![\"\"](\"http:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/UZUNYAYLADA-GELIN-ARKASI-ZIYARETLER-b.png\")
<\/p>\n<\/p>\n
WORDIM M\u00fczeyyen Kip<\/strong><\/p>\n Gelin olup giden k\u0131z\u0131n ailesi aradan \u00fc\u00e7-be\u015f ay ge\u00e7tikten sonra k\u0131zlar\u0131n\u0131 ziyaret etmek i\u00e7in erkek evine giderdi. Xabze gere\u011fi k\u0131z\u0131n anne ve babas\u0131 kesinlikle gitmezdi. Karde\u015fleri, yenge, hala, teyze vs gibi yak\u0131nlar\u0131 ile misafir k\u0131z olarak kabul edilen akraba ya da kom\u015fu gen\u00e7 k\u0131zlar giderdi. Damat evinde birka\u00e7 g\u00fcn misafir olarak kal\u0131rlard\u0131.<\/span><\/p>\n Gelen misafirleri damad\u0131n amcas\u0131 gibi yak\u0131n akrabalar\u0131 veya \u00e7ok yak\u0131n kom\u015fular\u0131 da yeme\u011fe davet ederdi. Misafir gelen gen\u00e7 k\u0131z ve erkekler ile k\u00f6y\u00fcn gen\u00e7 k\u0131z ve erkekleri wer\u015ferler yapar, m\u0131z\u0131kalar \u00e7al\u0131p kendi aralar\u0131nda e\u011flenirlerdi. Kendi akrabalar\u0131n\u0131 ilk defa evine buyur eden gelin, mutlu edilsin diye damat taraf\u0131 ve yak\u0131nlar\u0131 ellerinden gelen hizmeti sunard\u0131. Xabze gere\u011fi damat kendi \u201cle\u011fune\u201d (gelin odas\u0131) yatak odas\u0131nda kalmazd\u0131. Gelin kendisine en yak\u0131n sayd\u0131\u011f\u0131 (k\u0131z karde\u015f gibi) ya da \u00f6nem verdi\u011fi bayan misafirleri ile birlikte kal\u0131rd\u0131.<\/p>\n K\u0131z evinden, geline ve damat evindeki yeni akrabalar\u0131na hediyeler getirilirdi. Hediyelerin yan\u0131nda kutulara konulmu\u015f \u201cthur\u0131\u015f\u201d denen kurabiyeler, baklava dilimleri \u015feklinde kesilip \u00fczeri anahtar \u015feklinde s\u00fcslenmi\u015f un helvalar\u0131, lokumlar vs de g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcl\u00fcrd\u00fc. \u00d6zenle haz\u0131rlanan bu t\u00fcr yiyecekler mutlaka g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcl\u00fcrd\u00fc.<\/p>\n Damat taraf\u0131 da b\u00fct\u00fcn gelenlere ve b\u00fcy\u00fcklere verilmek \u00fczere hediyeler verirdi. Bu hediyeler genellikle elbiselik kuma\u015f, \u00e7orap, havlu, i\u00e7 \u00e7ama\u015f\u0131r\u0131 (fanila), terlik vs olurdu.<\/p>\n K\u0131z taraf\u0131 evine d\u00f6nmeye karar verdi\u011fi g\u00fcn damat evi \u201cmisafirlerini yeme\u011fe alanlar ile kom\u015fular\u0131n\u0131 ve k\u00f6y\u00fcn gen\u00e7lerini \u201cn\u0131\u015f\u201d denen yeme\u011fe davet ederdi. Kalabal\u0131k bir kat\u0131l\u0131m ile yenen ”n\u0131\u015f\u2019’den sonra misafir kalmak \u00e7ok ay\u0131p say\u0131l\u0131rd\u0131. K\u0131z evi yemekten hemen sonra vedala\u015f\u0131p k\u00f6yden ayr\u0131l\u0131rd\u0131.<\/p>\n UZUNYAYLA\u2019DA KIZ KA\u00c7IRMA K\u0131z ka\u00e7\u0131racak gen\u00e7, bir iki arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131 ve k\u0131z\u0131n yak\u0131n\u0131 kabul edece\u011fi bir erke\u011fi de yan\u0131na al\u0131p daha \u00f6ncesinden s\u00f6zle\u015fmi\u015f oldu\u011fu k\u0131z\u0131 ka\u00e7\u0131r\u0131rd\u0131. Ka\u00e7\u0131r\u0131lan k\u0131z erke\u011fin yak\u0131n bir akrabas\u0131na g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcl\u00fcrd\u00fc. Akrabaya teslim edilen gen\u00e7 k\u0131z art\u0131k o evin k\u0131z\u0131 kabul edilirdi. Ka\u00e7\u0131ran gen\u00e7 ile k\u0131z d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn yap\u0131lana kadar hi\u00e7bir \u015fekilde g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmezdi.