{"id":8520,"date":"2025-03-20T01:50:48","date_gmt":"2025-03-20T06:50:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/circassiancenter.com\/tr\/?p=8520"},"modified":"2025-03-20T16:22:22","modified_gmt":"2025-03-20T21:22:22","slug":"evlenisim","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/evlenisim\/","title":{"rendered":"EVLEN\u0130\u015e\u0130M"},"content":{"rendered":"

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MER\u015eEN Me\u00e7rail
\n<\/strong> O\u015fhamafe, 1976 May\u0131s. s. 89-90
\n\u00c7eviri: GHUNEKHO K. \u00d6zbay<\/p>\n

\u00d6nce kendimi tan\u0131tay\u0131m. Ben bir da\u011f k\u00f6y\u00fcnde oturan Adige k\u00f6ylerinden birindenim. Ad\u0131m Hadis. Annemle babam sa\u011flar ama ya\u015flanm\u0131\u015flard\u0131r da. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131 ben ve k\u00f6y\u00fcn \u00fcst taraf\u0131nda evli olan ablamd\u0131r. \u0130kimizden ba\u015fka \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan, ablam\u0131n b\u00fcy\u00fck o\u011flunu eve getirdiler, kendisi s\u00fcrekli bizlerde kalmaktayd\u0131. Ye\u011fenimin ismi ise Muse’dir. Ha, ya\u015f\u0131m\u0131 sormay\u0131n, s\u00f6ylemem, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc ay\u0131p olur.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Bir g\u00fcn i\u015ften gelmi\u015f ve yorgun, yorgun eve uzanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. Tam dinleniyorum derken arkadaki odadan sesler gelmeye ba\u015flad\u0131.
\n– Allah, Allah bizler ya\u015fland\u0131k, kendisinin de hi\u00e7 evlenece\u011fi yok. Hi\u00e7 bizleri de d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u00fcyor, dedi annem.
\n– Babam, vallahi do\u011fru s\u00f6ylersin han\u0131m, kimin k\u0131z\u0131n\u0131 alal\u0131m ki?
\n– Duydu\u011fuma g\u00f6re Kharen’in k\u0131z\u0131yla konu\u015fuyor.
\n– Vallahi ben onlar\u0131n k\u0131z\u0131n\u0131 onaylamam. Her taraf\u0131 alt\u0131n olsa da Kharen\u2019in k\u0131z\u0131 de\u011fil mi? O mu gelinimiz olacak, b\u0131rak\u0131n \u015funu.
\n– Peki o\u011flumuz bizlerin d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesini biliyor mu? Ancak ben sa\u011f oldu\u011fum m\u00fcddet\u00e7e onu hi\u00e7 kabul edemem.<\/p>\n

\u0130kisi, onu nas\u0131l ikna edelim, onlar k\u0131zlar\u0131n\u0131 k\u00f6yden hi\u00e7 kimseye m\u00fcnasip g\u00f6rm\u00fcyorlar. Kim babas\u0131n\u0131n s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc dinlemez ki. Ablas\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131k, a\u00e7\u0131k dola\u015f\u0131r. Erkek karde\u015fi de kentte k\u0131zlarla g\u00fcn\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00fcn ediyormu\u015f diye kendi aralar\u0131nda konu\u015furlar. Sonunda gelin aramak i\u00e7in kom\u015fu k\u00f6ylere gitmeye karar veriler.<\/p>\n

Bende b\u00fct\u00fcn s\u00f6ylenenleri duydu\u011fumdan sabah erken evden ayr\u0131lmaya karar verdim.<\/p>\n

Daha evden \u00e7\u0131kmam\u0131\u015ft\u0131m ki annem,
\n– A Muse, ayd\u0131nl\u0131k d\u00fcnyas\u0131 g\u00fczelim, kalk, kalk da at\u0131 ko\u015fal\u0131m.
\nMuse yatakta k\u0131vran\u0131p dururken bir \u015feyler m\u0131r\u0131ldanarak g\u00f6zlerini a\u00e7t\u0131.<\/p>\n

Annem, seni erken kald\u0131rd\u0131m. Kalk da sana yemek yedireyim dedi ve yorgan\u0131 Muse\u2019nin \u00fczerinden att\u0131.
\n– Ya nine, erkenden okul i\u00e7in kald\u0131rmazsan olmam\u0131, diye a\u011flamakl\u0131 s\u00f6ylendi Muse.
\n– Benim i\u00e7in fark etmez, sen bir tanesin, okula gitmesen olur mu?<\/p>\n

