{"id":683,"date":"2019-02-20T16:46:03","date_gmt":"2019-02-20T16:46:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/circassiancenter.com\/tr\/?p=683"},"modified":"2019-02-20T16:52:39","modified_gmt":"2019-02-20T16:52:39","slug":"683-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/683-2\/","title":{"rendered":"\u0130K\u0130 \u00c7OCUK, \u00dc\u00c7 BABA"},"content":{"rendered":"

YEMUZ Nevzat Tarak\u00e7\u0131<\/strong>
\n23.09.2006<\/span><\/p>\n

Hava olduk\u00e7a s\u0131cak. G\u00f6lge ar\u0131yoruz tela\u015fla. Mezarl\u0131\u011f\u0131n duvar\u0131na s\u0131ralanm\u0131\u015f \u00e7am a\u011fa\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6lgesine s\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131yoruz. Kur\u2019an okunuyor. Hemen yan\u0131 ba\u015f\u0131m\u0131zda cenazenin defin i\u015flemi s\u00fcr\u00fcyor. Sessizlik h\u00e2kim ortama. Ba\u015flar e\u011fik. Herkes d\u00fcnyan\u0131n bir \u201cmu\u015famba dekor\u201d oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyor galiba. D\u00fcnyada hi\u00e7bir \u015feyin kalp k\u0131rmaya de\u011fmeyece\u011fini\u2026 Do\u011fru ya\u015faman\u0131n \u00f6nemini\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

Sessizli\u011fi, duvar\u0131n hemen d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda merakl\u0131 g\u00f6zlerle kalabal\u0131\u011f\u0131 izleyen, olay\u0131 anlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan mini mini iki k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00e7ocu\u011fun f\u0131s\u0131lt\u0131lar\u0131 bozdu. Merakla inceliyorlard\u0131 olan biteni. Soru soruyorlard\u0131 f\u0131s\u0131lt\u0131yla birbirlerine. Anlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yorlard\u0131 muhtemelen \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fc, cenazeyi, bu kadar insan\u0131n bu s\u0131cakta ne yapmak istedi\u011fini.<\/b><\/p>\n

Dinledim gayri ihtiyari.<\/p>\n

– Bak, o \u00e7ukura g\u00f6mecekler.
\n– Niye g\u00f6m\u00fcyorlar ki…
\n– Aslan\u0131m, \u00c7erkez\u2019lerin \u00e2deti b\u00f6yle.
\n– Nereye gidecek buradan?
\n– Peki, niye Kuran okuyorlar?
\n– \u2026.<\/p>\n

F\u0131s\u0131ldamalar devam edip gidecekti muhtemelen ki hemen yan\u0131mdaki e\u011fitimli oldu\u011funu sand\u0131\u011f\u0131m de\u011ferli b\u00fcy\u00fcklerimden biri, alabildi\u011fine sert ve h\u0131r\u00e7\u0131n bir ses tonuyla:<\/p>\n

– Allah belan\u0131z\u0131 versin sizin! Kuran dinliyoruz burada, defolun gidin!
\n– \u2026?<\/p>\n

Di\u011fer ya\u015fl\u0131:<\/span><\/p>\n

– Kimin \u00e7ocu\u011fu bunlar yahu! Allah Allah!<\/p>\n

Bir di\u011feri:<\/span><\/p>\n

– Ne bekliyorsunuz h\u00e2l\u00e2!<\/p>\n

<\/p>\n

\u00dczerine toprak at\u0131lan \u00f6l\u00fc bendim sanki! Kan\u0131m \u00e7ekilmi\u015fti. Ruhum terk etmi\u015fti adeta bedenimi! <\/b><\/p>\n

Bu s\u00f6zler, bu ikazlar(!) \u00f6l\u00fcmden bin beter yapm\u0131\u015ft\u0131 ruhumu, benli\u011fimi!<\/p>\n

Acaba bir e\u011fitimci refleksiyle duygusal m\u0131 bak\u0131yordum olaya?<\/p>\n

Neden bu kadar i\u00e7erlemi\u015ftim ki?<\/p>\n

Okunan Kuran\u0131 duymuyorum art\u0131k, kafamda karmakar\u0131\u015f\u0131k sorular, anlams\u0131z yarg\u0131lar:<\/p>\n

Sertli\u011fi hak etmemi\u015f miydi \u00e7ocuklar?<\/p>\n

Ne i\u015fleri vard\u0131 cenazede?<\/p>\n

Cenaze b\u00fcy\u00fcklerin i\u015fi de\u011fil miydi?<\/p>\n

Y\u00fcz vermeyeceksin \u00e7ocuklara karde\u015fim!<\/p>\n

Bebelerle senli benli olmak yak\u0131\u015f\u0131r m\u0131 disiplinli bir babaya?<\/p>\n

<\/p>\n

\u0130nsan d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr, merak eder ve sorar. \u201cSorular, ruha batm\u0131\u015f dikenlerdir; cevaplarsa, saadete do\u011fru at\u0131lm\u0131\u015f ad\u0131mlar.\u201d<\/p>\n

Acaba tahamm\u00fcl edemez miydik bu masumane merakl\u0131 iki yavruya? <\/b><\/p>\n