<\/p>\n Bu konuda bir an\u0131m\u0131 da sizlerle payla\u015fmak isterim.<\/p>\n 1980 y\u0131llar\u0131nda bir yaz ay\u0131 ve bayram g\u00fcn\u00fcyd\u00fc. Gece on-on bir gibi evin kap\u0131s\u0131 \u00e7al\u0131nd\u0131. Halam\u0131n o\u011flu endi\u015feli ve tela\u015fl\u0131 g\u00f6zlerle kap\u0131dayd\u0131. A\u011fabeyimi d\u0131\u015far\u0131ya \u00e7a\u011f\u0131rd\u0131 ve k\u0131z ka\u00e7\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yledi. A\u011fabeyim hemen k\u0131z\u0131 eve buyur etti. Derhal babama haber verildi ve thamadeler (ya\u015fl\u0131lar) topland\u0131. Thamadeler kendi aralar\u0131nda \u201cwunafe\u201dler yapmaya ba\u015flad\u0131lar. Bir taraftan neler yap\u0131laca\u011f\u0131 konu\u015fuluyor di\u011fer taraftan ola ki k\u0131z evinden bir bask\u0131n olur diye \u00e7ok dikkatli davran\u0131l\u0131yordu. Bu s\u0131rada ka\u00e7an k\u0131z da oda da yaln\u0131z b\u0131rak\u0131lm\u0131yordu. Herkeste bir tela\u015f vard\u0131 ama olduk\u00e7a sakinlermi\u015f gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnmeye de \u00e7ok \u00f6zen g\u00f6steriyorlard\u0131.<\/p>\n Damat aday\u0131 k\u0131z\u0131 teslim ettikten sonra ba\u015fka bir yere kalmaya gitmi\u015fti. K\u0131z\u0131n kim oldu\u011fu ve ya\u015f\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenildi. K\u0131z\u0131n ailesi k\u0131zlar\u0131n\u0131n kimlerde oldu\u011funu ( s\u00fclale) bilsin diye haberdar edilecekti.<\/p>\n Bize gelen bu k\u0131z 17 ya\u015f\u0131nda ve ikide ablas\u0131 olan bir k\u0131zd\u0131. Her \u015feye ra\u011fmen bizimkiler k\u0131z\u0131 emanet ald\u0131klar\u0131 i\u00e7in, k\u0131za kendi k\u0131zlar\u0131 gibi sahip \u00e7\u0131kacaklard\u0131.<\/p>\n Thamadeler aralar\u0131nda karara vard\u0131lar. K\u0131z k\u00f6y\u00fcn d\u0131\u015f\u0131na \u015fehre g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fclecekti. \u00c7ok ge\u00e7meden wunafe sonucu k\u0131z Kayseri\u2019ye g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fclmek \u00fczere yola \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131ld\u0131. Ge\u00e7mi\u015fte ya\u015fanan baz\u0131 tats\u0131z olaylar hat\u0131rlan\u0131p bir yerde adres \u015fa\u015f\u0131rtmas\u0131 yap\u0131ld\u0131. K\u0131z\u0131n kimlerde oldu\u011fu ailesine haber verilmi\u015f ama adresi \u00e7ok gizli tutulmu\u015ftu.<\/p>\n Ertesi g\u00fcn b\u00fct\u00fcn k\u00f6ye haber verildi ve k\u00f6y\u00fcn thamadeleri topland\u0131. Birka\u00e7 ki\u015fiden olu\u015fan bir heyet k\u0131z\u0131n ailesine g\u00f6nderildi. K\u0131z\u0131n amcalar\u0131 vs gibi b\u00fcy\u00fck say\u0131lacak yak\u0131nlar\u0131 gelenler ile g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc. (Xabze gere\u011fi k\u0131z\u0131n babas\u0131 hi\u00e7bir \u015fekilde gelenler ile konu\u015fmaz, konu\u015fmalara kat\u0131lmaz, ba\u015f\u0131 \u00f6nde sessizce al\u0131nacak karar\u0131 bekler.)<\/p>\n Nihayetinde k\u0131z\u0131n taraf\u0131 ile erkek taraf\u0131 uzla\u015f\u0131 sa\u011flad\u0131 ve nik\u00e2h\u0131n k\u0131y\u0131lmas\u0131 i\u00e7in g\u00fcn belirlendi.