{"id":8565,"date":"2022-12-05T15:06:13","date_gmt":"2022-12-05T21:06:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/circassiancenter.com\/tr\/?p=8565"},"modified":"2022-12-05T15:08:03","modified_gmt":"2022-12-05T21:08:03","slug":"uzunyaylada-kiz-isteme-ve-nikah-torenleri-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/uzunyaylada-kiz-isteme-ve-nikah-torenleri-2\/","title":{"rendered":"UZUNYAYLA\u2019DA KIZ \u0130STEME VE N\u0130K\u00c2H T\u00d6RENLER\u0130"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Wordum M\u00fczeyyen<\/strong><\/p>\n

A\u011fabeylerimiz ya da ablalar\u0131m\u0131z evlenmeye karar verdikleri zaman gelin veya damat adaylar\u0131 ile sanki b\u00fcy\u00fcklerin haberi yokmu\u015f gibi g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr\u00fcl\u00fcrd\u00fc. K\u00f6ye gelen damat aday\u0131 k\u0131z\u0131n yak\u0131n bir akrabas\u0131 ile gecenin \u00e7ok ge\u00e7 olmayan saatlerinde k\u0131z\u0131n evine buyururdu. Birka\u00e7 ki\u015finin de oldu\u011fu bir sohbette k\u0131z ile erkek birbirini tan\u0131ma f\u0131rsat\u0131 bulurdu. Biz \u00e7ocuklar damat aday\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7ok merak ederdik fakat onu g\u00f6rmemize izin verilmezdi. Gelin aday\u0131 ve arkada\u015flar\u0131 ertesi g\u00fcn konuyu konu\u015furken bizlerde belki duyma \u015fans\u0131 bulup, t\u00fcm merak\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 gidermi\u015f olurduk.<\/span><\/p>\n

Bahsetti\u011fim y\u0131llarda k\u0131z istemeye \u00f6zellikle hat\u0131r\u0131 say\u0131l\u0131 ki\u015filer gitsin istenirdi. K\u0131z\u0131n e\u011fer babas\u0131ndan b\u00fcy\u00fck amcas\u0131 var ise k\u0131z amcadan da istenebilirdi. Genelliklede babadan de\u011fil de amcadan istenirdi. K\u0131z istendikten sonra olup olmayaca\u011f\u0131 aile i\u00e7erisinde isti\u015fare edilip ona g\u00f6re davran\u0131l\u0131rd\u0131. K\u0131z\u0131n ailesi \u201cbizim k\u0131z\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 isteyenler var\u201d \u015feklinde ortalarda s\u00f6zler s\u00f6ylemezdi. Bu sayede olumsuz bir durumda damat aday\u0131n\u0131n rencide edilmesine izin verilmemi\u015f olunurdu. Damat kabul g\u00f6rd\u00fc ise nik\u00e2h i\u00e7in aileler bir tarih belirlerdi. Bundan sonras\u0131nda aileye yak\u0131n bir gen\u00e7 taraf\u0131ndan akraba, e\u015f-dost ve k\u00f6yl\u00fc bilgilendirilip nik\u00e2ha buyur edilirdi.<\/p>\n

Nik\u00e2h davetine (k\u00f6ydeki yak\u0131n akraba d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda olan ailelerden) aile i\u00e7inden sadece bir ki\u015finin gitmesi uygun olurdu. Genelliklede nik\u00e2h davetine evin reisi olan erkek kat\u0131l\u0131rd\u0131.<\/p>\n

Nik\u00e2h\u0131 k\u0131y\u0131lacak k\u0131z s\u00f6z verildikten sonra amcas\u0131, babas\u0131 gibi yak\u0131nlar\u0131na pek g\u00f6z\u00fckmezdi. Nik\u00e2h\u0131n olaca\u011f\u0131 g\u00fcn ise evinde kalmaz arkada\u015flar\u0131 ile birlikte yak\u0131n bir arkada\u015f\u0131na veya kom\u015fusuna giderdi.<\/p>\n

