{"id":718,"date":"2019-02-20T17:06:10","date_gmt":"2019-02-20T17:06:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/circassiancenter.com\/tr\/?p=718"},"modified":"2019-02-20T17:06:10","modified_gmt":"2019-02-20T17:06:10","slug":"fonda-yer-almayip-ozne-olabilmek","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/fonda-yer-almayip-ozne-olabilmek\/","title":{"rendered":"FONDA YER ALMAYIP \u00d6ZNE OLAB\u0130LMEK"},"content":{"rendered":"

YEMUZ Nevzat Tarak\u00e7\u0131
\n<\/strong>20.01.2007<\/span><\/p>\n

Ana baba \u00c7erkes bir gen\u00e7 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn. Bu gen\u00e7te, olmamas\u0131 gereken hangi davran\u0131\u015flar var?<\/p>\n

\u0130dealsizlik, moralsizlik var.<\/p>\n

Kompleks ve kapris var.<\/p>\n

Okumama, ara\u015ft\u0131rmama var.<\/p>\n

G\u00fcvensizlik var.<\/p>\n

Laf kalabal\u0131\u011f\u0131 var.<\/p>\n

Gereksiz t\u00fcketim merak\u0131 var.<\/p>\n

H\u0131r\u00e7\u0131nl\u0131k var, \u00f6nyarg\u0131 var\u2026<\/p>\n

Peki, olmas\u0131 gereken hangi vas\u0131flar yok?<\/p>\n

E\u011fitim, yok, diploma yok.<\/p>\n

Meslek yok, i\u015f yok.<\/p>\n

Okul ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131 yok, diploma yok.<\/p>\n

Dil hassasiyeti, k\u00fclt\u00fcr bilinci yok.<\/p>\n

Sab\u0131r yok.<\/p>\n

Gelece\u011fe g\u00fcvenle bakma yok.<\/p>\n

Arkada\u015f \u00e7evresi, \u00e7evreyle uyum yok.<\/p>\n

Hayat\u0131n anlam\u0131n\u0131 tahlil edebilme becerisi yok.<\/b><\/p>\n

Kendini do\u011fru ifade edebilme g\u00fcc\u00fc yok.<\/p>\n

Disiplinli ya\u015fama yok\u2026<\/p>\n

<\/p>\n

\u00c7ocukluktan itibaren evde s\u00f6z hakk\u0131 anne babadaysa, gence s\u00f6z hakk\u0131 verilmiyorsa, fikri soruluyorsa,<\/p>\n

S\u00f6zl\u00fc \u015fiddet disiplin arac\u0131 olarak kullan\u0131l\u0131yorsa,<\/p>\n

B\u00fcy\u00fckler sevmesini bilmiyorsa, sevgisini g\u00f6steremiyorsa,<\/b><\/p>\n

Gen\u00e7 ve aile aras\u0131nda sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ileti\u015fim kurulam\u0131yorsa,<\/p>\n

Gencin, giyimi ku\u015fam\u0131, oturmas\u0131 kalkmas\u0131, konu\u015fmas\u0131 susmas\u0131, giri\u015fi \u00e7\u0131k\u0131\u015f\u0131, oturu\u015fu kalk\u0131\u015f\u0131, b\u00fct\u00fcn\u00fcyle kontrol alt\u0131ndaysa,<\/p>\n

Evde ileti\u015fim, b\u00fcy\u00fck olan\u0131n veya g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc olan\u0131n emir vermesi \u015feklinde alg\u0131lan\u0131yorsa,<\/p>\n

Ebeveyn disiplinle bask\u0131n\u0131n ay\u0131rd\u0131n da de\u011filse, en ufak bir sevgi g\u00f6sterisinde otoriteyi kaybedece\u011fine inan\u0131yorsa,<\/b><\/p>\n

Unutmayal\u0131m, hedefi olmayan, h\u0131r\u00e7\u0131n, ileti\u015fimi bilmeyen, yard\u0131m isteyemeyen, \u00f6fkesini yenemeyen, ailesine, \u00e7evresine hatta hi\u00e7 kimseye g\u00fcvenmeyen bir gen\u00e7lik yeti\u015fir.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Bu tezg\u00e2h\u0131n \u00fcr\u00fcn\u00fc olarak \u00f6fkeli ve asosyal yeti\u015fen gen\u00e7likse, hi\u00e7bir zaman \u00f6zne olamayacak, daima fonda kalacakt\u0131r.<\/b>\u00a0<\/p>\n

\u0130nan\u0131n, gen\u00e7li\u011fimiz b\u00f6yle yeti\u015firse maalesef b\u00f6yle bir gen\u00e7lik hepimizi bitirir!<\/p>\n

K\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc, dilimizi, her \u015feyimizi al\u0131r g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcr.<\/b><\/p>\n

