{"id":7777,"date":"2019-03-08T19:48:47","date_gmt":"2019-03-08T19:48:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/circassiancenter.com\/tr\/?p=7777"},"modified":"2019-03-08T19:48:48","modified_gmt":"2019-03-08T19:48:48","slug":"kipkizil-sacli-masmavi-gozlu-incecik-cerkes-kadini","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/kipkizil-sacli-masmavi-gozlu-incecik-cerkes-kadini\/","title":{"rendered":"KIPKIZIL SA\u00c7LI, MASMAV\u0130 G\u00d6ZL\u00dc, \u0130NCEC\u0130K \u00c7ERKES KADINI"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/p>\n

Hasan Cemal<\/b>
\n<\/b>Milliyet Gazetesi, 12 Haziran 2012<\/p>\n

A\u015fa\u011f\u0131da, sosyal sorumluluk alan\u0131nda dan\u0131\u015fmanl\u0131k yapan bir dosttan, Nurdan \u015eahin\u2019den, bir anne ve bir kad\u0131n olarak siyaset\u00e7ilere yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir a\u00e7\u0131k mektup var, k\u00fcrtaj konusunda.<\/p>\n

<\/p>\n

\u00c7ocukken anneannemi pek sevmezdim. A\u011fabeyimi kay\u0131r\u0131rd\u0131 hep.<\/p>\n

Yazlar\u0131 k\u00f6ye gitti\u011fimizde, ablamla bana birer, ona iki yumurta yapard\u0131 rafadan. K\u0131zlar bir olup o\u011flan\u0131 \u00fcz\u00fcyorlar derdi.<\/p>\n

K\u0131pk\u0131z\u0131l sa\u00e7l\u0131, masmavi g\u00f6zl\u00fc bu incecik \u00c7erkes kad\u0131n\u0131na bunu yapt\u0131ran, asl\u0131nda bir erkek \u00e7ocuk \u00f6zlemiydi.<\/p>\n

Annem tek \u00e7ocuktu.<\/p>\n

K\u00f6y yerinde tuhaf bir durum…<\/p>\n

\u00c7ok sonralar\u0131 \u00f6\u011frendim ki, anneannem hemen annemden sonra hamile kalm\u0131\u015f. K\u00f6yde bu i\u015fleri bilen bir kad\u0131na g\u00f6t\u00fcrm\u00fc\u015fler.<\/p>\n

Art\u0131k her neyle d\u00fc\u015f\u00fc\u011fe yol a\u00e7t\u0131 ise anneannem \u00f6l\u00fcmden d\u00f6nm\u00fc\u015f ve bir daha da hamile kalamam\u0131\u015f, \u00e7ok istedi\u011fi o erkek \u00e7ocu\u011fa kavu\u015famam\u0131\u015f… Zaten 57 ya\u015f\u0131nda da g\u00f6\u00e7t\u00fc gitti bu d\u00fcnyadan.<\/p>\n

Ben \u00e7evremde k\u00fcrtaj olmam\u0131\u015f, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fck yapmam\u0131\u015f tek bir kad\u0131n bilmiyorum.
\n\u00c7evrem derken sadece \u0130stanbul\u2019daki okul, i\u015f, arkada\u015f \u00e7evremden bahsetmiyorum.<\/p>\n

Anam\u0131n babam\u0131n \u0130zmit\u2019teki, eski e\u015fimin, eni\u015fte ve yengelerimin T\u00fcrkiye\u2019nin \u00e7e\u015fitli yerlerindeki \u015fehirli, k\u00f6yl\u00fc akrabalar\u0131; be\u015f vakit namaz k\u0131lan, beyaz ba\u015f\u00f6rt\u00fcl\u00fc teyzeler de dahil bu \u00e7evreye.<\/p>\n

B\u00fcy\u00fck \u00e7o\u011funlu\u011fu da k\u00fcrtaj\u0131n yasak oldu\u011fu zamanlarda ger\u00e7ekle\u015fmi\u015f. Kimi o \u015fartlarda tesad\u00fcfen sorunsuz hallolmu\u015f.<\/p>\n

Kimiyse anneannem gibi bazen do\u011furganl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 kaybetmi\u015f, bazen hayati tehlikeler atlatm\u0131\u015f.<\/p>\n

K\u00fcrtaj bir do\u011fum kontrol y\u00f6ntemi de\u011fil ve olmamal\u0131.
\n<\/b>
\nAncak \u015fu ya da bu nedenle, korunma y\u00f6ntemi ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z kalm\u0131\u015f veya cehalet, bask\u0131, imkans\u0131zl\u0131k, gen\u00e7lik gibi \u00e7e\u015fitli nedenlerle do\u011fru y\u00f6ntem kullan\u0131lmam\u0131\u015fsa, kad\u0131n hangi nedenle olursa olsun kendini anne olmaya haz\u0131r hissetmiyorsa, k\u00fcrtaja ba\u015fvurmak en do\u011fal hakk\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Genel olarak, kad\u0131nlar da bu y\u00f6ntemi uygulamay\u0131 tercih etmezler.<\/p>\n