Nik\u00e2h k\u0131y\u0131laca\u011f\u0131 g\u00fcn\u00fcn ak\u015fam\u0131nda k\u0131z evine yemek yenecek \u015fekilde gidilirdi. K\u0131z evinde k\u00f6y\u00fcn thamadeleri erkenden toplan\u0131r misafirleri kar\u015f\u0131lamak i\u00e7in beklerdi. Misafirler geldikten sonra tan\u0131\u015fmalar, sohbetler edilir kahveler i\u00e7ilirdi. Thamade odas\u0131na yap\u0131lacak olan hizmetlerde damad\u0131n erkek karde\u015fi yard\u0131mc\u0131 olup, oturmaks\u0131z\u0131n ayakta beklerdi.<\/p>\n

Gelen grup i\u00e7erisindeki bayanlar nik\u00e2h\u0131 k\u0131y\u0131lacak olan k\u0131z\u0131n yan\u0131na gidip onu g\u00f6r\u00fcrlerdi. (Daha eski zamanlarda nik\u00e2ha damat evinden k\u0131zlar gitmezdi. Fakat zamanla baz\u0131 yerlerde k\u0131zlarda gitmeye ba\u015flad\u0131.)<\/p>\n

Gelin aday\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fcklerin kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131na \u00e7\u0131kmad\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan nik\u00e2h\u0131n k\u0131y\u0131lmas\u0131 i\u00e7in bir erke\u011fe vek\u00e2let vermesi gerekirdi. Bu ki\u015finin k\u0131z\u0131n iyi tan\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131 biri olmas\u0131na \u00f6zen g\u00f6sterilirdi. K\u0131z\u0131n hemen kabul etmesi \u00e7ok ho\u015f kar\u015f\u0131lanmazd\u0131, o y\u00fczden biraz naz yaparak vek\u00e2let vermesi beklenirdi<\/p>\n

Nik\u00e2h k\u0131y\u0131ld\u0131ktan sonra \u015ferbetler i\u00e7ilip, damat evinden gelen lokum-bisk\u00fcvi ve sigaralar konuklara da\u011f\u0131t\u0131l\u0131rd\u0131. Daha sonra \u201cn\u0131\u015f\u201d (nikah yeme\u011fi) yenilirdi. Nik\u00e2h i\u00e7in gelen konuklar \u00e7ok ge\u00e7 saate kalmadan k\u00f6yden ayr\u0131l\u0131rd\u0131.<\/p>\n

Nik\u00e2h t\u00f6reninden sonra her iki tarafa da g\u00f6zayd\u0131nlar\u0131 verilirdi. Nik\u00e2h i\u00e7in tebrikte bulunmayanlara k\u0131rg\u0131nl\u0131klar hissettirilirdi. K\u0131z\u0131n onuruna yak\u0131n akrabalar\u0131, kom\u015fular\u0131 ve arkada\u015flar\u0131 yemek davetleri verirdi.<\/p>\n

Gelin olacak k\u0131z kendisine ait e\u015fyalardan ( elbise, ayakkab\u0131, terlik vs gibi) baz\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 yeni evine g\u00f6t\u00fcrmez arkada\u015flar\u0131na hediye ederdi.<\/p>\n

Nik\u00e2h ile d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn aras\u0131 \u00e7ok uzun tutulmazd\u0131. Damad\u0131n ailesine yak\u0131n birisi k\u0131z\u0131n ailesi ile d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn tarihini konu\u015fur ve kesin tarihi al\u0131p d\u00f6nerdi. Evlenecek olan gen\u00e7lere d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn tarihi sorulmazd\u0131. D\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn tarihi, onlar i\u00e7inde bir s\u00fcrpriz olurdu.<\/p>\n