<\/p>\n

Ger\u00e7i y\u0131llar\u0131n \u015fekillendirip kal\u0131pla\u015ft\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131 davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n de\u011fi\u015fmesi i\u00e7in \u015f\u00fcphesiz zamana ihtiya\u00e7 vard\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Hi\u00e7bir gen\u00e7, istemedi\u011fi bir \u015feyi bask\u0131yla yapmak istemez.<\/p>\n

Daima ciddiye al\u0131nmak ister.<\/p>\n

Demokratik ortam ister.<\/p>\n

Zaman ister.<\/p>\n

Yoksa \u00c7erkes gen\u00e7li\u011fi i\u00e7in biraz haks\u0131zl\u0131k m\u0131 ediyoruz?<\/p>\n

\u00c7erkes gen\u00e7li\u011fi genel toplumun i\u00e7inde biraz daha duyarl\u0131, biraz daha e\u011fitimli de\u011fil mi sizce?<\/b> \u00c7ok iyi yeti\u015fen gen\u00e7lerimiz yok mu?<\/p>\n

Kimin g\u00f6nl\u00fcnden ge\u00e7mez, kimli\u011fiyle, k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcyle bar\u0131\u015f\u0131k, mazisini, milli de\u011ferlerini lay\u0131k\u0131yla temsil eden, uyumlu, ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131, do\u011fru ya\u015fayan bir \u00c7erkes gen\u00e7li\u011fi!<\/p>\n

Gen\u00e7li\u011fimizle aram\u0131zda yap\u0131c\u0131 diyaloglar geli\u015fmiyorsa kim diyebilir: \u201cBen elimden geleni fazlas\u0131yla yapt\u0131m. \u00c7ocu\u011fum okumad\u0131ysa, i\u015f bulunam\u0131yorsa, \u00c7ekesli\u011fi \u00f6\u011frenemediyse, derne\u011fe u\u011frayam\u0131yorsa, d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnlerde oynayam\u0131yorsa, cenazelere kat\u0131lam\u0131yorsa, k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcyle ilgilenmiyorsa, hele hi\u00e7 okumuyorsa, bana ne, su\u00e7um yok benim! \u00c7eksin cezas\u0131n\u0131!\u201d diye.
\n
\nKim ister, \u201cGen\u00e7li\u011fimizin, kazanma rampas\u0131n\u0131n zirvesine gelmi\u015fken, kaybetmesini!\u201d <\/b><\/p>\n

Onlar en g\u00fczel \u015feylere lay\u0131k de\u011fil mi? Lay\u0131k tabii ki! Ama emek verilirse, ilgilenilirse ortam haz\u0131rlan\u0131rsa\u2026<\/p>\n

<\/p>\n

Asl\u0131nda mevcut sorunlar\u0131n \u00e7o\u011fu sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir aile i\u00e7i ileti\u015fimle do\u011fal olarak \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fclebilecek sorunlard\u0131r. Ne yaz\u0131k ki g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fcn \u015fartlar\u0131 buna engel olmakta, aileler, stresten, k\u0131s\u0131r d\u00f6ng\u00fclerden kurtulamamaktad\u0131r.<\/p>\n

\u00c7ocu\u011fa, ge\u00e7mi\u015ften gelen k\u00fclt\u00fcr miras\u0131, aile i\u00e7indeki do\u011fal davran\u0131\u015flarla aktar\u0131lmaz m\u0131?<\/p>\n

Milli de\u011ferlerimiz, k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcn ta\u015f\u0131y\u0131c\u0131s\u0131 olan dilin aktif kullan\u0131m\u0131yla; yani, deyimlerin, atas\u00f6zlerinin, de\u011fi\u015flerin, \u015fark\u0131 ve t\u00fcrk\u00fclerin, halk masallar\u0131n\u0131n tekerlemelerin g\u00fcncel hayatta kullan\u0131lmas\u0131 sayesinde kazand\u0131r\u0131lmaz m\u0131?\u00a0<\/p>\n

Bu sayede gen\u00e7lerin g\u00fcvensizlik, yaln\u0131zl\u0131k ve duygusal sorunlar\u0131 \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fclmez mi?<\/b><\/p>\n

B\u00f6ylece, her \u015feyimiz olan gen\u00e7lerin toplum i\u00e7inde kendini rahat ifade edebilmesi, kendi ayaklar\u0131 \u00fczerinde durabilmesi, donan\u0131ml\u0131 yeti\u015fmesi sa\u011flanmaz m\u0131?<\/p>\n

Bu, hayati \u00f6neme sahip konunun toplum olarak neresindeyiz?<\/p>\n

Neresindeyiz anne babalar, e\u011fitimciler, dernek y\u00f6neticileri?<\/p>\n

Neresindeyiz sevgili gen\u00e7ler, s\u00f6yleyin neresindeyiz?<\/p>\n

Ne kadar bilincindeyiz olay\u0131n ciddiyetinin?<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