Annem so\u011fuk varm\u0131\u015f gibi s\u00f6ylenir. Bende tela\u015fla kalk\u0131p d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeye ba\u015flad\u0131m. Nas\u0131l olurda annemle babam\u0131n yapacaklar\u0131 bir delili\u011fe engel olabilirdim. Yoksa yapaca\u011f\u0131m hareketle olaylar\u0131 daha da b\u00fcy\u00fcte bilirdim.<\/p>\n

Ne olursa olsun diye her \u015feyi a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a Bolet\u2019e \u015f\u00f6yle yazd\u0131m “Bolet, sevgilim, benim k\u00f6t\u00fc bir \u015fey d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmedi\u011fimi bilirsin. Bu i\u015fin i\u00e7inde bir i\u015f var ama biliyorsam ben yok olay\u0131m”.<\/p>\n

Yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 kimseye g\u00f6stermeden Muse\u2019nin kula\u011f\u0131n\u0131 da \u00e7ekerek Bolet\u2019e vermesini istedim.<\/p>\n

Muse mektubu ula\u015ft\u0131rm\u0131\u015f ve ertesi g\u00fcn\u00fc cevap gelmi\u015fti. Bolet “acele etme, ben ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m m\u00fcddet\u00e7e sen \u00f6lmezsin”.<\/p>\n

Aradan bir ka\u00e7 g\u00fcn ge\u00e7mesine ra\u011fmen babamlardan hi\u00e7 ses \u00e7\u0131kmad\u0131 ama bende tela\u015flanmaya ba\u015flam\u0131\u015ft\u0131m.<\/p>\n

Bir ak\u015fam \u00fczeri avluda dolan\u0131p dururken m\u0131z\u0131kayla birlikte seslerde duymaya ba\u015flad\u0131m. Ne oldu\u011funu merak edip caddeye bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131mda iki at arabas\u0131 kom\u015fular\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n avlusuna girmekteydi. Daha da meraklan\u0131p avlu \u00e7itinde bak\u0131nca babam arabadan inmi\u015f bir \u015feyler yapmaktayd\u0131. Bu arada iki gen\u00e7 taraf\u0131nda elleri tutulmu\u015f bir bayan arabadan indirildi. Gen\u00e7ler bayan\u0131n y\u00fcz\u00fcn\u00fc a\u00e7t\u0131klar\u0131nda babam,
\n– Git oraya ne duruyorsun, seni haz\u0131rs\u0131z seni. Sen evlendin evlendin, git, M\u0131sxhullara, sonra seni adetler gere\u011fi eve al\u0131r\u0131z.<\/p>\n

Di\u011fer taraftan evin kap\u0131s\u0131 kapan\u0131rken ger\u00e7e\u011fi anlam\u0131\u015ft\u0131m. Duydu\u011fum s\u00f6zlerden \u00fcz\u00fclm\u00fc\u015f ve ne yapaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131 bilemeden dururken annem,
\n– Git g\u00fczelim bak, san\u0131r\u0131m istedi\u011fimiz gibi Bolet\u2019i gelin getirdik.<\/p>\n

Olanlardan \u00e7ok \u00fcz\u00fclm\u00fc\u015f ve kalbim yerinden f\u0131rlayacak gibi bak\u0131n\u0131rken evde g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm gelin Bolet\u2019ti, Kharen\u2019in k\u0131z\u0131.<\/p>\n

Beni yeniden bir sevin\u00e7 kaplad\u0131.<\/p>\n

Evet, Bolet “ben ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m m\u00fcddet\u00e7e sen \u00f6lmezsin” demi\u015fti.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