Not: Bahsetti\u011fim d\u00f6nemlerde yani 1960-80 aras\u0131 y\u0131llarda ba\u015fl\u0131k paras\u0131 al\u0131n\u0131rd\u0131. \u00d6zellikle 80\u2019li y\u0131llardan sonra al\u0131nmamaya ba\u015fland\u0131. Benimde hi\u00e7 onaylamad\u0131\u011f\u0131m bu konu hakk\u0131nda \u00e7okta detay yazmak istemedim. Sadece bir iki sat\u0131rla eskiden var olup \u015fimdilerde tamamen kald\u0131r\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6ylemek isterim.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Wordum Müzeyyen Ağabeylerimiz ya da ablalarımız evlenmeye karar verdikleri zaman gelin veya damat adayları ile sanki büyüklerin haberi yokmuş gibi görüştürülürdü. Köye gelen damat adayı kızın yakın bir akrabası ile gecenin çok geç olmayan saatlerinde kızın evine buyururdu. Birkaç kişinin de olduğu bir sohbette kız ile erkek birbirini tanıma fırsatı bulurdu. Biz çocuklar damat adayını […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_bbp_topic_count":0,"_bbp_reply_count":0,"_bbp_total_topic_count":0,"_bbp_total_reply_count":0,"_bbp_voice_count":0,"_bbp_anonymous_reply_count":0,"_bbp_topic_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_reply_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_forum_subforum_count":0,"ocean_post_layout":"","ocean_both_sidebars_style":"","ocean_both_sidebars_content_width":0,"ocean_both_sidebars_sidebars_width":0,"ocean_sidebar":"0","ocean_second_sidebar":"0","ocean_disable_margins":"enable","ocean_add_body_class":"","ocean_shortcode_before_top_bar":"","ocean_shortcode_after_top_bar":"","ocean_shortcode_before_header":"","ocean_shortcode_after_header":"","ocean_has_shortcode":"","ocean_shortcode_after_title":"","ocean_shortcode_before_footer_widgets":"","ocean_shortcode_after_footer_widgets":"","ocean_shortcode_before_footer_bottom":"","ocean_shortcode_after_footer_bottom":"","ocean_display_top_bar":"default","ocean_display_header":"default","ocean_header_style":"","ocean_center_header_left_menu":"0","ocean_custom_header_template":"0","ocean_custom_logo":0,"ocean_custom_retina_logo":0,"ocean_custom_logo_max_width":0,"ocean_custom_logo_tablet_max_width":0,"ocean_custom_logo_mobile_max_width":0,"ocean_custom_logo_max_height":0,"ocean_custom_logo_tablet_max_height":0,"ocean_custom_logo_mobile_max_height":0,"ocean_header_custom_menu":"0","ocean_menu_typo_font_family":"0","ocean_menu_typo_font_subset":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_size":0,"ocean_menu_typo_font_size_tablet":0,"ocean_menu_typo_font_size_mobile":0,"ocean_menu_typo_font_size_unit":"px","ocean_menu_typo_font_weight":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_weight_tablet":"","ocean_menu_typo_font_weight_mobile":"","ocean_menu_typo_transform":"","ocean_menu_typo_transform_tablet":"","ocean_menu_typo_transform_mobile":"","ocean_menu_typo_line_height":0,"ocean_menu_typo_line_height_tablet":0,"ocean_menu_typo_line_height_mobile":0,"ocean_menu_typo_line_height_unit":"","ocean_menu_typo_spacing":0,"ocean_menu_typo_spacing_tablet":0,"ocean_menu_typo_spacing_mobile":0,"ocean_menu_typo_spacing_unit":"","ocean_menu_link_color":"","ocean_menu_link_color_hover":"","ocean_menu_link_color_active":"","ocean_menu_link_background":"","ocean_menu_link_hover_background":"","ocean_menu_link_active_background":"","ocean_menu_social_links_bg":"","ocean_menu_social_hover_links_bg":"","ocean_menu_social_links_color":"","ocean_menu_social_hover_links_color":"","ocean_disable_title":"default","ocean_disable_heading":"default","ocean_post_title":"","ocean_post_subheading":"","ocean_post_title_style":"","ocean_post_title_background_color":"","ocean_post_title_background":0,"ocean_post_title_bg_image_position":"","ocean_post_title_bg_image_attachment":"","ocean_post_title_bg_image_repeat":"","ocean_post_title_bg_image_size":"","ocean_post_title_height":0,"ocean_post_title_bg_overlay":0.5,"ocean_post_title_bg_overlay_color":"","ocean_disable_breadcrumbs":"default","ocean_breadcrumbs_color":"","ocean_breadcrumbs_separator_color":"","ocean_breadcrumbs_links_color":"","ocean_breadcrumbs_links_hover_color":"","ocean_display_footer_widgets":"default","ocean_display_footer_bottom":"default","ocean_custom_footer_template":"0","ocean_post_oembed":"","ocean_post_self_hosted_media":"","ocean_post_video_embed":"","ocean_link_format":"","ocean_link_format_target":"self","ocean_quote_format":"","ocean_quote_format_link":"post","ocean_gallery_link_images":"off","ocean_gallery_id":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[119],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8565","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-edebiyat-sohbetleri","entry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8565","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8565"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8565\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":31333,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8565\/revisions\/31333"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8565"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8565"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.circassiancenter.com\/tr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8565"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}