\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc k\u00fcrtaj y\u0131prat\u0131c\u0131 bir operasyondur, hem fiziksel hem de duygusal olarak \u00f6yledir.<\/p>\n

Bu y\u0131prat\u0131c\u0131 karar\u0131 vermek yeterince zor iken bir de bunu ka\u00e7a g\u00f6\u00e7e, sa\u011fl\u0131ks\u0131z ortamlarda doktor yerine ehliyeti kendinden menkul f\u0131rsat\u00e7\u0131larla ya\u015famak zorunda kalmak ger\u00e7ekten hayat\u0131m\u0131za kast anlam\u0131na gelir.<\/p>\n

Ve bu hayata kast a\u011f\u0131r bir su\u00e7tur!<\/p>\n

K\u00fcrtaj\u0131 yasaklama giri\u015fimi, kad\u0131nlar\u0131n hayat\u0131na ve anneannemde oldu\u011fu gibi do\u011furganl\u0131klar\u0131na kastediyor.<\/p>\n

Kad\u0131n, erkek \u00fclkemin t\u00fcm insanlar\u0131n\u0131n bu hak gasp\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kmas\u0131 gerekir.<\/p>\n

Hele Say\u0131n Sa\u011fl\u0131k Bakan\u0131\u2019n\u0131n tecav\u00fcz sonucu do\u011facak bebe\u011fe gerekirse devlet bakar s\u00f6z\u00fcyle, insan ve kad\u0131n haklar\u0131n\u0131 ayaklar alt\u0131na alan, sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131 sadece fiziksel sa\u011fl\u0131k olarak g\u00f6ren, kad\u0131n\u0131 hi\u00e7e sayan a\u00e7\u0131klamas\u0131na erkek kad\u0131n t\u00fcm toplumun ciddi bir reaksiyon g\u00f6stermesi gerekir(di.)<\/p>\n

Durup dururken ortaya att\u0131\u011f\u0131 bu \u2018sorun\u2019a \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm yerine yasak\u00e7\u0131 yakla\u015f\u0131m\u0131 benimsemi\u015f g\u00f6r\u00fcnen h\u00fck\u00fcmetin, yakla\u015f\u0131m\u0131n\u0131 g\u00fc\u00e7lendirmek i\u00e7in Diyanet \u0130\u015fleri\u2019nden g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f istemesi ise ba\u015fl\u0131 ba\u015f\u0131na bir sorun.<\/p>\n

T\u00fcrkiye\u2019 de S\u00fcnni, Alevi, H\u0131ristiyan, Musevi gibi \u00e7e\u015fitli inan\u00e7lara sahip ve inan\u00e7s\u0131z insanlar var.<\/p>\n

Yoksa k\u00fcrtaj yasa\u011f\u0131 sadece S\u00fcnni M\u00fcsl\u00fcman kad\u0131nlar i\u00e7in mi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcl\u00fcyor? Ya da s\u0131ras\u0131yla t\u00fcm dini inan\u00e7 otoritelerinden g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f m\u00fc al\u0131nacak?<\/p>\n

Peki inan\u00e7s\u0131zlar ne olacak?
\n<\/b>
\nBireysel haklar i\u00e7in dini g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f almak, ki\u015fi ya da kurulu\u015flar\u0131n arzu ederlerse yapabilece\u011fi bir \u015feydir.<\/p>\n

Ama h\u00fck\u00fcmet yasa \u00e7\u0131karmak i\u00e7in bu yola ba\u015fvurursa, burada modern demokratik devletten bahsetmek m\u00fcmk\u00fcn de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n

Ve bu yakla\u015f\u0131m, ba\u015f\u00f6rt\u00fcl\u00fc k\u0131zlar\u0131 e\u011fitimden mahrum etmek isteyen yak\u0131n ge\u00e7mi\u015fteki iktidar sahiplerinin tarz\u0131ndan da farkl\u0131 de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n

\u00d6te yandan, Diyanet \u0130\u015fleri Ba\u015fkan\u0131 (laik demokratik bir \u00fclkede niye b\u00f6yle bir devlet organ\u0131 oldu\u011fu da ayr\u0131 bir sorun tabii) bile, \u00e7ok a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a olmasa da yasa\u011f\u0131n \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ifade etmi\u015f.<\/p>\n

Evet, yasak \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm de\u011fil!<\/p>\n

Yasak, ayr\u0131mc\u0131 bir uygulama.<\/p>\n

Yasak esas olarak ekonomik ve sosyal imkanlar\u0131 k\u0131s\u0131tl\u0131 olan \u00e7evrelerdeki kad\u0131nlar\u0131 etkileyecek.<\/p>\n

Onlar ilkel y\u00f6ntemlere ya da g\u00fcvenilmez \u2018sa\u011fl\u0131k\u2019 kurulu\u015flar\u0131na ba\u015fvurarak do\u011furganl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131, sa\u011fl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131, belki de hayatlar\u0131n\u0131 tehlikeye atacaklar.
\nHali vakti yerinde olanlar ise daha iyi ko\u015fullarda, belki yurtd\u0131\u015f\u0131nda k\u00fcrtaj meselesini halledecekler.<\/p>\n