<\/p>\n Bu saatten sonra k\u0131z evi art\u0131k ( ka\u00e7\u0131r\u0131l\u0131p getirildi\u011fi ev oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in) bizim evimiz olmu\u015ftu. Xabze gere\u011fi babam kendi k\u0131z\u0131n\u0131 evlendiriyor gibi her t\u00fcrl\u00fc sorumlulu\u011fu \u00fcstlendi. Nik\u00e2h k\u0131y\u0131ld\u0131 ve k\u0131z Kayseri\u2019den k\u00f6ye, bizim eve getirildi.<\/p>\n Ka\u00e7\u0131r\u0131lan k\u0131za en ufak bir gariplik hissettirilmeden kendi babas\u0131n\u0131n evinden \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor gibi d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc yap\u0131larak gelin edildi. K\u0131z her zaman bizim aileyi kendi ailesi, baba oca\u011f\u0131 gibi kabul ederdi. Geldi\u011fi zamanda \u00f6z k\u0131z\u0131m\u0131z gibi sayg\u0131da ve hizmette kusur etmezdi.<\/p>\n Fakat itiraf edeyim ki, her ne kadar k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcm\u00fczde varsa da bana \u00e7ok ho\u015f gelmemi\u015fti. Ne kadar ilgilenirsen ilgilen, ne kadar sahiplenirsen sahiplen yinede k\u0131zda bir eziklik oluyordu. Gen\u00e7lerin ne olursa olsun ka\u00e7mak yerine sabredip beklemelerini her zaman tercih ederim.<\/p>\n KA\u00c7AN KIZIN A\u0130LES\u0130YLE BARI\u015eTIRILMASI WORDIM Müzeyyen Kip Gelin olup giden kızın ailesi aradan üç-beş ay geçtikten sonra kızlarını ziyaret etmek için erkek evine giderdi. Xabze gereği kızın anne ve babası kesinlikle gitmezdi. Kardeşleri, yenge, hala, teyze vs gibi yakınları ile misafir kız olarak kabul edilen akraba ya da komşu genç kızlar giderdi. Damat evinde birkaç gün misafir olarak kalırlardı. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_bbp_topic_count":0,"_bbp_reply_count":0,"_bbp_total_topic_count":0,"_bbp_total_reply_count":0,"_bbp_voice_count":0,"_bbp_anonymous_reply_count":0,"_bbp_topic_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_reply_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_forum_subforum_count":0,"ocean_post_layout":"","ocean_both_sidebars_style":"","ocean_both_sidebars_content_width":0,"ocean_both_sidebars_sidebars_width":0,"ocean_sidebar":"0","ocean_second_sidebar":"0","ocean_disable_margins":"enable","ocean_add_body_class":"","ocean_shortcode_before_top_bar":"","ocean_shortcode_after_top_bar":"","ocean_shortcode_before_header":"","ocean_shortcode_after_header":"","ocean_has_shortcode":"","ocean_shortcode_after_title":"","ocean_shortcode_before_footer_widgets":"","ocean_shortcode_after_footer_widgets":"","ocean_shortcode_before_footer_bottom":"","ocean_shortcode_after_footer_bottom":"","ocean_display_top_bar":"default","ocean_display_header":"default","ocean_header_style":"","ocean_center_header_left_menu":"0","ocean_custom_header_template":"0","ocean_custom_logo":0,"ocean_custom_retina_logo":0,"ocean_custom_logo_max_width":0,"ocean_custom_logo_tablet_max_width":0,"ocean_custom_logo_mobile_max_width":0,"ocean_custom_logo_max_height":0,"ocean_custom_logo_tablet_max_height":0,"ocean_custom_logo_mobile_max_height":0,"ocean_header_custom_menu":"0","ocean_menu_typo_font_family":"0","ocean_menu_typo_font_subset":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_size":0,"ocean_menu_typo_font_size_tablet":0,"ocean_menu_typo_font_size_mobile":0,"ocean_menu_typo_font_size_unit":"px","ocean_menu_typo_font_weight":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_weight_tablet":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_weight_mobile":"","ocean_menu_typo_transform":"","