YEMUZ Nevzat Tarakçı 20.01.2007 Ana baba Çerkes bir genç düşünün. Bu gençte, olmaması gereken hangi davranışlar var? İdealsizlik, moralsizlik var. Kompleks ve kapris var. Okumama, araştırmama var. Güvensizlik var. Laf kalabalığı var. Gereksiz tüketim merakı var. Hırçınlık var, önyargı var… Peki, olması gereken hangi vasıflar yok? Eğitim, yok, diploma yok. Meslek yok, iş yok. Okul […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_bbp_topic_count":0,"_bbp_reply_count":0,"_bbp_total_topic_count":0,"_bbp_total_reply_count":0,"_bbp_voice_count":0,"_bbp_anonymous_reply_count":0,"_bbp_topic_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_reply_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_forum_subforum_count":0,"ocean_post_layout":"","ocean_both_sidebars_style":"","ocean_both_sidebars_content_width":0,"ocean_both_sidebars_sidebars_width":0,"ocean_sidebar":"0","ocean_second_sidebar":"0","ocean_disable_margins":"enable","ocean_add_body_class":"","ocean_shortcode_before_top_bar":"","ocean_shortcode_after_top_bar":"","ocean_shortcode_before_header":"","ocean_shortcode_after_header":"","ocean_has_shortcode":"","ocean_shortcode_after_title":"","ocean_shortcode_before_footer_widgets":"","ocean_shortcode_after_footer_widgets":"","ocean_shortcode_before_footer_bottom":"","ocean_shortcode_after_footer_bottom":"","ocean_display_top_bar":"default","ocean_display_header":"default","ocean_header_style":"","ocean_center_header_left_menu":"0","ocean_custom_header_template":"0","ocean_custom_logo":0,"ocean_custom_retina_logo":0,"ocean_custom_logo_max_width":0,"ocean_custom_logo_tablet_max_width":0,"ocean_custom_logo_mobile_max_width":0,"ocean_custom_logo_max_height":0,"ocean_custom_logo_tablet_max_height":0,"ocean_custom_logo_mobile_max_height":0,"ocean_header_custom_menu":"0","ocean_menu_typo_font_family":"0","ocean_menu_typo_font_subset":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_size":0,"ocean_menu_typo_font_size_tablet":0,"ocean_menu_typo_font_size_mobile":0,"ocean_menu_typo_font_size_unit":"px","ocean_menu_typo_font_weight":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_weight_tablet":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_weight_mobile":"","ocean_menu_typo_transform":"","ocean_menu_typo_transform_tablet":"","ocean_menu_typo_transform_mobile":"","ocean_menu_typo_line_height":0,"ocean_menu_typo_line_height_tablet":0,"ocean_menu_typo_line_height_mobile":0,"ocean_menu_typo_line_height_unit":"","ocean_menu_typo_spacing":0,"ocean_menu_typo_spacing_tablet":0,"ocean_menu_typo_spacing_mobile":0,"ocean_menu_typo_spacing_unit":"","ocean_menu_link_color":"","ocean_menu_link_color_hover":"","ocean_menu_link_color_active":"","ocean_menu_link_background":"","ocean_menu_link_hover_background":"","ocean_menu_link_active_background":"","ocean_menu_social_links_bg":"","ocean_menu_social_hover_links_bg":"","ocean_menu_social_links_color":"","ocean_menu_social_hover_links_color":"","ocean_disable_title":"default","ocean_disable_heading":"default","ocean_post_title":"","ocean_post_subheading":"","ocean_post_title_style":"","ocean_post_title_background_color":"","ocean_post_title_background":0,"ocean_post_title_bg_image_position":"","ocean_post_title_bg_image_attachment":"","ocean_post_title_bg_image_repeat":"","ocean_post_title_bg_image_size":"","ocean_post_title_height":0,"ocean_post_title_bg_overlay":0.5,"ocean_post_title_bg_overlay_color":"","ocean_disable_breadcrumbs":"default","ocean_breadcrumbs_color":"","ocean_breadcrumbs_separator_color":"","ocean_breadcrumbs_links_color":"","ocean_breadcrumbs_links_hover_color":"","ocean_display_footer_widgets":"default","ocean_display_footer_bottom":"default","ocean_custom_footer_template":"0","ocean_post_oembed":"","ocean_post_self_hosted_media":"","ocean_post_video_embed":"","ocean_link_format":"","ocean_link_format_target":"self","ocean_quote_format":"","ocean_quote_format_link":"post","ocean_gallery_link_images":"off","ocean_gallery_id":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[106],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-718","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-yazarlar-yemuz-nevzat-tarakci","entry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/718","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=718"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/718\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":719,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/718\/revisions\/719"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=718"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=718"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=718"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}