{"id":7726,"date":"2019-03-08T18:23:31","date_gmt":"2019-03-08T18:23:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/circassiancenter.com\/tr\/?p=7726"},"modified":"2019-03-08T18:23:31","modified_gmt":"2019-03-08T18:23:31","slug":"farkli-kulturden-evlilik","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/farkli-kulturden-evlilik\/","title":{"rendered":"FARKLI K\u00dcLT\u00dcRDEN EVL\u0130L\u0130K"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Dr. Nihat Kaya<\/b><\/p>\n

Evlilikte k\u00fclt\u00fcrel uyum \u00e7ok \u00f6nemlidir. Fakat anlay\u0131\u015fl\u0131, ho\u015f g\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fc bireyler ciddi k\u00fclt\u00fcrel ayr\u0131l\u0131klar yoksa bir arada ya\u015fayabilirler. Burada \u00f6nemli olan \u00f6n yarg\u0131lar\u0131n olmamas\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

E\u011fer erkek yada kad\u0131n hep kendi k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcn\u00fcn beklentileriyle hareket ediyorsa sorun \u00e7\u0131kar, \u00e7o\u011funluklada sorunlar \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor. “Bizde b\u00f6yle bir \u015fey yok, bunu bilmiyorum, bunu kabul edemem, annem-babam b\u00f6yle \u00f6\u011fretmedi, bu yemek bana g\u00f6re de\u011fil….” \u015feklindeki konu\u015fmalar s\u0131k s\u0131k olabilmektedir. Oysa mant\u0131kl\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcp, farkl\u0131 k\u00fclt\u00fcrden birisiyle evlenildi\u011finde mutlaka farkl\u0131 yemek, giyim, davran\u0131m \u015fekillerinin olabilece\u011fini kabul etmek gerekir…<\/p>\n

Yabanc\u0131 bir k\u00fclt\u00fcr ve farkl\u0131 bir din veya mezhep mensuplar\u0131yla evlenildi\u011finde sorunlar ya\u015fanabilir.<\/p>\n

Ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7ta ailelerin \u00e7o\u011fu buna kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kmaktad\u0131r. Tarihsel ya\u015fanan olaylar nedeniyle dinler ve mezhepler aras\u0131nda yo\u011fun kavgalar ve sorunlar ya\u015fanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Bundan dolay\u0131 k\u0131rg\u0131nl\u0131k, k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131k, \u00f6fke, d\u00fc\u015fmanl\u0131klar olabilir. D\u0131\u015fa kapal\u0131, a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 muhafazakar ailelerde bu \u00e7ok belirgindir.<\/p>\n

Evlenecek bireyler bunu \u00f6nemsemeyebilirler.Evrensel yada “din k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fc” d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnebilirler, ger\u00e7ekten bunu a\u015fm\u0131\u015flarsa sorun az \u00e7\u0131kar. Ama her iki tarafta k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcne dinine ba\u011fl\u0131 ise, \u00e7at\u0131\u015fma \u00e7\u0131kar. Do\u011facak \u00e7ocu\u011fa verilecek isimden ba\u015flayarak nas\u0131l e\u011fitilece\u011fi hangi k\u0131yafetleri giyece\u011fi, hangi okula g\u00f6nderilece\u011fine kadar her konuda anla\u015fmazl\u0131k \u00e7\u0131kabilir.<\/p>\n

\u00c7ocuk iki arada bir derede kalabilir.<\/p>\n

Taraflardan biri daha bask\u0131nsa \u00e7ocuk o bask\u0131n k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcn etkisinde \u015fekillenir. Bu daha kabul edilebilirdir.<\/p>\n

Yurt d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda ya\u015fayan insanlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n yabanc\u0131larla evlenmelerinin bir \u00e7ok sebebi vard\u0131r.<\/p>\n

1) <\/b>Yabanc\u0131lar\u0131n daha do\u011fal ve rahat olmalar\u0131<\/p>\n

2)<\/b> K\u00fclt\u00fcrel-ekonomik imkanlar\u0131n\u0131n ve sosyal haklar\u0131n\u0131n iyi olmalar\u0131.<\/p>\n

3) <\/b>Kendine g\u00fcvenli, komplekslerinin az olmas\u0131<\/p>\n

4) <\/b>\u00d6zenti<\/p>\n

5) <\/b>Yurt d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda kalma hayalleri i\u00e7in basamak olarak kullanma<\/p>\n

6)<\/b> \u0130yi anla\u015f\u0131p, uyumlu olmalar\u0131<\/p>\n

7) <\/b>Bazen aileye tepki olarak kendini ispatlamak i\u00e7inde yabanc\u0131 biriyle evlilik yap\u0131labilir.<\/p>\n

Ebeveynlerin “yabanc\u0131larla” arkada\u015fl\u0131k ve evlilik konusunda hemen tepkisel, d\u0131\u015flay\u0131c\u0131 davranmamas\u0131 gerekir.<\/p>\n

\u00c7ocuklar\u0131na, gen\u00e7lerine yasaklar koyarak, k\u0131zarak, ba\u011f\u0131rarak, kavga ederek sorunu \u00e7\u00f6zemezler.<\/p>\n

\u00c7ocuklar\u0131yla oturup ” yarg\u0131lamadan, su\u00e7lamadan” anlamaya y\u00f6nelik konu\u015fmal\u0131lar. Onlara avantaj ve dezavantajlar\u0131n\u0131 s\u0131ralayarak ufuklar\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7mal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

\u00c7ocuklar\u0131 rencide edici, tehditvari konu\u015fmalar do\u011fru de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n

Farkl\u0131 ve yabanc\u0131 bir k\u00fclt\u00fcrden insanla evlenmek do\u011fal olarak baz\u0131 sorunlara yol a\u00e7abilir. Al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce ve tepki bi\u00e7imleri farkl\u0131 oldu\u011fundan \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmalar olabilir.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Dr. Nihat Kaya Evlilikte kültürel uyum çok önemlidir. Fakat anlayışlı, hoş görülü bireyler ciddi kültürel ayrılıklar yoksa bir arada yaşayabilirler. Burada önemli olan ön yargıların olmamasıdır. 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