K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcc\u00fck kafalar\u0131ndaki soru i\u015faretlerine cevap veremez miydik?<\/p>\n

Ayd\u0131nlatamaz m\u0131yd\u0131k o masum g\u00f6n\u00fclleri?<\/p>\n

Yoksa okunan Kuran kabul m\u00fc olmazd\u0131?<\/p>\n

De\u011filse cenaze zarar m\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcrd\u00fc, do\u011frudan Cehennem’e mi giderdi rahmetli!<\/p>\n

Peki, farkl\u0131 bir \u00fcslup kullanamaz m\u0131yd\u0131k?<\/p>\n

E\u011fitici, \u00f6\u011fretici, te\u015fvik edici, y\u00f6nlendirici.<\/p>\n

Yoksa Kafkasl\u0131l\u0131k ciddiyeti bunu mu gerektiriyor? Biz mi gereksiz demokratl\u0131k tasl\u0131yoruz?<\/p>\n

Akl\u0131m karmakar\u0131\u015f\u0131kt\u0131. O sevimli p\u0131r\u0131l p\u0131r\u0131l \u00e7ocuklar, azarlanmay\u0131, hakareti hak etmi\u015fler miydi? \u015eimdi ne d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorlard\u0131 bu yavrucuklar acaba babalar\u0131, b\u00fcy\u00fckleri hakk\u0131nda; \u00f6l\u00fcm, cenaze hakk\u0131nda.<\/b><\/p>\n

\u00d6\u011frenmek, gerekirse izleme haklar\u0131 yok muydu bu tatl\u0131, \u015firin \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n! Yar\u0131n bizim cenazelerimizi defnedecek onlar de\u011fil miydi? Kim \u00f6\u011fretecekti? Kimler \u00f6rnek olacakt\u0131? Bu konuda hangi okul e\u011fitim verecekti onlara?<\/p>\n

Yar\u0131n \u201cYedirdik, i\u00e7irdik, giydirdik yine de asi oldu \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z, ne k\u00f6t\u00fc kader!\u201d der miyiz acaba?<\/b><\/p>\n

Ellerinden tutsak, g\u00f6n\u00fcllerine girsek, bildiklerimizi anlatsak, tecr\u00fcbelerimizi aktarsak daha iyi olmaz m\u0131yd\u0131? Daha iyi olmaz m\u0131yd\u0131 \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n e\u011fitiminin her \u015feyden \u00f6nemli oldu\u011funu kavrasak, ona g\u00f6re davransak? Daha iyi olmaz m\u0131yd\u0131 disiplinle kabal\u0131\u011f\u0131 ay\u0131rt edebilsek?<\/p>\n

Kald\u0131 m\u0131 acaba e\u015fine sert davranmay\u0131 yi\u011fitlik sanan baba? Var m\u0131 acaba \u00e7ocu\u011funu terslemeyi disiplin zanneden, \u00e7ocu\u011funu ba\u011fr\u0131na basmadan, onunla gerekti\u011fi gibi konu\u015fmadan, lay\u0131k\u0131yla ilgilenmeden, onu e\u011fitebilece\u011fini sanan Adige baba.<\/p>\n

Varsa, i\u015fimiz \u00e7ok zor demektir!<\/p>\n

<\/p>\n

Hepimiz, \u00e7a\u011f\u0131n gere\u011fine g\u00f6re e\u011fitim yapmak zorunda oldu\u011fumuzu bilmeliyiz.<\/p>\n

\u00c7ok iyi bilmeliyiz, e\u011fitimde ortam olu\u015fturman\u0131n, f\u0131rsat e\u011fitiminin, ileti\u015fimin, sevginin, empatinin ne kadar \u00f6nemli oldu\u011funu.<\/p>\n

G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczde, rutin i\u015flerle bunalan yeti\u015fkinlerin, ailelerine, evlatlar\u0131na ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fc davranabilmelerinin ne kadar zor oldu\u011funu.<\/p>\n

E\u011fitimin ancak bilin\u00e7le, sab\u0131rla, ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fcyle m\u00fcmk\u00fcn oldu\u011funu.<\/p>\n

Durum b\u00f6yleyken \u201cBaz\u0131s\u0131, sorunun bir par\u00e7as\u0131d\u0131r, herkesi su\u00e7lar, devaml\u0131 karanl\u0131\u011fa k\u00fcfreder. Baz\u0131s\u0131 da \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcn bir par\u00e7as\u0131d\u0131r, sorumluluk al\u0131r, kalk\u0131p bir mum yakar.\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n

Biz, ikincisini yapmaya mecburuz ve mahk\u00fbmuz!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

YEMUZ Nevzat Tarakçı 23.09.2006 Hava oldukça sıcak. Gölge arıyoruz telaşla. Mezarlığın duvarına sıralanmış çam ağaçlarının gölgesine sığınıyoruz. Kur’an okunuyor. Hemen yanı başımızda cenazenin defin işlemi sürüyor. Sessizlik hâkim ortama. Başlar eğik. Herkes dünyanın bir “muşamba dekor” olduğunu düşünüyor galiba. Dünyada hiçbir şeyin kalp kırmaya değmeyeceğini… Doğru yaşamanın önemini… Sessizliği, duvarın hemen dışında meraklı gözlerle kalabalığı 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