ocean_menu_typo_transform_tablet":"","ocean_menu_typo_transform_mobile":"","ocean_menu_typo_line_height":0,"ocean_menu_typo_line_height_tablet":0,"ocean_menu_typo_line_height_mobile":0,"ocean_menu_typo_line_height_unit":"","ocean_menu_typo_spacing":0,"ocean_menu_typo_spacing_tablet":0,"ocean_menu_typo_spacing_mobile":0,"ocean_menu_typo_spacing_unit":"","ocean_menu_link_color":"","ocean_menu_link_color_hover":"","ocean_menu_link_color_active":"","ocean_menu_link_background":"","ocean_menu_link_hover_background":"","ocean_menu_link_active_background":"","ocean_menu_social_links_bg":"","ocean_menu_social_hover_links_bg":"","ocean_menu_social_links_color":"","ocean_menu_social_hover_links_color":"","ocean_disable_title":"default","ocean_disable_heading":"default","ocean_post_title":"","ocean_post_subheading":"","ocean_post_title_style":"","ocean_post_title_background_color":"","ocean_post_title_background":0,"ocean_post_title_bg_image_position":"","ocean_post_title_bg_image_attachment":"","ocean_post_title_bg_image_repeat":"","ocean_post_title_bg_image_size":"","ocean_post_title_height":0,"ocean_post_title_bg_overlay":0.5,"ocean_post_title_bg_overlay_color":"","ocean_disable_breadcrumbs":"default","ocean_breadcrumbs_color":"","ocean_breadcrumbs_separator_color":"","ocean_breadcrumbs_links_color":"","ocean_breadcrumbs_links_hover_color":"","ocean_display_footer_widgets":"default","ocean_display_footer_bottom":"default","ocean_custom_footer_template":"0","ocean_post_oembed":"","ocean_post_self_hosted_media":"","ocean_post_video_embed":"","ocean_link_format":"","ocean_link_format_target":"self","ocean_quote_format":"","ocean_quote_format_link":"post","ocean_gallery_link_images":"off","ocean_gallery_id":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[119],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8561","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-edebiyat-sohbetleri","entry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8561","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8561"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8561\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":24777,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8561\/revisions\/24777"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8561"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8561"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8561"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\n<\/b>
\nUzunyayla\u2019da k\u0131z ka\u00e7\u0131rma \u00e7ok s\u0131k olmasa da bazen ya\u015fan\u0131rd\u0131. Genellikle evlenmeleri b\u00fcy\u00fckleri taraf\u0131ndan kabul edilemeyecek ya da \u00f6n\u00fcnde ablalar\u0131 olan k\u0131zlarda ka\u00e7ma olay\u0131 olurdu.<\/p>\n
\n<\/b>
\nKa\u00e7an k\u0131z\u0131 ailesiyle bar\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmak i\u00e7in be\u015f-alt\u0131 ay sonra ailesine haber verilirdi. Genellikle bu kadar k\u0131sa s\u00fcrede bar\u0131\u015fmaya k\u0131z aileleri pek yana\u015fmazd\u0131. Hatta seneleri ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 durumlarda olurdu. Fakat uzunca bir zamandan sonra araya giren ki\u015filerin hat\u0131r\u0131na k\u0131z taraf\u0131 bar\u0131\u015fmay\u0131 kabul ederdi. Nihayet k\u0131z kendi evine gidebilirdi.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"