MERŞEN Meçrail Oşhamafe, 1976 Mayıs. s. 89-90 Çeviri: GHUNEKHO K. Özbay Önce kendimi tanıtayım. Ben bir dağ köyünde oturan Adige köylerinden birindenim. Adım Hadis. Annemle babam sağlar ama yaşlanmışlardır da. Çocukları ben ve köyün üst tarafında evli olan ablamdır. İkimizden başka çocukları olmadığından, ablamın büyük oğlunu eve getirdiler, kendisi sürekli bizlerde kalmaktaydı. Yeğenimin ismi ise […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_bbp_topic_count":0,"_bbp_reply_count":0,"_bbp_total_topic_count":0,"_bbp_total_reply_count":0,"_bbp_voice_count":0,"_bbp_anonymous_reply_count":0,"_bbp_topic_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_reply_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_forum_subforum_count":0,"ocean_post_layout":"","ocean_both_sidebars_style":"","ocean_both_sidebars_content_width":0,"ocean_both_sidebars_sidebars_width":0,"ocean_sidebar":"0","ocean_second_sidebar":"0","ocean_disable_margins":"enable","ocean_add_body_class":"","ocean_shortcode_before_top_bar":"","ocean_shortcode_after_top_bar":"","ocean_shortcode_before_header":"","ocean_shortcode_after_header":"","ocean_has_shortcode":"","ocean_shortcode_after_title":"","ocean_shortcode_before_footer_widgets":"","ocean_shortcode_after_footer_widgets":"","ocean_shortcode_before_footer_bottom":"","ocean_shortcode_after_footer_bottom":"","ocean_display_top_bar":"default","ocean_display_header":"default","ocean_header_style":"","ocean_center_header_left_menu":"0","ocean_custom_header_template":"0","ocean_custom_logo":0,"ocean_custom_retina_logo":0,"ocean_custom_logo_max_width":0,"ocean_custom_logo_tablet_max_width":0,"ocean_custom_logo_mobile_max_width":0,"ocean_custom_logo_max_height":0,"ocean_custom_logo_tablet_max_height":0,"ocean_custom_logo_mobile_max_height":0,"ocean_header_custom_menu":"0","ocean_menu_typo_font_family":"0","ocean_menu_typo_font_subset":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_size":0,"ocean_menu_typo_font_size_tablet":0,"ocean_menu_typo_font_size_mobile":0,"ocean_menu_typo_font_size_unit":"px","ocean_menu_typo_font_weight":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_weight_tablet":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_weight_mobile":"","ocean_menu_typo_transform":"","ocean_menu_typo_transform_tablet":"","ocean_menu_typo_transform_mobile":"","ocean_menu_typo_line_height":0,"ocean_menu_typo_line_height_tablet":0,"ocean_menu_typo_line_height_mobile":0,"ocean_menu_typo_line_height_unit":"","ocean_menu_typo_spacing":0,"ocean_menu_typo_spacing_tablet":0,"ocean_menu_typo_spacing_mobile":0,"ocean_menu_typo_spacing_unit":"","ocean_menu_link_color":"","ocean_menu_link_color_hover":"","ocean_menu_link_color_active":"","ocean_menu_link_background":"","ocean_menu_link_hover_background":"","ocean_menu_link_active_background":"","ocean_menu_social_links_bg":"","ocean_menu_social_hover_links_bg":"","ocean_menu_social_links_color":"","ocean_menu_social_hover_links_color":"","ocean_disable_title":"default","ocean_disable_heading":"default","ocean_post_title":"","ocean_post_subheading":"","ocean_post_title_style":"","ocean_post_title_background_color":"","ocean_post_title_background":0,"ocean_post_title_bg_image_position":"","ocean_post_title_bg_image_attachment":"","ocean_post_title_bg_image_repeat":"","ocean_post_title_bg_image_size":"","ocean_post_title_height":0,"ocean_post_title_bg_overlay":0.5,"ocean_post_title_bg_overlay_color":"","ocean_disable_breadcrumbs":"default","ocean_breadcrumbs_color":"","ocean_breadcrumbs_separator_color":"","ocean_breadcrumbs_links_color":"","ocean_breadcrumbs_links_hover_color":"","ocean_display_footer_widgets":"default","ocean_display_footer_bottom":"default","ocean_custom_footer_template":"0","ocean_post_oembed":"","ocean_post_self_hosted_media":"","ocean_post_video_embed":"","ocean_link_format":"","ocean_link_format_target":"self","ocean_quote_format":"","ocean_quote_format_link":"post","ocean_gallery_link_images":"off","ocean_gallery_id":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[118],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8520","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-oykuler","entry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8520","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8520"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8520\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":44209,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8520\/revisions\/44209"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8520"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8520"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8520"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}