onların içsel dünyasının temelidir. Büyümek ise, bu fırtınanın tam ortasında yön bulmaya çalışmaktır. Ama biz yetişkinler, çoğu zaman yalnızca beyazı görmek isteriz. 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