Ama onlar da, k\u00fcrtaj\u0131n stresine ilaveten, \u2018illegal\u2019 bir operasyon yapt\u0131rman\u0131n y\u00fck\u00fc alt\u0131nda ezilecekler.<\/p>\n

Her durumda, s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131y\u0131 \u00e7ekecek olan kad\u0131n ve kad\u0131nlar\u0131n tamamen kendi iradeleriyle bu kararlar\u0131 almalar\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcne \u015fu ya da bu nedenle ge\u00e7meye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak, insan haklar\u0131na da ayk\u0131r\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Bu nedenle, ba\u015fta kad\u0131nlar olmak \u00fczere, herkesin \u00f6zel hayata ve bireysel haklara m\u00fcdahale anlam\u0131na gelen h\u00fck\u00fcmetin bu yakla\u015f\u0131m\u0131na sonuna kadar kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kmas\u0131 gerekiyor.<\/p>\n

Ancak, bu kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7\u0131k\u0131\u015f\u0131n \u201cBedenime kar\u0131\u015fma!\u201d slogan\u0131ndan daha farkl\u0131 ifade edilmesi laz\u0131m.<\/p>\n

Bedenime kar\u0131\u015fma basitli\u011fine indirdi\u011fimiz zaman, kad\u0131n\u0131 bir \u00e7ocuk ta\u015f\u0131y\u0131c\u0131s\u0131 olarak g\u00f6ren zihniyetten pek bir fark\u0131m\u0131z kalm\u0131yor.<\/p>\n

Beden benim, ister ta\u015f\u0131r\u0131m, ister ta\u015f\u0131mam! Oysa bu beden ile de\u011fil, hayat ile ilgili bir karar. Kad\u0131n\u0131n bilerek ya da bilmeyerek hamile kald\u0131\u011f\u0131 d\u00f6nemde, kendi hayat\u0131na y\u00f6nelik ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00f6nemli bir karar.<\/p>\n

Anne olmak ya da olmamak!
\n<\/b>
\nAnneli\u011fin en kolay k\u0131sm\u0131 hamilelik.<\/p>\n

Esas sorumluluk, emek do\u011fumdan sonra ba\u015flay\u0131p, kad\u0131n\u0131n hayat\u0131 boyunca devam ediyor.<\/p>\n

Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla, ya\u015fam\u0131 ile ilgili verece\u011fi bir karar\u0131 sadece bedene indirgemek olay\u0131 hafifletiyor ve tepki de \u00e7ekiyor.<\/p>\n

Kad\u0131n\u0131n zorla hamile b\u0131rak\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131, korundu\u011fu halde kazaya u\u011frad\u0131\u011f\u0131 ve\/veya ister duygusal, ister fiziksel, ister ekonomik nedenlerle kendini anne olmaya haz\u0131r hissetmedi\u011fi durumda vermek durumunda kald\u0131\u011f\u0131 ve sonu\u00e7lar\u0131na da tek ba\u015f\u0131na katland\u0131\u011f\u0131 bu karar sadece bedenime kar\u0131\u015fma slogan\u0131 ile ifade edilemeyecek kadar \u00f6nemli ve kompleks.<\/p>\n

\u0130ster g\u00fcndem de\u011fi\u015ftirmek, ister ba\u015fka nedenlerle olsun, art\u0131k herkes kad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u00fczerinden siyaset yapmay\u0131 b\u0131raks\u0131n!<\/p>\n

K\u00fcrtaj\u0131m\u0131za da kar\u0131\u015fmay\u0131n, ba\u015f\u00f6rt\u00fcm\u00fcze de, ka\u00e7 \u00e7ocuk do\u011furaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131za da kar\u0131\u015fmay\u0131n.<\/p>\n

B\u0131rak\u0131n kad\u0131nlar ve t\u00fcm insanlar, hayatlar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6zg\u00fcrce, kendi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce, inan\u00e7 ve hayalleri do\u011frultusunda ya\u015fayabilsinler.<\/p>\n

Siyaset ve siyaset\u00e7ilere d\u00fc\u015fen en \u00f6nemli g\u00f6revlerden biri t\u00fcm insanlara bu ortam\u0131 sa\u011flamak olsun; gereksiz m\u00fcdahaleler de\u011fil.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Hasan Cemal Milliyet Gazetesi, 12 Haziran 2012 Aşağıda, sosyal sorumluluk alanında danışmanlık yapan bir dosttan, Nurdan Şahin’den, bir anne ve bir kadın olarak siyasetçilere yazdığı bir açık mektup var, kürtaj konusunda. Çocukken anneannemi pek sevmezdim. Ağabeyimi kayırırdı hep. Yazları köye gittiğimizde, ablamla bana birer, ona iki yumurta yapardı rafadan. Kızlar bir olup oğlanı üzüyorlar derdi. 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